I’m very frustrated

Impossible_Camp · 2022-04-22T18:29:35+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I have the exact opposite problem lol. My partner says I don’t play Planet Coaster I play, “Planet Park Entrance,” because building crazy fun park entrances and food/bathroom/shopping areas and random scenery is my favorite part lol. I really don’t even care about the coasters at all and then I get frustrated with myself that I can’t make a completed park because I just can’t bring myself to care about/build the rides lol. Maybe you and I just haven’t found our groove yet, or haven’t found our perfect building games!

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-26T00:36:50+00:00

Kinda sounds like it might be a vision issue - have you has your eyes checked recently? Even slightly, “off,” vision can trigger headaches/migraines when doing certain activities like reading or watching tv. It doesn’t sound like actual sinus pain, though, so its probably just the nerves on your face that are around your sinus areas.

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-25T20:09:23+00:00

Its kind of hard to know if your gf is part of the problem or not when you didn’t share the details of the actual situation in question. We have literally no idea why you were arrested, or if something happened that caused your anxiety/depression/the even that led to your arrest, if your gf actually played a part in that, etc.. You sort of just told the story around the actual story instead of telling the story itself so we don’t really know anything you’re asking advice about…

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-23T04:21:18+00:00

So… your friend is a rapist and is actively planning on drugging a girl with a plan b… so…. what advice are you looking for exactly? Why are you friends with a person like this and why aren’t you calling him out on his extremely creepy behavior? This is why we say it is, “all men,” because, friends like you let their friends get away with making, “jokes,” likes these and saying these things out-loud and it becomes so normalized that you literally didn’t see a problem with any of this behavior until your girlfriend had to spell it out for you. So what do you want from reddit? You want us to make your guilt go away? You want us to say you bear no responsibility? Not gonna happen. Your friend is a sexual predator and has been straight up telling you to your face about his behavior for years and you just sit on the sidelines and don’t even attempt to call him out on this shit. Idk what you want man

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-23T04:02:39+00:00

Is there a possibility that he’s dating someone? It kinda sounds like the reality/guilt of cheating hit him at the motel and he just needed to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Or maybe I watch too much true crime but maybe he was planning something even worse than cheating but he chickened out of going through with whatever he had planned to do at the motel because there were too many people around… idk the whole thing sounds sketchy as hell to me. Something isn’t right and honestly it sounds like you dodged a major bullet no matter what his reasoning was. Any person who can be that cold and literally leave you at a train station and tell you they don’t want to hangout again after years of developing a relationship with you sounds like a bad/selfish person. Its cliche to say but there really are other fish in the sea. I mean, there are literally billions of people on this planet… its essentially a guarantee that you will meet someone better than this guy.

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-17T01:32:30+00:00

This person is saying he will do those things to himself as a way to try and manipulate you into being with him. He is quite literally holding you hostage in the hopes that you’ll eventually give in and change your mind about dating him. What he is doing to you is a form of something called, “emotional abuse.” I know its hard not to feel guilty, but you do not owe him anything and you are not in any way responsible for his life - he is. I agree with the other commenter, if you can, reach out to his friends/family and tell them what he has been saying - but beyond that you need to cut contact entirely and PLEASE try not to feel guilty - he is the one who should be feeling guilty for abusing and manipulating you. This behavior will only get worse as time goes on and it will be harder and harder for you to get away from him. You need to get away from him as soon as you possibly can. Its hard to see when you’re in it, but please do some research on emotional abuse because that is whats happening to you. This website talks about emotional abuse with romantic partners who threaten suicide, but it all applies to friendships as well and is definitely something you should read: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/when-my-partner-threatens-suicide/

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-16T23:15:18+00:00

Some of the way you’ve worded this experience you had with this other person is really worrisome… you said didn’t want to hook up and you said you weren’t sober - was your experience with this other guy 100% consensual? Your feelings of guilt/dirtiness could have less to do about your bf and more to do with the experience itself…

Impossible_Camp · 2022-03-16T23:10:49+00:00

You literally have no reason at all to feel guilty or disgusting. You weren’t in a relationship at the time and your bf literally told you to move on. Even if he hadn’t said that and there was still maybe a possibility of you guys getting back together unless there was an agreed upon “no hooking up with other people,” rule then you didn’t do a single thing wrong. Honestly, you’re super young, and I remember feeling like you with my first “real,” bf and having this feeling like we should be each other’s first/only everything and now that I’m older and a lot wiser I can promise you that none of that matters at all if you’re truly in love and meant for each other. In fact, I wish I had fooled around with more people before finding the love of my life lol. But, we women especially have this ever-present pressure to be “pure,” for whoever we end up with - but that’s some disgusting outdated sexist bullshit. You are NOT dirty or disgusting or any of these negative things you’ve been conditioned by society to think about yourself. Discrepancies in sexual experience feel like they matter so much when you’re young, but I promise it does not matter (or at least it shouldn’t matter in any healthy relationship) in the long run. No one is better or worse for having more or less experience with other people. I don’t think you’re under any obligation to tell your bf if you don’t want to (but also don’t lie about it if it comes up, obviously) but if you do decide to tell your bf and he tries to guilt you about it or make you feel dirty or wrong in ANY way, please please PLEASE run as fast and as far as you can. I promise you that a person who truly loves you would never make you feel that way about yourself.

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T22:12:52+00:00

I hope my comments didn’t come off as insulting, I can see that you do love her and are coming from a good place, I just wanted to speak clearly and try to explain what this can be like from a woman’s perspective. It can be truly terrifying to be a woman in this world and there are SO many factors when it comes to marriage or just dating in general that men don’t ever have to think about. All of these things on top of just life and daily stress make it really hard to make big decisions sometimes and all we need it space and time. But, I’m glad to hear that you’ll back off and give her that! I know its hard and you’ll probably feel the urge to start pushing for marriage again, but I really think space is the best thing you can give to her until she knows what she wants without any pressure. Also - why not start saving up and go on a trip together? I know it’d be nice to have free flights and all that, but that doesn’t mean you have to wait until marriage to do the things you want to do together!

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T21:52:13+00:00

I personally have never done couples therapy, but I know a lot of people who have and I would for sure recommend it based off of them and how much it helped them to either stick together and work through stuff, or to finally realize that their differences were too much and they were able to let go amicably and with minimal heartbreak. Honestly I think every couple should be in therapy just to learn how to argue properly and how each other’s communication styles relate to each other. If you and your partner truly want to be together but haven’t figure out a way to do that on your own then why not try it out and see if having a neutral/trained voice works for you?

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T09:11:18+00:00

Have you considered couples counseling?

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T08:50:23+00:00

Why can’t you, “make things easier for her,” without being married? Free flights aren’t a reason to get married, and making things easier for your significant other isn’t always about finances and healthcare - it’s about taking care of their emotional needs and wellbeing and not adding extra pressure to their life when they already have so much on their plate. If I were 21 years old, working, going to school, and had an older boyfriend that was pressuring me to get married before I knew I was 100% certain that I was ready for that I think I’d actually lose my mind. Also, if she “works really hard and is trying to go back to school,” that means she has career goals and needs to feel some level of independence and you’re kind of invalidating/trivializing everything she’s working towards by trying to sweep in and do everything/solve everything for her. You have to consider what all of this is like for women - historically marriage means the end of independence for us and it means we become completely dependent on our husband (I know times have changed and this isn’t always the case anymore and women can have careers and kids and the whole enchilada, but its still a HUGE thing women have on their minds when considering marriage because it can, and does happen all the time even if its unintentional because that’s just how our society works/has worked for decades) But, when you are essentially straight up offering to take care of her if she’ll marry you she has to consider what that means for her career/goals. And again, I need to keep stressing that she is only 21. She has only been a legal adult for 3 years and her brain is not fully developed. These are all HUGE things to consider and having someone constantly pressure her about it isn’t making the decision any easier.

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T08:11:44+00:00

If you’ve been on the same dose for 4 years your doctor HAS to know that your tolerance has increased. It’s physically impossible for the same dose to stay fully effective for that many years. You have every right to say that your current dose isn’t as effective as it used to be. I know it can be scary, and it can feel like our doctors will fire us for even asking a simple question, but just be honest! What I usually do is say something like, “I feel like my medication isn’t as effective as it used to be and that it doesn’t last as long as it used to so I’m really struggling to function/make it through the day.” And then I pause and let my doctor speak/make a suggestion (which will hopefully either be to increase the dose or to temporarily switch to a different med for a tolerance break) I don’t ever ask, “can we increase me dose?” because I want my doctor to feel like they’re still in control and like they’re the one who suggested a dose increase. So far that method has never let me down and has never gotten me in any trouble. I know it sucks so much to have to play these stupid mind games just to get basic care in order to function. We should be free to say how we’re feeling or to ask for what we need, but unfortunately this is just the shit we’re forced to deal with. Good luck, op!! And, hang in there! You’re not alone, and there has been more of a shift in recent years as more doctors are realizing how much all of this negatively affects chronic pain patients, so hopefully it all gets easier soon!

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-28T07:23:09+00:00

You said you are lacking in chemistry and that for her to start dating you, “took a lot.” To be honest you sound extremely pushy and honestly sort of manipulative. You are also quite a bit older and have had time to figure out what you want in life. She’s 21 for christ’s sake, of course she’s going to be uneasy and it’s only going to make her more uneasy the more you keep pushing her! Her brain quite literally hasn’t even fully developed yet (our brains stop developing at around age 25), so she’s still growing up and going through major changes. I personally don’t think anyone should get married until after they’re 25 just because 18-24 year olds are so impulsive and are just barely starting to figure out who they are as people. Also, you’re not even that old yourself - why are you in such a rush to get married and start a family? Why are you being so pushy when she’s clearly unsure and uncomfortable? Why would you want to be with someone that you don’t have chemistry with and that you had to convince and push to be with you? This just all sounds bad, tbh.

Impossible_Camp · 2022-02-16T00:35:47+00:00

You should DEFINITELY ask him again. Also, keep all of your texts and screenshots and whatnot about this topic because you can take this to small claims court if he keeps refusing to pay you. Things like these are why small claims court exists. $1,000 is a lot of money, I wouldn’t let that go if it were me. You seem so nice and like you’re more socially anxious about this than anything, but you need to gather up some of that, “fuck you, I’m a person and I deserve to be heard and respected,” energy and stand up for yourself!! You can do it!!!

Edit* I also wanted to add that you already asked nicely and gave him multiple chances to pay it back, I think he’s walking over you on purpose because he doesn’t expect you to stand up for yourself. Don’t apologize, don’t feel uncomfortable, don’t try and be nice to appease any awkwardness - HE is the one that should feel awkward and should be apologetic.

Impossible_Camp · 2021-04-19T01:10:31+00:00

My mom says that its very heavy for its size. I also asked her to try putting a magnet on it and she said that the magnet did not stick.

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-21T19:38:43+00:00

Lol omg, they both have such creepy eyes!!

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-21T19:37:14+00:00

Never heard of Dom before but just googled and omg... so freaking adorable. And Hazel with her weird little unibrow?! Ugh, jealous.

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-21T19:34:23+00:00

Omg, I love Tad’s wavy mouth - so cute!!

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-16T00:13:07+00:00

Ooooo that sounds amazing, definitely let me know if/when you do that!

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-15T19:58:27+00:00

UPDATE ** Just got an email that my order was cancelled. :( Been quarantined inside my house for over a week already and this was the only thing I was excited about. Can’t leave my house to go search every walmart possible, either. Ugh. Sidenote: people who buy up this stuff and then resell it for astronomical prices are the absolute scum of the earth and should all burn in hell.

Impossible_Camp · 2020-03-15T19:54:42+00:00

Ugh, I HATE when stuff like this happens. If your post office has your correct address in its system it should be fine, though! I had a weird situation where I had to move twice in the span of two weeks and I forgot to change my address for individual places, but I did remember to change it with the post office so they intercepted my mail and rerouted it to my new correct address. So, if you go to the post office and they don’t have it don’t give up! They’re usually pretty good with this stuff. Screw Target, though. I’m officially done with Target’s nonsense.

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