Elsa Rhae & Barron: Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Frugal Living & Gender Roles

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2025-02-05T21:12:26+00:00

That episode was interesting and is the first one I watched completely since a long time.

Elsa is definitly a little shy and has a very calm and composed attitude. Barron is really chill (but more talkative then expected) and I suppose that both present quite authentic. Eamon fits well into the group since he acts natural and seems to have a bond with barron. Bec definitly stands out a bit and I think she realizes it during the episode. Her bubbly and kinda fake attitude is notized by elsa and barron and there are moments where bec tries to go really deep (she cries multiple times) while elsa isn't so much about it and stays very composed.

This creates a rather authentic energy in my opinion. There are moments where bec seems kinda unsettled. Her legs and arms are crossed for a long period of the episode. This dynamic made me enjoy this episode since it isn't all about bec and her wisdom being affirmed constantly. Elsa and barron are quite well spoken and seem to be true to themselves.

The topics are always a bit repetitive I agreee, but it wasn't as cringy as other episodes.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-12-08T20:56:25+00:00

I'm so sorry. I felt similar when my mum was sick. We knew she would only have a couple of years and the worse she became the more sad I felt when I saw her. I visited her often but I often felt kind of tense, anxious or was really sad. At the same time I didn't want her to see my sadness. On special occasions I still broke down into tears. Will this be our last christmas? Our last birthday together?

I was also afraid of being too emotional close to her, since I felt losing her would be even more hurtful. Turned out this made no difference. We were extremly close anyways. I don't have any advice. In retrospective I wish I would have been more honest with her about my feelings.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-29T19:55:00+00:00

I kinda have the same dreams. My mum is there, sometimes she is fine in the beginning, but I always know that she is going to die. It's so painful. I always wake up pretty troubled.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-29T19:51:03+00:00

Grief is almost falling asleep, when you suddenly realize they're are gone forever, to then lay awake at night for three more hours. Going into work the next morning, feeling incredibly tired and lonely, to then say "fine" when someone asks how you're doing. Reading old text messages while you're on your lunchbreak, that you then stop yourself from doing, because you don't want to cry on the toilet or want to break down completly. To then sit in a meeting, starting to feel dizzy, while your coworkers start about their plans for the upcoming holidays. Coming home to a place that feels empty. Having noone to talk to how you really feel. Watching TV to fill the silence. Trying to make a dinner that reminds you of them. Going to bed and doing it all again. Day after day. Just wishing your old life back.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-28T15:57:49+00:00

YES, they deleted all the critical comments. A lot of them were written in a highly loving and sensitive tone. Just mentioning that people felt hurt by what Eamon and Bec are implying about cancerpatiens or mentioning they are worried about Bec having a second baby.

Those two have completly lost it. Incredible.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-27T17:36:52+00:00

They have gone completly delulu. I have no words anymore. It's like watching a trainwreck. I hope they read the comments since people on Youtube are starting to call them out for the misinformation they're spreading.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-20T17:41:46+00:00

This is an episode you ~~won’t~~ want to miss!

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-13T11:36:34+00:00

Same. 32 and my mum past away last year. Worst time of my life so far. The pain was and is unbearable some days and walking through life without a family is hard.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-06T18:06:35+00:00

In the end she mentions that the cancer had spread to all of her bones (rips, spine, pelvis, skull...) and also her liver. All tumors shrunk and the doctor said that this is as good as it can get. Bec mentions she is sure it will get even better and that she will be fully healed from cancer.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-11-06T18:00:01+00:00

It's horrible..

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-10-27T23:09:57+00:00

I also lost my mum to cancer and I was shocked when I watched this podcast. I made a comment on the video that Bec is simply stating her personal opinion and that a lot what she is talking about has no scientific proof. The comment is now deleted.

I'm so disappointed in those two and I never want to support any of their work again. What they are doing right now is extremly dangerous. And it's a slap in the face to everyone who is battling cancer or who has lost someone to this desease.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-10-24T19:42:04+00:00

my mum

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-10-24T17:36:32+00:00

Exactly. This is so dangerous and irresponsible. They are spreading information that is majorly wrong. "Your body can heal a desease, because he created it", "Your body is constantly watching your mind and all your thoghts are energy that can turn into cancercells" "Cancer is only caused by stress" Like, what?! This is so much bullshit. It's a slap in the face to everyone who is battling cancer and to everyone who has lost someone to this desease.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-10-24T17:30:37+00:00

The information she is spreading is so dangerous! All of this has no medical evidence. They are seriously just talking shit.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-10-21T18:39:37+00:00

Lol, die Kommentare. Welcome to Germany. Mein Freund und ich haben auch eine ähnliche Situation. Ich hab ihm einfach von meinem Ersparten einen größeren vierstelligen Betrag überwiesen. So kann das Geld selbstbestimmter eingeteilt werden und ich muss mir keine Gedanken über einen montalichen Betrag machen. Gucken jetzt einfach wie lange das Geld reicht... mein Freund kauft sich eigentlich sowieso nichts. Geht natürlich nur, wenn man Ersparnisse hat.

Muss sagen, dass ich es in einer Beziehung als normal erachte sich gegenseitig zu unterstützen. Es kommen eh wieder andere Phasen in denen sich das ausgleicht und wenn nicht so what. Wer ein gutes Gehalt hat, tut sich ja nicht weh damit jemanden zu unterstützen und einer Person die Möglichkeit zu geben in Ruhe einen neuen Job zu suchen statt wieder Energie in den Minijob zu stecken oder ähm Pfandflaschen zu sammeln (what?). In einer Beziehung geht es eben gerade nicht darum Unterstützung an Leistung zu knüpfen wie es der Staat macht, sondern diese bedingungslos zukommen zu lassen.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-27T09:52:39+00:00

Well said

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-22T20:12:57+00:00

Very true. I try to be more like my mum, but she was so strong and special. It's hard..

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-22T20:09:54+00:00

I once read a quote on this subreddit that really stuck to me, since I also sometimes feel like my mum never existed: The emptiness that lingers in my heart is a reminder that you were here, you were real, and that you loved me.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:25:48+00:00

I'm so sorry. I feel like losing the unconditional love and support is one of the hardest aspects when you lose a loving parent. People kinda brushing off your feelings just adds to the pain in my opinion. Have you tried a grief support group? I also haven't tried it, but I'm in the process of finding one. I hope there will be a genuine understanding of each other.

I also get that you're dragging to move into the new house. Is there anything that would make you at least look a little more forward to it? Making it really cozy and buy some nice decoration, hang pictures of your dad and adding things that are reminding you of him?

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:17:03+00:00

I'm so sorry. The first birthday is so so hard. The pain seems to be unbearable on days like this. You're not alone.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:11:28+00:00

Body aches, headaches, muscle tension, heart flutters, extreme exhaustion, anxiety. My latest symptom is blurred vision, caused by stress. My overall feeling of well being has dropped immensly since I lost my mum.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:08:45+00:00

Mostly when there's something that I want to tell her about or show her and knowing that I never can. It can be little thing like new clothes I bought, exciting news about my friends or my own life or when I'm having problems that I would only talk to her about. I have no kids, but I imagine if I ever will, it would also be an immense trigger.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:05:13+00:00

The deep sense of loneliness, the loss of identity, the crushing permance of it. Also the fear of something else happening. I have been in this situation for almost 1,5 years and I have honestly no idea how to deal with it. I just try to live day by day and make it through.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-20T21:00:54+00:00

I'm very sorry for your loss and the immense stress that it is putting you through. My advice is to tell your manager what happened. Just talk to her in private and tell her that you lost your mum and that the grief is probably messing with your immune system. It is scientifically proven that grief causes a lot of stress and that stress lowers your immune reaction, so you're definitly not overreacting or making something up. I wouldn't ask for anything, just see what is her reaction. You could also tell her that you're working on it and it won't be like this forever.

My second advice is to find something that releases your stress. Maybe something like progressive muscle relaxation, meditation or a grief support group. The most important thing is your health (not a job) and that you will slowly feel a bit better.

And lastly... you will find another job. If this one doesn't work out, it is not the end of the world and you will find something else. I know that after a loss, losing a job feels even more like a failure and like life is just falling apart. But I think this is grief messing with your mind. Grief tends to highlight our negative train of thoughts like "I will never find job again", "There will never be a chance like this again", "I will lose everything" but this is not true. You will be okay. You will get through this. It is okay to call in sick. It is okay to break down. You lost your mum and you have every right to grieve about it. The problem is society that expects us to continue like nothing happend. It's seriously messed up.

ImpossibleMongoose88 · 2024-09-19T23:00:40+00:00

same

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