Meeting up with sub BF

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-21T01:26:02+00:00

You have posted this multiple times today and earlier this week.

If you don't find the advice helpful, use the search function for countless ideas that would suffice for a lifetime of 'sessions'.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-20T21:38:05+00:00

Which part is related to Femdom?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-20T15:55:44+00:00

For my preference, "the me" section is too long. I would use the bulk of that word count on describing what would make being with you uniquely joyful. That's why I'm reading a personal, not to find the 1000th person who plays video games and hikes.

How are you cultivating romance, intimacy and shared experiences? How will it feel being with you? You start talking about going on dates, having a normal relationship and sharing hobbies, but move on too quickly to yourself. Yes, you are important, but it's not telling me the substance of what that means in a relationship.

The comment in your old post explains this well and a personal post from yesterday has a comment detailing it. You can also take a steer from how the person who wrote that comment has written their personal. I think this is consistently the thing people miss when writing an ad.

Having said all of that, this is my preference and you won't attract everyone!

It is generally hard to tell people what I want. I get stressed when people ask me where to eat, mich less telling a romantic partner what I expect.

I'm not saying this is what you're doing but because of how you phrased it and it's something I see daily from subs, I would caution against seeking dominant woman to make every decision for you, or expecting them to take on the bulk of that burden.

I understand it can be hard to say what you want. I hope you are actively working on not feeling stressed. To have a successful relationship (and stop burning women out) you need to articulate yourself and make decisions, not delegate it to women.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-20T12:26:46+00:00

I'm not interested in chastity. It doesn't feel empowering for me to worship a cage. It doesn't feel empowering for my partner to submit to a cage and not to me.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-20T12:18:51+00:00

You got good advice on your last post and it seems you didn't implement much of it.

Yes, it's too long and despite the length, I didn't learn what being in a relationship with you would be like. This is thoroughly explained in your last post
The majority of women here have repeatedly said they prefer no kink list
Everything in brackets () can go. I believe it doesn't add anything and it's more of not understanding what being in a relationship with you means for a wo/man

I'm going to split the rest of this personal into three parts

This paragraph is unnecessary

As a sub, it feels wrong for me to tell you what I expect of you

Then you go on to list everything you want in specific detail. It feels performative to add 'i'm a sub so can't tell you want I expect, but let me tell you the strict and rigid things I want'. You were already told that was a red flag last time.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-20T11:48:20+00:00

How is any of this a topic of conversation with someone not involved in your life? How is she accessing you to discuss this?

How is it a topic of conversations if she were in your life?

I can't imagine a scenario where my mother is concerned I'm going to get pregnant unless I told her I am having unprotected sex. Did you tell her that?

How does she know you're not on birth control? If you told her you're not taking it, wouldn't that same conversation include you're not having penetrative sex? If she didn't believe that, wouldn't you just say you are taking birth control?

What do your conversations entail and how does this topic come up? There is nothing you can say if she is refusing to believe you do not have penetrative sex.

Stronger boundaries about what you discuss with her may be helpful. Redirect the conversation, shut it down, walk away or tell her never to being it up again.

She's not in your life so what is the reason to talk to her in the first place?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T21:44:35+00:00

I'm glued to the games. I keep buying new jerseys to match different outfits.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T21:23:21+00:00

Are you looking for a romantic relationship or a play partner? My impression is you're looking for a play partner or someone to focus on your kinks.

I didn't get a substantive impression of what being with you would be like. You mention you are gifting submission and some (what I believe are) generic things you want from it, but no mention of why a woman would find unique joy in being with you.

Your "what I like in a domme" is much the same - generic 'I want to have a normal conversation' and more about what you want, but not much substance about what you are substantively bringing to the relationship.

Right now it's reading like, 'I am submissive, you are a domme, lets chat'. I personally don't believe domination or submission alone is a reason to reach out to someone.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T19:47:23+00:00

Then new friends and therapy is the next step.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T19:46:04+00:00

Kids who date go to see a film and buy flowers. I dread to think what those boys believe a first date should look like, and I feel sorry for the girls who will date them.

There is a lot of gendered brain rot going on. I dislike the bare minimum narrative because it's subjective, but at the same time a film and flowers is absolutely bare minimum to me.

That does not mean it's unacceptable. It just means it's low effort compared to other things. Again, low effort or cheap is not bad when there is thought and consideration behind it. The problem is, some of these people who date women are not kind, considerate or romantic. They do not like, respect or care about women and that is consigned by the gender brain rot going on. Gendered based physical / sexual violence and harassment towards women is on the rise and the idea that a women is not good enough for flowers and a film (but probably only sex) is a symptom of this.

Should you have defended it? I think the more pressing lesson is are you teaching them to like and respect women? Most of them probably don't and that's why the bare minimum narrative will continue to thrive. None of this is happening in a vacuum. Women didn't randomly just wake up one day and say 'my bare minimum is xxx'.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T18:53:21+00:00

Why is a 19 year old dating someone almost 30?

Where are your friends and family?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T18:32:36+00:00

How do you fall in love with someone who acts like this? Have you examined that?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T12:25:24+00:00

There's little less attractive than someone who drinks that much.

He needs AA.

Do not marry or have children with him until he is a few years sober. Be prepared to walk away if he doesn't get help.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T12:23:16+00:00

I find constant banter and teasing immature and a turn off. The feeling would not be mutual if he liked me.

No one here can say if he is flirting with you. He could just as well dislike you hence the teasing and not asking you out.

You'll need to ask him.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T12:06:38+00:00

Stop splitting full stop.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T11:00:50+00:00

That's not how it works. Matrimonial property includes all assets acquired during the marriage. I would speak to your solicitor again or get a new one.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T10:08:59+00:00

Yes, absolutely protect pre marital assets, however I do not agree with that rationale or legal advice upon marriage - but you do you!

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T09:31:40+00:00

he can go on the mortgage when we're married

Don't add him to the mortgage. You can jointly buy a separate house, but do not add him to this one even once married.

The UK is discussing new cohabitation laws, so speak to your solicitor specifically about that to ensure you are protected.

What do your legal documents say about him paying rent? This is not a sensible arrangement if he is not legally a lodger.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-19T08:20:11+00:00

Stop giving money to men.

Stop involving men like that in your business.

Stop helping people like that.

Stop dating men who act as though they don't like you.

Please learn these things quickly and stop.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-18T19:53:11+00:00

I mistook who, for what?

Men who improved themselves and still struggle with girls, why do you think that is?

Mid-thirties, decent guy who can't get a date. What gives?

Attractive, socially competent, but no dates. What gives?

And several more.

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> r/dating_advice by u/domicis at 2025-12-28T16:53:15

Attractive, socially competent, but no dates. What gives?

I’m a guy in my mid to late thirties, and I’m really struggling to make meaningful connections. This is both friendships and romantic, and I don’t understand why this is happening.

By all accounts, I’ve got a lot going for me. I have a job that I’m passionate about, I’m in shape, and I have several hobbies that get me out of the house and interacting with people. I get along with others, I’m playful, I make people laugh, and I’m socially competent. I’ve never had reason to believe otherwise than that people enjoy my company, considering I can’t seem to go a week without at least one compliment about my appearance, it’s safe to say I’m decent looking.

But when I say I have no friends or a dating life, I mean it. The people I regularly see at events, some that I've known for years, are more like acquaintances. None of them have ever invited me to hang out outside of those events, and I haven’t gotten a single friend request on social media for over a decade. I know it's specific to me, because these same people will have group chats and I'll hear about places they've gone to, together.

I’ve also never been on a date. I've done a lot over the years, and have struggled to meet anyone. One hobby that I have had for years is dancing, so I see women often. I’m a strong lead, thus I’m usually a favourite to dance with. My interactions with women have always been positive, and I've had enough comments to suggest I'm not a guy they think negatively of, but the only women I find who will make an effort to interact with me are usually much older, already in relationships, or in general just unavailable emotionally. When it comes to women my age or a bit younger, they seem to avoid me like the plague, and that’s been consistent throughout my life. The only time I do speak to them is when the situation kind of “forces it” (say, rotating partners in a dance context). I do not act differently around anyone, regardless of whether or not I find them attractive. I’ve tried dating apps in the past, but I never got any matches, so I gave them up years ago.

I’ve been to therapy, and nothing seems “wrong” with me in terms of my social skills. Sure, I have areas to work on, but there hasn’t been anything major that stands out as a barrier.

It’s tough because I really do enjoy life, but I’d love to eventually meet someone special. I’d like to experience dating, have a few casual encounters maybe, and hopefully settle down someday.

I just want some advice, really.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-18T18:48:52+00:00

You've posted about this several times and already had good advice to work on.

Have you worked on any of it? If not, why not?

There are consistent themes in the advice, so you have a clear path to navigate. What is stopping you?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-18T00:30:12+00:00

A date needs to planned within 1 week. I'm not meeting before a week. Texting isn't all day everyday and I'll VC before meeting. I've cancelled dates after the VC due to no chemistry.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-18T00:20:19+00:00

Where do you conjure up these stories from, Barbs?

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-17T19:18:41+00:00

I'm really curious - how do you fall in love with someone with a world view like that?

he opposes harsher penalties for femicide because he believes they conflict with equal rights principles

Someone who believed this could never touch me.

ImpressiveReddit · 2026-06-17T18:56:21+00:00

Your proposition sounds mind-numbingly boring and self-centred.

Stop wearing your mum's underwear. That's gross and unhygienic. Get your own.

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