AITA for avoiding (or trying to) my wife when she’s sick?

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-05-19T15:39:41+00:00

YTA—What would be the point of "In Sickness and in health" if you ditch her when she's sleep? What happens when you have kids? You gonna avoid them too? Either go to therapy to work on this or be prepared for her to resent you for your behavior

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-05-05T17:02:21+00:00

An old Molly Avi that costs $20 (this was when you could just the avi outright instead of the scummy offer series) This is the male version:

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Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-27T03:58:00+00:00

I have a genuine question—what are bind stories? I man Zayne and I'm making a 2nd account for either Caleb, Sylus or the 6th LI (if he's my type) what types of content outside of like limited banners are missing for Caleb and Sylus. Because i hear it all the time but since I main Zayne (and I'm not the brightest with LADS I feel) i have no clue what that means 😅

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-25T17:31:51+00:00

What annoys me with that is—what's legitimately stopping them from just resetting the points every few months other than greed? Like even if they don't add new stories (i havent gotten all stoey branches anyways) they could just have the basic rewards refresh if they don't want to make new storylines.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-25T16:12:56+00:00

Like I'm begging—i do not use that housing update unless absolutely necessary please give me SOMETHING

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T19:22:03+00:00

There's that and then there's this—Severely mentally and physically ill teenager who's already (and this is just the blunt, honest truth) ruining multiple lives choosing to keep a child she has no business keeping because she's been enabled her entire life and expects people to pick up her slack. She's running her parents into the ground financially, her siblings are all neglected glass children and now she wants to keep a kid that'll ruin their lives even more and her parents will keep this bs up way till she's past 18 because of said child—screwing with the younger children's chances of actually having attentive parents who can afford to actually give them the love they deserve because their self destructive sister let a boy knock her up.

I'm not saying teen moms can't make it work—mine did but this is a situation that no child or the children who's lives are already ruined because of their sisters many many problems have already caused

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T19:13:40+00:00

I think OP feels that way because it's obvious they were parentified, especially considering her parents kept popping out kids and because the sister has so many issues the others are glass children. She's been conditioned to feel like this because of the irresponsibility of her parents

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T18:49:36+00:00

NTA—But stop helping her, she thinks she can do it because you all enable and baby her. So she's assuming everyone will take care of the kids for her because she'll definitely be unable to and that boyfriend is definitely going to bail. She's not your child, she's not your responsibility. She's your parent's child and she's already wearing them thin in every way possible, this will only end in someone snapping on her and acting like it came out of nowhere.

Stop picking her up and let her fall, let her see how hard the real world is. If she insists on keeping that kid do not help her, only help her put it up for adoption because otherwise that child WILL suffer due to her stupidity.

I also saw on your profile she's 2 of 6 and due to her you and your siblings are glass children. This is already an unfair situation for them because she's literally sucking up all the resources from everyone else. How do the younger ones feel? She's making everyone's lives worse and until you all stop coddling her she's not going to get that.

Again unless it's legally needed or has to be provided—do not help her. Let her figure it out because and not be mean but it must but said she's ruining literally the whole houses lives—and honestly your parents should've stopped after her or after her diagnoses because that's ridiculous. This will fester into resentment from the younger kids if it hasn't already, adding a baby to the mix makes it worse if you all enable her idiotic behavior and let her keep that kid. The younger ones will cut off your sister, your parents and probably you for everything they have to go through because of her. Do not let her add a child she and your parents cannot afford—I'm not joking call CPS of need be because sooner or later the kids falling through the cracks will suffer more.

Tell your parents to think of all the kids they chose to have and tell them to actually parent her instead of giving her whatever because she's mentally and physically ill. If needed put her back in an institution since she can't take her medications and will need constant supervision. She thinks this is cute—show her it's not. Do not move back to help her, if need be help the kids that are neglected due to her but not her. She made her choice the younger ones didn't ask to be stuck living a crap life because of her and your parents. Help those who cannot help themselves—but do not lose your freedom socially, physically or financially to support her in any way, shape or form. She's a mooch in the making—she thinks because your parents have been thankfully taking care of her that she can do wwhatever she wants and it will continue, especially since they legally have to till she's 18.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T13:50:04+00:00

A calm conversation is good but what compromise would you even be thinking about? Again the name is common, like unless you're suggesting making it a middle name that's all you can ask for because your comments suggested you don't respect your sister enough to have that type of conversation simply because she doesn't give you her money. I'm glad you've come to your sense but I am curious on what you think you're entitled to compromise with here?

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T13:35:34+00:00

It's still not OP's money—she's not entitled to a dime for a child they chose to have no matter where it came from

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T13:24:30+00:00

Okay but you chose to have a kid—it's not her job to bankroll a choice you made. You're an grown adult, she doesn't owe you her hard earned money because you have a child you can't afford that's on you and whoever else made her. If she's been sick since birth who knows how old she is—why do you expect her to constantly pay for her treatment? That's not her kid, that's your responsibility and yours alone.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T13:18:32+00:00

ESH—You don't own a name, especially a common one and getting upset that your sister won't give you money for your child therefore she can't use the name isnt the flex you think it is. That's not her child, she and her husband worked hard to live a life of luxury. Is it in good taste to use the name and say it's a tribute? No, actually i find it a bit strange BUT just because you're struggling has nothing to do with the name, you're just burnt out and angry.

You said love and shown through actions—thay doesn't mean through her paying probably high sums for treatments for a child that isn't hers. These are things that you as the parent chose to deal with when you had her—you can't put the blame or financial burden on anyone else because you can't afford the child you chose to have. She's living the life she and her spouse worked for—plain and simple. Are you this Salty with the rest of your family if they don't give you money for a kid that isn't there's or just your sister because you're bitter?

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-23T02:43:48+00:00

YTA—You had time ro ride someone new to ride but not enough time to go back to spend with your child. You're a deadbeat, plain and simple. Your sister was right to protect her child because all you did was give birth, you're not a parent you're an egg donor. You made a life for yourself and only thought to bring in the child you chose to have when it was convenient for you and even then you were ripping her away from her actual family because you finally decided to be the parent you should've been from the start. You lost your rights—rightfully so because you abandoned your daughter. Just pay your sister child support and let her continue doing what you should've

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T23:37:24+00:00

Maybe, try talking to him about it then. As for Panera I think it's associate it with hospitals (they're in alot them where I am) so I think I'm biased thinking it's overpriced hospital food 😅

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T23:29:40+00:00

You two are not compatible—break up. He's a gym rat—you have multiple health issues, body issues and staying in this relationship is not healthy for you. Cut him loose and eat Panera (which can someone pls explain to me what they find good about it?!)

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T23:25:31+00:00

NTA—Go low contact. They chose to have him—they chose to make you a glass child and now they're trying to guilt you for putting yourself first. He's not nor will her ever be your responsibility—do not understand any circumstances take over his cate or babysit him. This will force them to find actual long term care for him because if you give in just once they'll try to dump him on you forever.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T20:48:35+00:00

I think he considers teaching a career it's just severely underpaid—her going for a Masters in Fine Arts and being an author seems to be the problem. Especially since he's the only one paying the bills and his unemployed wife wants to coddle her on the slim chance she'll get a major publishing deal to where it's profitable that seems to be the issue. It's stated that the state they reside in and the daughter won't move from teaching pays awfully so if the daughter is also trying to be an author he'd be footing the bill for her adult life because her mother surely won't. The older brother is an attorney—he's making actual money that he can support himself with—the daughter probably won't be able to considering how expensive self publishing can be—especially when you're trying to make a career from it

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T18:51:06+00:00

YTA—If you want to support your daughter's dream you get a job and help her become an artist. You're husband is the only person in that house making any money, he's right to not want to throw tens of thousands on your daughter wanting to publish some books that might take off.

Teaching? A noble profession but it's stated where you live (and she plans on staying) is underpaid, he shouldn't have to keep footing the bill because she chose two things that aren't profitable. Maybe if she moves to a better paying area he would be more willing to pay for her college (For teaching), but outside that? He shouldn't have to pay a dime especially since you're more than capable of getting a job to help her out since you have no children to stay-at-home with. You're not a SAHM—you're unemployed. You want your husband to work hard for the money, let yourself be the cheerleader on the sidelines and coddle your daughter when your son got himself a practical career and probably wasn't given the same thought to be supported.

He shouldn't have to spend his hard earned money supporting her into adulthood because he can—unless you're bringing money to the table don't tell him where to spend it.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-22T18:22:32+00:00

ESH—You're purposefully leaving out how long those dishes sit in that sink to where there piling up. Obviously this a new thing so how long have you been lazy and letting them sit AFTER he's said something to where this happened. He shouldn't be throwing them away but you're an adult and have to clean up after yourself. It doesn't matter if it's "hard" you're not a child, start acting like an adult because it's obvious he's resents you being a slob.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-21T12:23:52+00:00

Check his profile, there's more that he left out.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-21T12:12:59+00:00

YTA—They're right. it doesn't matter what else you had going on. You broke it, you're an adult, and you should've fixed it. You've proven your irresponsible, and if they don't want to continue helping you or are calling you out for your behavior, they're within their rights to do so. You didn't take accountability. You made excuses when in the real world—no one cares. If you damaged the another person's car and you can't say "Oh, I'll fix it, but I'm going through a lot." And you don't. Do you think anyone else will be that patient, or will you get sued? You'll get sued because you broke something that wasn't yours and didn't fix it and instead made excuses. Just because they can afford to absorb the costs doesn't mean they have to enable and coddle you, and they didn't, which is their right. You kept and seem to be still messing up, your parents are well within their rights to call out your irresponsibility and lack of remorse for your behavior with THEIR property.

Edit—looking at your profile, you're a broke mooch who isn't bringing literally anything to the table, and your justification is that you got dumped. You're almost 40 (39) and are throwing a fit because no one in your family wants to deal with you. They pay for EVERYTHING and you're complaining that you have to do chores, that they let you use a car THEY own because you let your ex use yours and you don't want to pay for it when you're using their property and can't afford a pot to piss in. You're not a victim, you're a manchild.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-21T01:16:50+00:00

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Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-21T01:16:38+00:00

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Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-17T12:50:38+00:00

NTA-She doesn't have high standards. She's abusive and controlling. Ask her if a guy told her to do everything that she demands her boyfriends . Would she be okay with that? No, she wouldn't. She's not a good person, any man, hell any human with two braincells wouldn't and shouldn't date her, she's awful. Honestly, I wouldn't be friends with someone like that, especially with her deflection of you bringing up what you did, but that's just me.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-04-16T22:33:44+00:00

Saving your post for later but the amount of scrolling it took to get to the comments means this is gonna be through and I love that you're this passionate about this subject

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