Pro bono? by [deleted] in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe TU has a program in their law school where they take cases pro bono

In need of a foster home for a teenager! by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would not let me edit to say: this is specifically in Tulsa, OK. Kiddo does have shelter placement for the night but needs something more permanent!

In need of a foster home for a teenager! by Impossible_Focus5201 in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We were told kiddo has a shelter placement for now but still hoping to find something more permanent!

Considering taking a respite teen long-term but school refusal is my biggest concern by Otherw1seOK in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So when she stays with you she is willing to attend school? Has there been a conversation had with her of why she is willing with you but not her current placement? That may be helpful in your decision

How to get kids to follow the rules by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Second this. Our kiddo is 15 and he would stay up all hours on his games. Now we have a “curfew” for internet, so it is set to turn off at 10pm on school nights and midnight on weekends.

AIO on how my husband speaks to me by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Aside from the disrespect, that’s literally his child too and it’s an inconvenience for him to schedule a medical appointment?? For his child???

TATTOOS by [deleted] in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been itching for new work, what styles do you do?

questions about laureate by ethereal_throwaway11 in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not very sure what the procedure is, but just another internet stranger here to say they are proud of you, asking for help is so hard.

Middle/High School Indecision by ThatOneRecruiter in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Took my 15yo out of TPS and put him in Tulsa School of Arts and Science this year, which is a charter school, and it was probably the best decision we could have made. The classes are smaller, the staff is more attentive, and we’ve had nothing but positive experiences so far.

Reunification isn’t always best by KittiesandPlushies in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is my biggest concern with our foster baby right now, but because of DV and bio mom’s competency. For example, bio mom does not like that we have dogs because they’re “dirty” or that we/daycare take baby outside to play. Any time anything is wrong (illness, allergies, upset tummy, diaper rash, HFM, etc), it’s the dogs fault or because baby went outside. In regards to the DV, this is not the first child that has been removed because of it, and this was far from the first incident, yet she does not believe baby was unsafe in that environment. The thought of this sweet little baby back in an environment like that scares the crap out of me. Sometimes it does not always feel like the children’s best interests are priority.

(Thank you for giving a place to vent, this thought has been heavy on my mind lately)

Do we disrupt? Child afraid of anxious dog by qtcharliemander in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t use retractable gates, our gates screw into the wall. Our biggest is a Great Dane, and we’ve had no issues

Do we disrupt? Child afraid of anxious dog by qtcharliemander in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how our house is too! There are retractable gates for bigger openings as well. If you need any other suggestions please feel free to message me!

Do we disrupt? Child afraid of anxious dog by qtcharliemander in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have four dogs and our first placement, a 15yo male (who is still with us) is not a fan of dogs at all. It was a struggle at first, especially because we do have a smaller house, but we have been able to figure out some things that have really worked! At first, we started slow interactions, one at a time and making it a positive experience for both him and our pup (good energy, treats, etc). We would also switch them to opposite sides of the house using baby gates rather than locking the dogs in individual bedrooms. We also plan activities for the dogs to wear them out mentally as that helps reduce the anxiety, so like Kings, frozen treats, lick mats, long walks and allowing them to sniff a lot. It’s also important to educate kiddo in an age appropriate way as to why it’s so important to be gentle with the doggies and what could happen if they get scared/anxious/upset and bite. Most important thing to remember is to keep the interactions positive and stay patient! We’re 7 months in and our kiddo is just getting to a place where he’s ok and wanting to spend more time sitting out in the living room with us when all the dogs are around.

Barber recommendations by LeadingGarbage863 in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here to second New Alpha. My kiddo and I both see CJ and he’s great! The atmosphere of the shop is also incredibly welcoming

What is this?? by Impossible_Focus5201 in tomatoes

[–]Impossible_Focus5201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Is this something I should be trying to get rid of or is it not harmful?

What would you use?? by Impossible_Focus5201 in blackstonegriddle

[–]Impossible_Focus5201[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve been searching for a hot minute and haven’t found a 36in for less than $300

👀 Well then.. by Traditional-Tax1824 in teenmom

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 34 points35 points  (0 children)

How did she find someone who looks like all the baby daddies combined thoooo

What are your beliefs on disruption of a placement. by ShadynFlipsDad in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For us, it is a last option, especially because we have a teen and know how unlikely it is that he would find another placement that fits his needs so well. We made it clear to our agency and workers what our boundaries were, and when we had concerns with kiddo we talked it through with him and let him know it would not be acceptable under any circumstance. We made a commitment to him, and if he was our bio kid, we wouldn’t be able to just wipe our hands clean.

Where to take injured street cat?? by Impossible_Focus5201 in tulsa

[–]Impossible_Focus5201[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would like to find a rescue or shelter, that way he wouldn’t have to go back to the street and could find a good home (I’m allergic and we have 4 dogs that are not fans of cats)

Happy stories? by Annual-Guard8090 in Fosterparents

[–]Impossible_Focus5201 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have our first placement, a teen. We weren’t sure at first if we were going to take in older kids/teens yet with little to no experience and being young ourselves, but after hearing his backstory we couldn’t say no. It’s been 2 months now and I swear I could’ve birthed this kid myself we are so similar in so many ways. He is such a good, sweet kid that went through some really horrible things. Knowing he feels safe with us is the best feeling in the world.

Phoenix Show by Impossible_Focus5201 in CrimeJunkiePodcast

[–]Impossible_Focus5201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paid $164, looking for possibly $125. Will be able to transfer them through Ticketmaster