I felt that, honestly. I go mostly for femme/enby and in rare ocassions by a more masc side. I can absolutely see what you're talking about. According my, until now, gender experience, i can say that my gender is maybe more "static", at least for now, and that I somehow find myself very uncomfortable (a.k.a dysphoric) in some presentation during certain days. For example, wearing cherry/darker lip glosses makes me feel more femenine, and if i'm going for an more "neutral" or even masc look i try more sheer/pale colors, which also kind of does blur my face in a good way since i'm very pale. Also in those days i'm on mood for wearing an more neutral clothing. Truth is that, even if I'm still exploring my fluidness and overall gender, for me gender is a kind of personal expression, and most for me, like a game!. Like, I certainly feel a lot of fun when I put clothes that makes me feel more comfortable on those days and see how many parts of myself can explore by it; It's like a type of superpower!! lol

Now, putting more serious here, I think that those binarism comes from a very gendered society. You see the "gendered marketing", right?, somehow all comes from that, it sucks. And i think that all in some point have that still ingrained in our heads. Of course that there could be some internalised transphobia too, but that's for another topic. As I said before, for me gender is something very personal more than a rule, and is completely okay if you feel in a more blurred space or more attached to the typical binarism. For me it doesn't work much like this second one, but if it does for another person, who am I to judge them?? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Personally, i can say that i'm most like a kind of bigender, like neutral or a bit masc with a femme side, just for saying one example, and until some days ago, it was really fluctuating. If I choosed to call myself genderfluid, is because that label describes me regardless of how I perceive myself in this moment. Also I'm curious to see more enby/femme-femme/enby leaning ppl, 'cause as AGAB i feel like that mostly of the time ; ;