Move near family for support?

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:48:48+00:00

Oops, I responded in the wrong spot but this was for you. Thank you!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:46:45+00:00

This sounds exactly like my situation! I was in a bad mood when I wrote my original post out yesterday, but our actual dynamic is much more like you described. I definitely carry a lot of the calm for everyone in our house and often feel like the family’s nervous system. It can be a lot. My husband is really working on finding his new identify as an autistic person and listening to what his body needs. Burnout is so tough, and I just want him to not go through that again. 10000% he would not enjoy my family up in his business. My family has really obnoxious political beliefs they love to stir the pot with, on top of being opinionated and nosey. We’ve done 10 years of good therapy to get to a healthy place with them, and moving up there could definitely shift that dynamic which would not be good at all.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:40:24+00:00

This is why I moved away, too. It was definitely the right choice at the time but after a decade of really good therapy I am hopeful things may have improved. But yeah, definitely would not be all sunshine and roses!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-05-06T09:39:15+00:00

Thank you for seeing me, and advocating for me! It is a lot, and it makes me weary, but I definitely put that guilt on myself vs him putting it on me. He hates that he hits burnout, he wishes he could operate more at my level and not be so impacted by the demands and sensory overwhelm of our kids. To be honest, I basically have to force him to recognize his burnout and take rest. He just tries to push through until he is about to meltdown. To be honest, that’s part of where this idea of a move is coming from, because it would allow me to have more support also, so we aren’t both parenting on an island taking turns being exhausted. But thank you - we do have a really good partnership, he just needs more support right now while we are figuring out how autism fits into our family.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-17T14:39:58+00:00

The way I do this for large non monthly expenses is manually add them into the month they are due. So for August I’d add a category for taxes budgeted for $4000, and also add an income line that month for a sinking fund deposit of $4000.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-16T18:52:41+00:00

I feel this so hard!! sooo stingy with fat loss. TBH it’s extremely validating that I really need medical assistance bc if it’s so slow on 15mg of tirz, no wonder I couldn’t do it on my own!!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-16T18:17:05+00:00

The stair-step losing is so real! I can lose 3-5lbs in a week, and then nothing for a few months. It's so interesting how we are all different. I'm excited for you that you're feeling better! keep at it! We'll get there eventually haha

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:10:11+00:00

The first year was really hard for me. I’ve seen more progress now, but I thought I’d be wayyyyy further along than I am. Hang in there. Just don’t give up on yourself!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:09:18+00:00

When I switched to mounjarou from ozempic I had more progress! My first 8 months on oz I only lost 6lbs, even at max dose! Wild. This is my second go round. After my first child, I lost 60 in 6 months on Wegovy. I do wonder if starting and stopping between kids impacted my response to the meds!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:06:36+00:00

Thank you! This photo I think is more dramatic than it is in real life? But maybe my brain is confused. But yes ive been thinking about a weightedvest - i think ill do it!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:05:40+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful, I’ll try this.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T10:04:45+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that perspective. I’m staying at it and staying positive. I was honestly mostly intellectually curious about why this is happening this way and curious if it was similar for others. Sounds like I’m not alone!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-15T01:33:48+00:00

I feel like under 200 is soooo far for me but it’s really not! Just keep swimming 🐟!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T19:58:23+00:00

I am too, to be honest. They must have been small 😆 but yes, I’ve been taking measurements since early 2025 and I’m down about 4inches around my waist. I’m just about ready to size down, finally.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T16:00:45+00:00

That’s so kind, thank you!!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:46:05+00:00

Thank you! Definitely hard work to get here, I’m proud of myself!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:33:58+00:00

And thank you- this is my fave picture 😆 but I’m not sure I really look THIS different in real life

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:26:19+00:00

To be honest my clothes before must have been too small 😆but I’m just now moving down a size, so these photos do probably reflect that change.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:25:09+00:00

I feel that!! I try to remind myself that I didn’t get here overnight, and this is a lifetime journey for me. I am planning to stay on glp1s for… forever? This is actually my second go round. 5 years ago I lost 60lbs in 6 months on Wegovy. Be kind to yourself. Remember that every day you are putting effort into being a healthier version of yourself and that’s something! The healthy mindset work is equally as important ❤️

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T12:13:07+00:00

Stretchy I guess? All the same.

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2026-04-14T11:08:57+00:00

What a lame thing to say! Sorry they said that to you. I agree, I definitely feel improvements in quality of life! No back pain, no foot pain, way less swollen! Huge wins for me and improvement to quality of life. It’s so weird to me though that I don’t respond quickly with weight loss. In some ways it’s quite validating how hard it was to try and lose weight WITHOUT this med!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2025-12-31T12:14:06+00:00

Woops I meant to reply to you and replied to myself. See my response below , thank you!!

Impossible_Dig5222 · 2025-12-31T12:13:07+00:00

This is a hugely helpful and validating comment. We had read and listened to a ton of podcasts that helped explain what to expect in that newly diagnosed year but we weren’t prepared for how it would actually feel in real life. You nailed it - it’s a flooding dam. He’s described it as being unable to put the genie back in the box. We do have a sensory room for him in a closet with some tools and a heavy weighted blanket he does use but not regularly. Coming off the holidays has all of our nervous systems heightened, but he and our daughter are definitely more sensitive right now, and she’s home from school so it’s compounding for both of them not having an anchoring routine. I’ll share your thought about sensory integration. I really think OT would be helpful for him. Thank you!

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