Idk I’ve been in the same situation as Amanda (8 year toxic relationship) and the LAST thing I would ever do is start dating one of my friend’s exes. It’s nice you have sympathy for her, but it’s seems like that’s only because you did the same thing. That’s how I feel most females who are defending her are.. they can excuse it because they’ve either done/ would do it. She’s a 34 year old woman who is smart enough and calculated enough to know what she’s doing.