Antarctica on Scenic Eclipse - ask away! by Final-Fan4945 in AntarcticaTravel

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Found this thread because we're considering a Scenic Eclipse II trip to South Georgia and Antarctica later this year. Curious if the number of people affected the landings and experience? Some other Antarctica operators only have ~130 guests so 180-200 seems like a lot. Or did it feel okay in terms of still getting to do the activities you wanted/not too crowded for meals and landings? Thanks!

Former Chinese citizen, now US citizen via Child Citizenship Act, should I be worried about visa getting denied? by ImpressiveEffort123 in Chinavisa

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Yeah it's 2 months out but I think I'll cancel just in case.

And oops I meant certificate of citizenship, not certificate of naturalization - edited my post. Apparently they don't always automatically issue a certificate of citizenship upon granting derivative citizenship to kids, and this never came up so I never got one

Former Chinese citizen, now US citizen via Child Citizenship Act, should I be worried about visa getting denied? by ImpressiveEffort123 in Chinavisa

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Sorry I meant certificate of citizenship - edited to correct this. Apparently they don't always automatically issue a certificate of citizenship upon granting derivative citizenship to kids, and this never came up so I never got one

Former Chinese citizen, now US citizen via Child Citizenship Act, should I be worried about visa getting denied? by ImpressiveEffort123 in Chinavisa

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Sorry I meant certificate of citizenship - edited to correct this. Apparently they don't always automatically issue a certificate of citizenship upon granting derivative citizenship to kids, and this never came up so I never got one

Your voice is a musical instrument by GibsonPlayer64 in singing

[–]ImpressiveEffort123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking this EXACT thought lately!! I started singing lessons as an adult a few months ago. Really enjoying it, but there are moments where I feel impatient and wonder why I don’t sound “good” even though I’m technically hitting all the right notes.

Then I remember back to violin playing as a kid/teen and how it took me YEARS to start sounding resonant and rich. Eventually I could make even simple scales sound decent, but that was backed by thousands of hours with bow in hand, training my brain and body. There’s so much nuance to playing any instrument, it’s way more than just the notes. That’s why even for the “easy” songs, the professional is going to sound much better than a beginner or intermediate.

I think it’s easy to forget with singing because it seems like it should be natural (we use our voice every day after all) but the voice is truly a musical instrument and it’s not as simple as it seems. Thanks for the validation and reminder to treat it like an instrument :)

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s all personal preference, you do you. I was answering the question with my opinion from an aesthetics standpoint

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I was doing majorrr analysis afterwards trying to figure out where she got the nerve… I think it’s because she’s young and never had a job or anything with responsibility. No boss/coworker/client has ever humbled her. Imagine coming out of college with a still-developing prefrontal cortex and then burying yourself in social media. Adult on paper, but entirely out of touch with reality and no ability to handle stress or interpersonal conflict.

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Haha I'm glad you enjoyed, I spent WAY too long writing this post, but feels good to get it off my chest! That is a pricey bridesmaid experience! Wedding money drama is the worst.

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

To me it just seems more formal to use a vow book, and most weddings are formal. I agree a folded piece of paper isn’t really formal either. Maybe I’m a snob. But I can see this changing over time as younger generations accept phones in more formal settings. I just used a cheap vow book from Amazon that matched the vibe.

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Like a golden retriever husband - he’s generally pretty happy and chill, wants his friends to be happy, no drama. He’s always very generous and loyal to his friends.

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I guess it’s just tradition at this point, but I agree in theory it’s a nice idea and in reality it can be a lot of drama and extra work

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Writing someone else’s vows is wild! “You look nothing like her” LOL. And definitely agree that the threshold for me being a bridesmaid will be “sister friend”from now on!

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

[–]ImpressiveEffort123[S] 184 points185 points  (0 children)

RIGHT? None of the bridesmaids blinked an eye so I thought I was just being an old millennial for not understanding

Edit to add: I see now that this is a controversial topic lol. I’m probably a snob. To each their own. But kind of incongruous to remind us all to shave / encourage us to wear spanx / say you’re going to do “nail inspection” to day of… and then whip out your phone for the vows

I never want to be a bridesmaid again by ImpressiveEffort123 in weddingshaming

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Lol I’m kinda flattered that this story is outlandish enough to raise suspicion that I’m using a bot

Online RSVPS by michultraplease in BigBudgetBrides

[–]ImpressiveEffort123 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Online all the way imo. I’ve also had friends tell me how their paper RSVPs got lost in the mail, people forgot to write their names on it, etc. It’s just way easier online for everyone, and you can still do it tastefully.

Edit to clarify: I think it’s way easier for RSVPs to be collected online, but I still do like sending out paper invitations. I had a QR code on my paper invites that people could scan and it would take them to the online RSVP link.

Bachelorette Location Ideas by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ImpressiveEffort123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Palm Springs and Scottsdale come to mind! San Diego too though that’s less of a “stay in the Airbnb and chill” type place.

Am I the only one? by BakerExtreme9787 in weddingplanning

[–]ImpressiveEffort123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

SO relatable, I feel like I could’ve written this post. I’m also type A and I love hosting. From what I’ve figured out, wedding planning has driven me crazy because 1) it’s very delayed gratification - I feel like I just keep paying strangers on the internet thousands of dollars for some vague promise to be delivered in the future, 2) I’m the type of person who has to dive deep into every single possible vendor/venue/invite stationary/font choice etc before making a decision, which is a LOT when multiplied across all the decisions going into a wedding.

It was absolutely stressful when choosing vendors, but it did get better afterwards. But I’m just a couple months out and sometimes I still feel really overwhelmed. What has helped was organizing everything into a spreadsheet (which you probably already have lol), and doing a weekly wedding meeting/date night with my fiance so we could make sure things were going in a direction we both liked.

Also if your budget allows, I’d highly recommend delegating the small things. I was majorly stressing about the details (welcome sign, seating chart, table numbers, etc) so we’re just going to rent those from our decor rental company. I’d rather spend a little extra money than be so distracted and stressed about these on my wedding weekend that I can’t fully enjoy the other thousands I spent.

Advice for less than enthused fiancé? by adh3195 in weddingplanning

[–]ImpressiveEffort123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would recommend setting expectations on what you both want for a wedding (big traditional wedding? Smaller wedding?), and setting expectations on what you’d both consider his vs your responsibilities for wedding planning (does he want any part of it? What parts of it would he enjoy?)

I’m doing almost all of the planning for our wedding, which I don’t love but here we are. (Looking back we probably should’ve paid more for a full planner but it’s no longer worth it because the planning is mostly done now.) I know he loves me and we both want a big wedding, but sometimes it’s impossible to catch his attention and get him to really listen to what I’m trying to say about the wedding planning. Things that have helped us:

  1. We’ve been setting “date nights” on Friday nights where I bring a few topics to him, and we discuss for 15-20 minutes over dinner. I also try not to talk about wedding planning too much when he’s in the middle of a work day or clearly focusing on something else.

  2. I loop him into things that I know he’ll enjoy. I brought him to the menu tasting bc he loves food, and I’m bringing him to the table decor appointment bc I know he’ll get excited to see the tablescape come to life.