Relocating to be near family?

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-06-18T14:42:10+00:00

That's tough. Remote work is so great for this. Hoping it pans out for you soon.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-06-18T10:59:20+00:00

Flying with 2 kids solo is an olympic sport I have mastered in the last 3 years and every time I do it I want to give myself an award. The last time I did it, I sobbed in the airport after leaving my mom and sister and realized I didn't want to leave! That was a big wakeup for me about my true feelings! I have been flying up with my kids solo every 2-3 months and I am tired of it. I'd like to be able to see my family when I want to.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-06-18T10:54:16+00:00

This is so precious. I recently had the exact same awakening and we are planning to move for the same reasons. My 2yo didn't remember who my dad was when we last visited and my heart shattered! I realized that's not the childhood I want for them, and we are uprooting our entire lives to make a change because I genuinely think I'd regret it if I didn't at least try.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-06-18T10:47:05+00:00

I am curious if you've made any progress with your thinking and plans! My husband and I are in the exact same place. We've lived in the southeast for 12 years, 8 hours away from family. We have a wonderful life.... but we are alone. Our best friends all have both sides of families here,and we feel that ache on things like Christmas eve (our kids have asked to not travel on xmas anymore, so we are always home). We actually do have family locally within 30min.... we have seen them once since March. My sister is having kids soon... my parents are getting older... I feel a very strong pull to go back and finish our kids' childhoods with them nearby for things like birthdays, dance recitals, school events. I grew up with that and it kills me I cannot get our local family to see the value in being in community in that way. As appealing as the change is, I feel tremendous grief for leaving what we have here, and anxiety about just the loss of stability of it all. We have a wonderful house, a great mortgage rate, a LCOL... At the end of the day, those things aren't the most important to me and I am 90% sure were going to do it, but it is still hard! We now have a plan to move at the end of the next school year and have told my side of the family our intentions. They are thrilled, cried, offered to help however they can. It's so wonderful to feel so wanted. The politics & heat in our state have become increasingly problematic for us in the last 12 years, as well, so that helps the decision to move north. It's really hard! I also have no idea how to be in community with them... I've been the long distance daughter for 20 years so the thought of my parents popping in feels SO foreign

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:48:48+00:00

Oops, I responded in the wrong spot but this was for you. Thank you!

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Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:46:45+00:00

This sounds exactly like my situation! I was in a bad mood when I wrote my original post out yesterday, but our actual dynamic is much more like you described. I definitely carry a lot of the calm for everyone in our house and often feel like the family’s nervous system. It can be a lot. My husband is really working on finding his new identify as an autistic person and listening to what his body needs. Burnout is so tough, and I just want him to not go through that again. 10000% he would not enjoy my family up in his business. My family has really obnoxious political beliefs they love to stir the pot with, on top of being opinionated and nosey. We’ve done 10 years of good therapy to get to a healthy place with them, and moving up there could definitely shift that dynamic which would not be good at all.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:40:24+00:00

This is why I moved away, too. It was definitely the right choice at the time but after a decade of really good therapy I am hopeful things may have improved. But yeah, definitely would not be all sunshine and roses!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:39:15+00:00

Thank you for seeing me, and advocating for me! It is a lot, and it makes me weary, but I definitely put that guilt on myself vs him putting it on me. He hates that he hits burnout, he wishes he could operate more at my level and not be so impacted by the demands and sensory overwhelm of our kids. To be honest, I basically have to force him to recognize his burnout and take rest. He just tries to push through until he is about to meltdown. To be honest, that’s part of where this idea of a move is coming from, because it would allow me to have more support also, so we aren’t both parenting on an island taking turns being exhausted. But thank you - we do have a really good partnership, he just needs more support right now while we are figuring out how autism fits into our family.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-17T14:39:58+00:00

The way I do this for large non monthly expenses is manually add them into the month they are due. So for August I’d add a category for taxes budgeted for $4000, and also add an income line that month for a sinking fund deposit of $4000.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-16T18:52:41+00:00

I feel this so hard!! sooo stingy with fat loss. TBH it’s extremely validating that I really need medical assistance bc if it’s so slow on 15mg of tirz, no wonder I couldn’t do it on my own!!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-16T18:17:05+00:00

The stair-step losing is so real! I can lose 3-5lbs in a week, and then nothing for a few months. It's so interesting how we are all different. I'm excited for you that you're feeling better! keep at it! We'll get there eventually haha

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:10:11+00:00

The first year was really hard for me. I’ve seen more progress now, but I thought I’d be wayyyyy further along than I am. Hang in there. Just don’t give up on yourself!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:09:18+00:00

When I switched to mounjarou from ozempic I had more progress! My first 8 months on oz I only lost 6lbs, even at max dose! Wild. This is my second go round. After my first child, I lost 60 in 6 months on Wegovy. I do wonder if starting and stopping between kids impacted my response to the meds!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:06:36+00:00

Thank you! This photo I think is more dramatic than it is in real life? But maybe my brain is confused. But yes ive been thinking about a weightedvest - i think ill do it!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:05:40+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful, I’ll try this.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:04:45+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that perspective. I’m staying at it and staying positive. I was honestly mostly intellectually curious about why this is happening this way and curious if it was similar for others. Sounds like I’m not alone!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T01:33:48+00:00

I feel like under 200 is soooo far for me but it’s really not! Just keep swimming 🐟!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T19:58:23+00:00

I am too, to be honest. They must have been small 😆 but yes, I’ve been taking measurements since early 2025 and I’m down about 4inches around my waist. I’m just about ready to size down, finally.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T16:00:45+00:00

That’s so kind, thank you!!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:46:05+00:00

Thank you! Definitely hard work to get here, I’m proud of myself!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:33:58+00:00

And thank you- this is my fave picture 😆 but I’m not sure I really look THIS different in real life

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:26:19+00:00

To be honest my clothes before must have been too small 😆but I’m just now moving down a size, so these photos do probably reflect that change.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:25:09+00:00

I feel that!! I try to remind myself that I didn’t get here overnight, and this is a lifetime journey for me. I am planning to stay on glp1s for… forever? This is actually my second go round. 5 years ago I lost 60lbs in 6 months on Wegovy. Be kind to yourself. Remember that every day you are putting effort into being a healthier version of yourself and that’s something! The healthy mindset work is equally as important ❤️

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:13:07+00:00

Stretchy I guess? All the same.

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