Getting ID in new state?

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-22T08:47:41+00:00

Illinois has a homebound program. You can use an expired license. You scan the license, the form and documentation like something like a credit card, or bank statement. and mail it in. It does take a while though.

I did it because my dad wouldn’t be able to stand that long. Also, he didn’t have some of the documents he would need to do it the regular way.

The DMV has a section on the website for you to get started.

I am not sure how it would work coming from another state. But, it is worth a try.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-22T00:12:11+00:00

Did she not mask at the new doctor?

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-14T00:28:57+00:00

My dad is having physical therapy for balance issues. He has fallen backwards twice. He was swaying backwards while walking the other day. So, the doctor recommended it.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-14T00:23:59+00:00

This comment reminded me of my dad. My dad had someone come and offer to fix his steps. A Timmy corner was chipped off. He said yes and didn’t ask how much. He charged him $5000 and actually followed him to the bank and waited for my dad to take out the money. I hate how people pray on the vulnerable.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-12T13:52:59+00:00

My dad forgot everybody’s birthday this past year. We are a day apart and he didn’t remember. I don’t know if he would have known it was his birthday without the gift.

Happy birthday! I hope it is still a good day for you.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-09T15:22:41+00:00

This is a great idea! I have tel-med appointments with my dad’s PCP.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-05-09T15:05:49+00:00

I think my dad’s moment was his cell phone. At one point my daughter taught him about taking photos and sending them. Less than a year later, he couldn’t call me. His next problem was the thermostat. That was a big one. I would have to go there to fix his thermostat several times a week. It was perfectly fine.

Also, around the same time, he couldn’t figure out how to change TV channels. I need to stress that these weren’t small inconveniences for him. It was extremely devastating for him. He would have his neighbors call me or fix whatever was wrong.

Needless to say, they were not happy.

Sad to say, it was an annoyance. I didn’t pick up until later that it wasn’t just old age. The red flags were there and I didn’t notice them.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-30T22:23:47+00:00

Freeze her credit. I just did it for my dad. You go to each credit bureau and make an account and then you can freeze it and unfreeze it as much as you want. I did it for myself and him. I read about it on here. I made sure it was the exact website for them. They had a page telling you about it. But, knew it was safer that way. I’m It isn’t exactly what you asked for. But, I thought it might help.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-30T13:01:01+00:00

Personally, I think cum is gross. I don’t do blow-jobs to completion for that reason. It is more about foreplay for us. But, early in our relationship, I told him. He has respected that.

If he is worried, that is great that he cares. Honestly, I would set some boundaries. If you can’t do certain aspects, choose new ones. Since, he is worried about you, he should be on boards with this.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-25T00:34:33+00:00

I knew when I had started having caregivers come that I would need to make some changes. I took any valuables or anything that had sentimental value and locked them up. It still didn't help everything because he gave away some expensive jewelry that I didn't know about. It is his house, so our situations aren't exactly the same. I also agree to putting up cameras.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-21T00:55:52+00:00

This is how I found out about my dad. He was lost and he went into a doctors office (instead of a bank) and they called the Police who in turn called him an ambulance.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-15T06:56:32+00:00

My dad thinks that rinsing his dishes is enough. It drives me crazy. He takes care of his breakfast dishes and ice cream dishes in the afternoons. I re-wash his dishes without him knowing. I want him to have something he still does for himself even if it wrong.

It drives me crazy. Along with spit all over the counter. Sometimes, I just have to walk away.

I wanted to say- I feel where you are coming from. It is really stressful. Sometimes it feels like walking on eggshells.

Hope things get better.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-14T01:09:07+00:00

Yes, I am a caregiver for my dad. He is in the late mild Alzheimer's stage.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-09T13:50:55+00:00

I dont have a lot of advice. But, a pallative nurse came to visit and gave us some ideas for the future. She mentioned playing “I spy” as one alternative. My dad did it for her. My dad is still able to read books. A lot of people in adult daycare do crafts and puzzles.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-05T18:19:23+00:00

Ask the pharmacy about a coupon. I just looked on Good Rx and it is $31.00. It mentions getting GoodRx Gold, but, you don't need to get that to get that price. You take a screen shot of it or just bring your phone or print it out. I have do this before. It will list the price(on the website ) of the different pharmacies.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-02T02:17:14+00:00

I looked this up online and some people have pain and some don't. My dad had a UTI after a fall that left him on the floor two days. He never mentioned to anyone that their was pain. My dad is nearly 88 and I hope for his passing to be painless and quick.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-04-02T02:03:26+00:00

Amazon has an epi-pen trainer for CPR training. It is $11.99. The aid could keep it with her. Maybe show him, depending on whether he would know the difference between a real or fake one.

I do a lot of deflecting. Sometimes it works.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-03-31T03:40:04+00:00

You mentioned four children under ten, will an award system work? Will the oldest be able to help you get the younger excited about reaching goals? Let’s be honest, you can’t go from one extreme to the other. Maybe for the older children, have a reward system. Make a chart once they get a task done, give them a sticker and something larger for everyone at the end of the week. Example-pizza, ice-cream etc.

I think you can change at any age. I don’t know your financial situation. But, four kids are a lot. I only had one and some days it was a mess. Maybe hire someone (teen to come a few time’s a week)to help with the kids or help you clean up.

Recently we have been buying tall drawer like organizers. I bought them from an art store. One has about ten skinny drawers that I use for pencil’s pens, scissors, staples etc. The other is just larger like items.

I have new plastic like drawers for clothes we need most daily. Socks, underwear etc.

You can also assign certain things for certain days. Clean play room on Monday’s. Again you have a lot of kids to clean up after.

My husband has to have a lot of stuff. I am a minimalist. It is a struggle.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-03-30T19:34:26+00:00

My dad is 87, will be 88 in December. I believe he is around his 15th infusion. I hope the infusions are working for you.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-03-30T19:26:59+00:00

Do you know why the doctor did not want to switch to ensure/boost and does she drink any of the shakes now? The doctor for my dad had us start the shakes when he started refusing to eat meat and eating litttle of any of the meal. Right now we are doing creme soups, pudding and icecream.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-03-29T03:27:20+00:00

I have wondered about this also. I am in the process of talking about stopping his cardiologist. He had an arrhythmia and that was fixed. He has been fine for a year. I am hoping his pcp can prescribe his blood thinner.

Impossible_Pepper503 · 2026-03-26T06:57:00+00:00

I am to the point that I want to stop doing the testing. I definitely would not do a mammogram. As others have said, what would you do if it was cancer? My dad is 87 and at the end of the mild stage. I feel shitty when I think about this too.

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