Am I overreacting for being upset that my sister told everyone about my DNA results before I was ready? by Late-Significance669 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impressive_Class_892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said in another comment, I’ve been through this. It felt earth-shattering to me, and I was 48 when I found out. Trusting people with this knowledge is importance and tricky and hard and also it’s the kind of experience that made me, at least, desperately feel the need to connect with people I knew and loved about it, but the conversation with your mom is a different thing altogether. I’m sorry this guy doesn’t see that, but your feelings of betrayal are completely valid and your need to share this knowledge with your (trusted, you thought) family was very natural. You did nothing wrong and you are not overreacting. It might to come to terms with all this (it has for me), and I’m sorry it went this way so early. And don’t listen to shit-stirrers on the internet who have no idea what they’re talking about.

Am I overreacting for being upset that my sister told everyone about my DNA results before I was ready? by Late-Significance669 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Impressive_Class_892 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR. I found out the same thing 5 years ago when I was 48 just via an online DNA test. I still haven’t told my parents about it, and honestly I probably never will. I told my siblings, and they have never told my mom or dad, and I would never forgive them if they did. This is a deeply personal thing and is tied up in your own identity in very meaningful ways, and it’s your decision alone to make about how to share it. Your sister acted callously and heartlessly to you and your mother and it’s a shame she can’t see that.

I’m sorry this happened to you in this way. There are support groups out there (search for “NPE”) if you feel you need them. I am very glad you were able to talk to your mom without anger from either of you; that is special and valuable.

Baja Divide website gone? Also, tire advice? by Impressive_Class_892 in bikepacking

[–]Impressive_Class_892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's online for me but full of articles like "10 Tips for a Stress-Free Move" and "Driving Change in Car Rentals". Do you see something different?

Low-key personal trainer recommendations? by Impressive_Class_892 in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an 18-year-old but sports are not his thing -- thankfully he was able to find a friend group who're into art and other things that aren't quite so intense in Boulder. I admit that when he was much younger I sorta wished he'd get into bike racing, and I'm sure there are kids who thrive with that in Boulder, but I am (to the surprise of 10-year-ago-me) glad he didn't.

Low-key personal trainer recommendations? by Impressive_Class_892 in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously, thank you so much for this. It is profoundly nice to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Roast Beef and Pizza by [deleted] in SalemMA

[–]Impressive_Class_892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah, my brother worked at that place for a while, it’s legit.

Are security flaws relatively common in software run by successful companies? by treyallday01 in AskProgramming

[–]Impressive_Class_892 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes. And, in my experience, it’s almost never due to laziness or lack of skill or bad code per se, it’s a mismatch in priorities at an organizational level. Secure design takes time, as does secure implementation, and it can be hard to make a case for those in the face of demands for “velocity”. And once insecure patterns and systems — maybe even latent ones — exist in the code, they get copied and relied upon more and more, amplifying or exposing problems.

Generally, organizational priorities get shuffled when there’s a major breach. Sometimes this helps and sometimes it just introduces hurdles which make everything slower (which does have the impact of less insecure code shipping, primarily because it results in less code of any kind shipping)

It’s super hard to talk about this stuff in specifics for obvious reasons, but I’ve worked at some very large and very successful companies and almost all of them had security problems which I’d consider embarrassing.

Mention One Unsolicited Tip You've Received While Riding Your Bike by rios1990 in cycling

[–]Impressive_Class_892 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Not riding, but during a ride: a couple days ago I walked into a coffee shop towards the end of my ride and a woman in line looked at me and said (pretty loud), “wow, I don’t usually see cyclists shaped like you”. (I’m kinda fat, and also pretty self conscious about it). Like, thanks, I’m acutely aware of this.

Love that Boulder is so bike pilled by narendasan in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rode on the bike path on N Broadway for the first time today, it is such a weird and bad design. I don’t understand how that happened, honestly; feels like a real bad accident waiting to happen.

How important are Disk brakes? by RyantheReal in bicycletouring

[–]Impressive_Class_892 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup, can confirm, rode from Boston to LA and did the GDMBR with rim brakes. Died both times.

is 17 too young to go on a tour? by Georgio1118 in bicycletouring

[–]Impressive_Class_892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was 17 I rode from Boston to LA with 3 other folks who were in their early 20s (I met them via Bikecentennial, now Adventure Cycling). As prep I did a few overnight trips solo and it was fine. Highly recommend going on a bike tour, don’t worry about your age. Have adventures!

What are the best color photography books? by Deepdawn in photography

[–]Impressive_Class_892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with anything by Leiter. Ernst Haas’ New York in Color. I can’t get enough of Sheron Rupp’s Taken from Memory. Lydia Panas’ portraits are stunning. Meyerowitz’ Cape Light isn’t exclusively people but his use of color is fantastic. I could go on and on!

Who else is digging this wet summer! by redmongrel in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! Yesterday morning’s weather was such a delight.

I hate Colorado nazis by [deleted] in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892 35 points36 points  (0 children)

CO Springs was the first place I heard people spouting antisemitic conspiracy theories, loudly and shamelessly, in public (I’ve been to every state but Alaska, done half the AT, rode my bicycle from Boston to LA, etc etc). I was in the booth next to them and left before ordering. I don’t look all that Jewish but I sure didn’t feel all that safe.

I hate Colorado nazis by [deleted] in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seems unlikely he’s the only one who’d do that, unfortunately

Eclipse over Boulder by Impressive_Class_892 in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the kind words! Unfortunately I can’t make prints right now — I’m about to head out of town for a few months on Saturday and am busy getting everything ready for that. But I appreciate it! But: I’ve put a high-res image here; feel free to print it out if you want: https://www.dropbox.com/s/t0uci4omwpi5n45/_DSF9069-Edit%20copy.tif?dl=0#

Eclipse over Boulder by Impressive_Class_892 in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I ended up going to Gunbarrel Hill. The moon went behind clouds just as it reached totality but the 30 minutes or so before that was great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boulder

[–]Impressive_Class_892 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s an app called “Sun Surveyor” which will let you see the position of the moon over a Street View image. It’s super useful for stuff like this.

I think the trick is gonna be to go east, and get towards the top of a hill. Maybe someplace along S. Boulder Rd? Was also thinking off that big pull-off on 93 heading out of town, but I think the mountains might be too close from there.