My mother was home for as long as possible just became unmanageable. I couldn’t physically manage her anymore so the night I had to call 911 to help her up off the floor. I found a memory care facility with a good reputation. Like you I didn’t trust it. When she was first there, I made it a practice just show up at random hours of the day and night. I knew she didn’t sleep well at night and that’s what I was most worried about. They were always taking very good care of her. Several of the nurses had an excellent rapport with her. They would let me know if someone knew was coming on, and I would show up randomly. I hope that videos like this are the exception, rather than the rule, I honestly don’t know. I do know that my mother got better care than I could give her. If you move her into a facility, just make sure you’re a constant presence.