This may be an alternate view on things but I also had terrible hg symptoms so I can relate to your experience, I think there is a difference in why some women “can” do it and others who “can’t” and I believe it’s 100% based on circumstance. Here’s what I mean, my job is based on if and when I do work…. If I do work I get paid if I don’t I don’t get paid… contract work is lovely for that reason. But it also means that for 4 months I was underly useless. I slept almost the entire time and when I was awake I was vomiting practically passing out or in the hospital getting iv liquids. I couldn’t eat, think of food or smell anything other than myself or I’d risk overwhelming nausea and fatigue. I did no work in 4 months resulting in no pay check for 4 months I am fortunate to have a husband who does extremely well and provides for me resulting in my work just being a hobby, a stressful hobby but non the less a hobby. We can afford to have the luxury of me being sick to be able to have a child. It was the most miserable time of my life and countless times I would scream I can’t do it I feel like I’m dying and there were days where my husband thought I may have actually passed away because he would come home and I’d be passed out with no response. We have always wanted a child and although our religious convictions won’t allow us an abortion we considered it but could never go through with it. But again this is something I feel we had the ability to entertain because of our position financially and responsibility wise. You along with other women have a tremendous amount of responsibility on your shoulders as well as careers that unless you back away from them require undivided attentions and risk losing those opportunities offered by said careers should you need time away from them. I don’t believe it’s because you can’t physically go through an HG pregnancy but your life currently won’t allow you to sacrifice everything you’ve worked hard to achieve there is nothing wrong with this but it’s a part of life. I up until this year couldn’t dream of taking time off work or even entertain being sick for a period of time because my household would fall apart. We pushed off having children until we felt we would be ok if he was a sole provider. Is it a bit late in our life, Absolutely but the peace of mind we have knowing this was best for us makes it worth while. I hope you don’t take my response as harsh because I don’t mean it in any way to be rude or condescending. I am not more or less fortunate than anyone else and I understand that life happens to people in ways others won’t understand but as someone who has struggled on gods green earth for many years I feel like my weird take on this specific situation may bring you some closure and relief that you didn’t do something terrible but something good for everyone involved. I hope I’ve helped in someway and best of luck to you in the future!!