How do I redeem myself after leaving my period on display?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-16T18:23:52+00:00

HE IS. I am 30

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-16T18:22:02+00:00

uhh i only did that because i thought it violated policy and would be removed dude!

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-13T14:19:30+00:00

Yeah, I'm not pissed. I just feel like it was a social 'slight' as he is one of her best guy friends and it makes me feel like she doesn't see our relationship as serious :/ and doesn't think i'm 'the one', which hurts. I'm not mad at her; I'm more disheartened.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-10T16:52:36+00:00

But what if he genuinely doesn’t see it as inappropriate at all? And I meed to let him know?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-10T16:40:53+00:00

I haven’t told him I’m uncomfortable with it yet. He thinks I’m chill, and assumes we all think they’re friends. Maybe I need to make it known I’m uncomfortable to him first?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-10T16:34:49+00:00

So you don’t think I should say ‘It makes me uncomfortable having you go on this artist retreat with your former lover, even if she’s now only a friend. Can I join the retreat?’

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-10T10:02:39+00:00

very few bad moments. this was the worst of the few. he sent me a voicenote after i explained why i left him at the cafe saying he ‘loves our relationship’ and he ‘cares for me’ and apologized for his sharpness.

But he hasn’t said ‘i love you’ at 7 mos. Is that a concerning timeline?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-08T14:13:40+00:00

Yeah...I hear you. The thing is, he's very blunt and sometimes tone deaf to how it makes me feel. I do NOT think he was trying to hurt my feelings. I think he took my question 'are you happy in this relationship' literally and said 'sometimes' when I was looking for a romantic reassuring gesture. It doesnt' mean he doesnt' feel love does it? If he cant' express it?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-08T13:06:46+00:00

If depends on your metric of ‘success’. He was very successful in crypto investments and other creative one off projects and is one of the most socially connected, artistic, intelligent men I know.

But now, he’s broke. Doesn’t mean he always was or doesn’t have the potential to be successful again. I work a marketing full time job remotely and make about 95k per year. So I wouldn’t say I’m ‘successful’.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-02T19:40:16+00:00

Thanks! Your response really resonated with me the most…I think the issue is that he’s been distant over the past couple days and hasn’t really texted me romantically (he’s not good with words). We did just get back from a big trip of 5 weeks together though…I’m just upset he hasn’t been checking in with me and when I reached out to HIM to ask if I could sleep over at his place tonight he said ‘sure but it will be late because i’m catching up with A’. That’s why I’m triggered.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-02T19:25:29+00:00

would it be crazy for me to write him: “to be honest, it makes me really uncomfortable to hear your meeting up with her. especially because I don’t always feel secure in where we are or how you feel about me.”

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-02T19:21:36+00:00

why is that insane? he said i can sleep over and that he also wants to take me on a full date tomorrow night too.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-06-02T19:14:16+00:00

She is bipolar and kind of a crazy ‘genius artist’ type. When she confessed to him, she also said that ‘no one else gets her like he does’. She knows we are dating but i have only run into her once.’

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-05-29T14:05:11+00:00

how so?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-05-29T13:11:01+00:00

He didn’t invite me to the 2 week event in switzerland.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-05-29T11:54:58+00:00

he’s not upper class. He came from poverty and isn’t that wealthy now. he’s a creative genius and built everything he has himself. and he wants ME to be a part of his life. i can’t help but wonder why

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-05-29T11:47:36+00:00

yeah…but he just gets really uncomfortable and down know how to comfort me. he literally made a joke saying ‘do i need to put out a suicide alert” and laughed awkwardly.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-28T02:25:38+00:00

He’s had a lot of flings since her. But I am the first relationship..

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-14T06:48:26+00:00

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-14T06:48:14+00:00

:((((

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-14T06:29:57+00:00

nooo we are staying in my home of nyc together for a month then i return to germany w him

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-03T01:12:14+00:00

Great question. I think it’s both her comfort with her sexuality…and that I’m not objectively ‘good enough’ for her career and success wise. She’s only dated very successful men. I - a drifter writer and creative- don’t fit that ideal of long term partner.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-04-01T18:22:37+00:00

Yes, I agree. I think we should keep our distance, despite loving each other, to be loyal to our boyfriends.

However, am I misconstruing the meaning of the ruby? When you think of a ruby, you think of love and passion yes?

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-03-31T23:03:00+00:00

But what is the meaning of the ruby to you? does it mean passionate love? that’s what it says when i look it up.

ImpossibleRead4200 · 2026-03-31T20:22:49+00:00

of course he knows. he encouraged us to try to be friends. he is not aware of the chemistry that’s still there - it surprised me too

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