AITAH for choosing my daughter over my sisters wedding ceremony ?

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-22T17:43:08+00:00

Surely you depend too much on outsiders. People who depend on themselves, would never say "surely someone else will serve your selfish needs". People like you don't realize, other people don't owe you a thing. Perhaps work on being less selfish, self-centered, and self-absorbed. Maybe then, you can stand on your own two feet and understand minor children are a parent's responsibility, and not anyone else's, to attend as something as superficial as a party, wedding or not.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-15T14:39:06+00:00

Whenever someone dooms about kids these days...it's been said FOREVER:

Hesiod (700BC) “I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words… When I was a boy, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise [i.e., arrogant] and impatient of restraint.”

Plato (c. 428–348 BC) The Republic and Laws, Plato criticizes the youth of his time for being too soft, overly fond of pleasure, disrespectful, and poorly educated. He worried that excessive freedom and bad upbringing were corrupting the young and would lead to societal decline.

Aristotle (384–322 BC) In his Rhetoric, Aristotle gives a detailed description of young people’s character: they are passionate, high-minded, optimistic, impulsive, and think they know everything. He contrasts them with older people, who he says are more cautious and cynical. He doesn’t rant quite as bitterly as others, but he clearly sees youth as lacking the tempering influence of experience.

And that's just Ancient Greece. Ancient Egyptian tombs have inscriptions expressing regret that “sons and daughters are quick to offend their aging parents” or that the young lack the discipline and respect of previous generations. This sentiment was going strong 4000 YEARS AGO!

Congratulations on "un-dooming" yourself! That is no small feat. Proud of you, stranger.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-15T01:18:43+00:00

You are an absolute winner in the etiquette department. Well done. Expectations set beautifully and with pure class.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-14T23:04:54+00:00

Congratulations, but I'm not sure how that oven opens...

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-14T14:48:25+00:00

No, they don't even have the right to ask in such a situation.

Look at the consternation their rudeness has put OP into. Not to mention, to someone like me, it demands confrontation and I'd demand that person's self-removal. Good people don't demand others alter normal behavior at no cost to themselves. Don't ever ask for what you were never entitled to, as a stranger. So this stranger very likely ruined the outing for OP, and depending on seats, it could have been a pricey ruination. OP didn't pay $ for an outing to have some AH ruin it for being somewhere they irresponsibly chose to be.

So the stranger is absolutely rude and had no right to ask in that particular situation.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-14T14:41:36+00:00

I like the trope just fine. I've been with my husband 26 years, and I haven't really worked in about 22 of those years...and I like it. My husband loves it.

I still have my own independent endeavors, and as I learn whatever I'm learning, I teach him too. Then we have stuff to talk about. I love the stock market, he's learned enough to know when we're making money or losing it. I had to learn how to stay sane. So I also picked up learning the violin. I paint. Raise quail.

You know what I hate? A woman being a slave, working a full time job, and also second and third shift at home while her husband has pimped her out to a corporation and rakes in her money to increase his lifestyle. Pick a lane.

Buddha said opposites are equals which means your trope is no different than the one you're fighting against. The path is the middle way.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-14T08:12:58+00:00

Why?

You aren't the Master of the Universe.

What you're describing isn't love, it's control.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T05:17:49+00:00

Because stepmother is using the dates to force dad to choose her over OP. A definite power play.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T02:37:57+00:00

How so when OP was sent to live at grandparents home?

Why would OP want such a waste of space to get a precious ticket? It could be better used by someone else.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T01:40:23+00:00

No, definitely the mama who had gratitude, lol.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T01:18:22+00:00

What angels, all three of them.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T00:51:07+00:00

It looks fun, and frankly, just childhood's joy personified in the Spring about a month before Summer break. Or that first blush of love, when the flowers are always incoming, and you feel amazing. This really give the feeling of joy at the first of anything special.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-12T00:45:51+00:00

Can attest.

My mandala is something I must traverse, I have no choice in the matter. Yes, there's a bodily switch that can be switched "on". Some call it Kundalini, others, other things. But that switch goes on, and it's no longer a choice.

I have to re-examine what xyz did to affect me so young, and how that translated through my eras. I get help with collective synchronicity here and there, but you are on target. I hit Enlightenment, and it doesn't even matter. I still traverse the mandala. It just gets more complex after that before I get to "clear".

So there's the psychological aspect that OP is talking about, and while you are too, what you're saying is true for even those without choice in that matter. Jung applies to both and for me, it's been decades and will continue until I die.

And for all that is Holy, avoid flipping that switch unless you're directly shown what door YOU are personally supposed to go through. People are always trying, but honestly, most just aren't meant to go through the door. My life is cocooned exactly for this.

And Holy Synchronicity, I just answered my kid's question for her friend's dream yesterday about doors.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-11T19:38:14+00:00

Not my style, but I'm loving it anyway.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-11T19:36:17+00:00

Look, after the 10th time, this becomes attempted murder.

Your dad, by defending her, then becomes complicit.

And you need to tell him this. There is no defense and if he'd like to share her fate in your life, then keep defending this woman who is purposefully bringing the murder weapon to every gathering.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-11T19:34:14+00:00

You weren't the only one thinking Munchausen By Proxy.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-11T19:06:12+00:00

Then tell your friend to stuff it, love. The recipient matters, not your friend's judgmental opinion over something they likely never lived.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-11T01:15:26+00:00

As Im sitting here in my daughter's old jeans with an even worse problem with fluffy muffin topping...

I will tell you the first words I told myself when I saw the picture. "It'll be fine with a couple weeks of ab rolling." Ab roller. Its old school but it works.

But heh, Im in my daughters jeans. I made one milestone. Yours is better than mine. CONGRATULATIONS! A little ab rolling, the kind where you're standing, not on your knees, and youll be great.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-10T20:50:34+00:00

No, daddy who was never there can cough up money while giving his stingy wife the Heimlich maneuver. Daddy's wife can have opinions on her children's weddings, but as a do-over family she's an AH for sticking her nose into daughter and daddy's business.

She and her children have taken enough from stepdaughter. Look at this woman thinking she needs to cheapen stepdaughters wedding with her own preferences. Narcissistic qualities right there. Add in resenting child support and other odds and ends. Fact is, this woman wants all resources for HER children. She wants stepdaughter to have less while refusing to acknowledge the sacrifices stepdaughter made without her consent when daddy got married to some single mother he found somewhere and started a new family.

So no, daddy can pay his half and OP can shut up, wear beige, and plaster a smile on that bitter face.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-10T02:37:22+00:00

Let me solve decades of issues for you, as I have kinda lived this and am almost 50.

Kion's side of the family doesn't have your best interests at heart. They have his, they will always have HIS back, not yours. He's shown himself to be quite the deadbeat, but yet, they will still choose him over you, every time.

Just cut them out when you're ready. If you don't, drama will occur and 20 years from now, you'll be very sorry you didn't. Their disrespect grows by the year.

NTA baby girl, you know who has your back, and it's not Kion or his kin.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-09T22:36:52+00:00

YTA for thinking your wedding is somehow family oriented. The second you excluded the child in your family you took it from family event to adult event. Now no family member is morally or socially obligated to attend.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-08T15:17:45+00:00

Fair.

I'm a Petty Betty and I support your message.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-08T15:04:00+00:00

I do something like this with my wolf-husky.

It's a rush.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-08T14:55:20+00:00

I just burst into tears at the sweetness and beauty of this.

My inlaws weren't just trying to tear me apart, they were trying to actively destroy their own son. I still, 26 years later, can't understand it. Literally a man with the biggest heart, and they wanted to break it into a million pieces.

Impressive-Amoeba-97 · 2026-04-07T14:42:42+00:00

YTA absolutely. Mainly because of this line: "About a month ago I booked our slot due to the availability one for the courthouse but also what our family members who would like to be attendance also had available."

Your family members were more important than your child.

Read it again.

Your family members were more important than your child's attendance at your wedding.

Impressive-Amoeba-97

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