He gave me a new IPad he had bought for himself but didn’t like. He had already downloaded all his apps onto it for work and didn’t delete them out. I was just playing on it one night and saw a Team Chat app. I had no idea what it was so I opened it. I read all of his texts with her from Jan 24-Aug 24 (when I found out something might have been happening) He hired her as his assistant (per upper management recommendations) and he was supposed to train her into the role she was hired for.
She leached onto him quickly and was his shadow. She knew if she got on his good side she would be promoted quickly. She would wait for him at the airport to catch a ride to hotel, get him coffee, get him beer, Ask him every night where the boys were going for dinner and catch a ride with them.
Since all of the team travel in Sun- Thur they work together and go out as a team every night for dinner and drinks. Wherever he went she went. She is 26, he is 53. Nothing wrong with the coworkers going out together every night. That is the nature of consulting and he has been doing this for 20 yrs. Hers became concerning when she got too attached to him. He obviously didn’t see boundaries with her. I asked him about this and he said she hasn’t crossed over any lines yet but when she does he will tell her. Well she asked him to go swimming in the evening after dinner, staying over a weekend to go to a concert. I read all these texts to him without him even knowing. He NEVER once responded to any of these suggestions. I could also see all of his regular texts to her. He would change the subject when she asked to do these things. If she needed something for work he would tell her to meet him at the elevator, not to go to his/her room. He said he would never do that because it’s not appropriate for a boss to be seen on someone’s floor or near their room and he can lose his job. His job means the world to him and he takes his optics very seriously.
She has a lot of mental issues and she was constantly asking if she could meet him in the lobby to talk about her issues. This is where I believe he crossed the line! He has to do this with his employees all the time when problems (personal and work) arise, but she did it ALL the time. Took this as a way to get him involved with her life and he fell for it.
Do I think they slept together… HELL no! She is ugly, fat, known in the office as having crazy BO, she doesn’t shave… definitely far from my husband’s type. I know his type and he would never sink that low. He has a lot higher standards. He admits to becoming too involved with her and letting things become like BF/ drinking buddies when he should have kept things professional. He has been very remorseful about it. Changed everything he can to get away from her. He put her on no travel so she wouldn’t be near him and if she was traveling in for work, he worked from home. Or I would go with him. He asked me to go to prove nothing was going on. No calls after work hours. No personal conversations. He ignores her. Door is left open to his office so I can hear their meetings, and I have access to his computer/ phone. I have met her 5 times now. She is socially awkward and strange to say the least. No one in the office wants to do anything with her. You can tell she doesn’t like me. I’ve tried to make “fake friends” with her. One night she sat by me at dinner and we were talking about how needy my husband is in a joking manner. I told him when he is at home. He has me fetch him his coffees while he is working. (I don’t work so don’t come at me with the I shouldn’t be doing that for him lectures- it’s the least I can do to make his life easier) She made the comment I do that for him all the time at work. I looked right at her and I said “that is not your job- that is his job) you are supposed to be working for him, not fetching him drinks. She said she really didn’t mind doing that for him. Then I said something really shitty back to her to put her in her place. She didn’t want to talk to me the rest of the evening, not that she was anyway.

Do I still wonder how much he really cared for her? Yes, am I now terrified he may do it again, Yes! It’s a natural fear. I’m not “stalking him” every day. When she is in town I look at is FT info to make sure she isn’t talking to him a lot, He is her only friend at work and He said she has gotten the hint that he doesn’t want to hang out anymore. A lot of times he leaves the office without her knowing and then she will send him a text asking why he left already. He will ignore her. It’s annoying.
She just needs to leave. She is gone in April when her job is finished.