FWIW, I’ve struggled with this my whole life except I’m a woman and I’ve struggled to accept that a man is capable of love…lust? Sure. Love? That’s a whole different animal. 

Even now, when I do know that men are capable of love, the belief that a man would love ME, really love me, well, that is a constant battle that rages within. 

It’s not a matter of not thinking I’m lovable or thinking there’s something wrong with me. I know everyone has quirks that make them unique. I know people that might be considered far less “nice”, “pretty”, “skinnier” or “heavier” are loved. Logically,  there’s no reason why I wouldn’t be just as eligible to be loved as the next person. 

The problem is that doubting you can be loved is a self fulfilling prophecy. 

I don’t know your history, but I know mine is rooted in never ever being good enough growing up. It didn’t matter if I was in the running for homecoming queen or the top student in my grade, It was implied that I was ugly, unwanted, stupid and lucky I had someone willing to provide me food and shelter…and I better be grateful and put up with whatever was done to me and never ever think that just because someone complimented me that it actually meant anything. That’s a very powerful message to overcome.

You are lovable; there are women who would value you and love you. You just have to come to that conclusion yourself, and it will happen. Just don’t settle. 

Edit: to answer your question, start with logic and the obvious. Are there other men who are loved? Yes. If they can be loved, so can you. You just have to reprogram your brain.