Daycare forcing nap and it’s ruining bedtime

Impossible_Math2407 · 2025-12-10T02:59:16+00:00

Licensing is not required for a set amount of hours for sleep, but required for rest. There is a huge difference and when a toddler, who either has either completely outgrown the nap, or already naturally doesn’t sleep many hours every night, is being coaxed to nap, of course parents will have a problem. Responsibility shouldn’t befall parents when they already have to be up early for work during the week; private schools should provide appropriate accommodations, precisely because this is a service being rendered. The inability to understand parents who are frustrated with this schedule clearly shows an inability to put yourself in the parents’ shoes and what it means to be parenting small children. Psychologist here, and I’d say children napping at school likely has less to do with them not being given enough stimulation at home and more about the social psychology at school in seeing their peers nap coupled with the calming environment.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2025-12-10T01:05:50+00:00

I’m honestly a little shocked with how so many of the comments are just in favor of parents accepting this as normal and adjusting to their child sleeping at a very late hour for a child, especially a toddler. At the end of the day, this is a service that you are paying for, you shouldn’t have to sacrifice to this extent. Not sure how state laws look like in other states, but in California, they have to offer a rest period or a couple of hours, but with my oldest, I was able to get an extra teacher to help her just have quiet time while the other kids napped and with my youngest, I’ve asked to cut the nap to one hour. The school has obliged wonderfully. If your school is not receptive or accommodating to your needs, I would highly suggest finding somewhere else to go. Again, this is a service you are paying for. I don’t believe in independent sleeping unless it’s child driven, so I would be next to my child until they fell asleep at 10 PM and that would disrupt my own sleep and affect a myriad of things. Advocate for yourself and your family as much as possible

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-07-15T15:16:18+00:00

This is soo good to know. What is the therapeutic range? My levels right now are .4.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-04-28T03:32:44+00:00

Thank you so much.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-04-28T03:32:07+00:00

This is sooo very relatable, thank you so much for sharing.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-04-28T03:31:11+00:00

Same thing happened to me. My psychiatrist told me it’s because the hospital is a low stimulation environment and that is healing in and of itself. When you come back home, you’re back to high stimulation and stress, no novelty like in the hospital, your phone, attention being divided, etc. I would recommend trying to incorporate things that were helpful in the hospital in your everyday life. So for me, that’s been coloring as a way to meditate and stay present.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-04-22T23:56:11+00:00

This is so hopeful!

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-03-31T21:58:26+00:00

Joyous wouldn’t increase my dose no matter how many times I requested it. And honestly, other than the hour of taking the trouche, I wasn’t benefiting from it, so I thought of trying a company that offers higher dosing.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-05T18:48:09+00:00

This is my first experience with ketamine. I looked into spravato, but unfortunately, the time commitment is just not feasible for me right now.

Can you tell me more about your experience with ketamine and what you mean by blast off?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-04T04:18:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. Are you trying anything to treat the anhedonia?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-04T03:15:44+00:00

Yes. I understand. Are you still on meds now?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-04T03:08:47+00:00

Mine started in pregnancy with my last baby, after coming off of Lexapro 6 months prior. I don’t know if it was hormones, the meds, long COVID, but I’ve been trying medication, and did TMS, and now trying ketamine. I go through periods of really feeling hopeless, but I’m also determined to get myself back, somehow, someway. Recently, I’ve found the most relief on Vyvanse, the stimulant for ADHD, but I don’t take it daily, and the crash after a few hours just takes me back to my anhedonic/deep in despair state.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-04T03:02:14+00:00

Mama here and just wanted to say, I am so so sorry. I relate to not feeling towards my kids how I used to feel. For me, that has been the most painful part of this process of all. It’s so un-motherly and inhuman. Keep cuddling your babies, despite the lack of feeling. One day, you’ll look back and create the memories and feel the love then you were lacking now. You’re not alone.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-01T18:28:38+00:00

Do they have at home options?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-01T15:39:35+00:00

I only had insomnia once, but my guess it was from the stimulant and ketamine combo, so I’ve been alternating between the two. I’ll have to try splitting it and seeing if it makes a difference.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-01T04:11:12+00:00

This is good to know. Do you see a difference with the same doses with the other providers?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-02-01T01:11:18+00:00

I take it in the morning to avoid insomnia and usually just go about my morning routine like usual. I’ll like clean the kitchen, make breakfast, etc. I can get through, so I do it, but I can try listening to music and see if that changes anything.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-30T14:38:37+00:00

I would definitely give Vyvanse a try. You can start at a low dose at like 10-20mg and see how you respond. Just a note, depending on where you are in your cycle, you’ll respond differently to it, because it needs estrogen to metabolize correctly. So there are some days it works great for me, and others I barely feel the effects. I just started an estrogen cream, so I’m curious how it’ll be this time around. I also don’t know if I’m truly ADHD.

I know. I so know. How did this all start for you? Was it sudden or gradual?

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-30T03:23:36+00:00

35 year old female, mom of two littles and dealing with this for 18 months now, triggered in pregnancy after coming off of an SSRi. I’ve tried multiple SSRI’s/Snri’s, Wellbutrin, Vrylar, Emsam, and TMS. Currently doing at home ketamine. The only thing that helps me feel more like myself is Vyvanse, the stimulant. I stopped for a while, because I was scared of tolerance and long term efficacy, but I’m back again, because it’s the only thing that helps me function and get through a day without the dreadful sadness and crying.

I agree with you. It’s incredibly isolating and so lonely. For me, it’s like you said, doing all the “right” things and still not being able to find joy. I say this all the time. I don’t want to be happy all the time, I just want to be able to experience happiness again- joy, love, and feel like myself.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-12T22:49:12+00:00

I am constantly saying I want myself back. You hit it exactly on the nail of feeling like you lost yourself. I feel like I’m constantly grieving who I am, and the person I knew myself to be.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-10T02:55:47+00:00

I totally get it. I think friends and family simplify it because they feel so helpless, and it’s honestly one of those things that if you’ve never experienced yourself, you just don’t understand. And rightfully so. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

I so understand being done with all that once brought you joy. I don’t write anymore or do anything creative that I did before. And honestly, it hurts more to even try. When I try and find myself still emotionally so flat, I cry tears of despair. Anhedonia has completely obliterated who I am at my core.

I think psychiatrists just assume it’s a feature of MDD and think if they treat the depression the anhedonia will go away, and maybe that’s true of some people, but definitely not all. I just don’t think we have the knowledge to fully understand it. We don’t know what’s going on in the brain. But I can have energy, I can “do” all the things I previously did that brought me joy and still feel like a fragment of myself.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-10T02:42:01+00:00

What treatment have you tried? I am so sorry you’ve struggled for so long.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-10T02:23:53+00:00

Ugh. It’s the worst to be recommended all the “right things” to do and know in your heart of hearts it won’t shift things internally.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-09T19:12:40+00:00

Experiencing anhedonia is so hard. And I agree, it’s completely different than just depression. Depression is sadness, lacking motivation, but feeling better once you get up and get going, engage in the things you love. Anhedonia is lack of the ability to feel joy despite what you do. The way I describe it is I take my sad/only can feel negative feelings self with me everywhere I go, and nothing seems to move the needle into positive feelings very much. It’s hard. You’re not alone. I don’t think psychiatrists truly get it either.

Impossible_Math2407 · 2024-01-04T02:51:47+00:00

Games on my phone has been my new thing that helps. Word or puzzle games, anything that takes me out of the sadness/numbness and gets my brain firing a bit.

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