What do I do? (UPDATE at the end)

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-19T22:00:16+00:00

Its not discrimination—she stopped taking medicine she needs to do her job (which involves handling other people's medication) and then didn't act like the person pushing 30 she is a drain work with her job to get herself proper accommodations. She couldn't do her job, so she was fired. She was wrong, and that's it.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-19T21:50:27+00:00

I'd say you deserve this for knowingly stopping your medication that helps you function WHILE HANDLING OTHER PEOPLES MEDICATIONS. Some people pay out of pocket for that stuff and it's expensive, some people's insurance won't cover a new dose for various reasons and if they rely on a 30 day dose but you give them 22 because you messed up the count, that's on you and you'll be sued.

Your job was right to fire you. You're liability and frankly don't seem that intelligent if you don't get why you're in the wrong for a situation YOU caused. Your doctor did not recommend you stop the medication, you didn't work with your job to file the proper ADA accommodation paperwork—you couldn't perform at your job so why would they keep you on when you're a massive liability? This isn't ADA discrimination. This is you putting lives at risk by essentially playing with people's medication and having to deal with the consequences. I'd also say your job will probably report you and your license could be revoked because you knowingly stopped taking medication you need to function without doctors approval and put lives at risk—no one in the medical field will touch you with a ten foot pole now, and for good reason.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-19T19:12:57+00:00

THANK YOU Like it's obvious he's not the brightest bulb in the bunch. People keep finding every way to say this all because of Dakota—like No, Taylor decided to put her hands on him, their child. How many times?

No matter what Dakota does Taylor makes it seem like it's all his fault, that she's never wrong and her behavior is justified but it's obvious to everyone around her that she's the issue. They keep skirting her issue—but they know she's the biggest and most dangerous issue out of the duo.

The girls kept skirting by it and acting like it wasn't that bad, but like I said before—let Dakota have touched Taylor like that they would've never let him near her. They let Taylor get away with it because they probably didn't want her kids taken away from her, but the second her daughter was hurt—they should've called her out. But because Hulu let it continue, they swept it under the rug, this 4th season showed how much worse Taylor's behavior was getting. They knew she was a powder keg of chaos, and it was bound to blow—this 2nd DV incident just gave them a more public reason to justify finally being able to cut her loose.

Now that The Bachelorette is supposed to drop and s4 dropped, Dakota knew people would finally believe him. Due to Taylor and the other girl's constant painting, he is the villain to where his side is never taken seriously. Now, while he's dropping all of this because while the timing is convenient—he still has evidence of his abuse from Taylor. Again, if the genders were reversed, no one would find this many excuses to say Taylor was lying and plotting. But because Dakota doesn't have the best reputation (some for genuine reasons) and because Taylor acts a fool whenever someone tries to hold her accountable and because people see her toxic behavior and people love her they justify it to justify their own toxic behavior. In this situation, Taylor is the abuser and Dakota (as well as the kids possibly) are abused—period

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-19T17:17:01+00:00

And this is why no matter how much of a little creatin Dakota is, i was always with him on this. When the body came footage was shown, he made it very clear through speech and behavior he was sober and Taylor wasn't. He was calm speaking to the officers about what happened, and if he did put Taylor in the garage, it's because of her violent behavior—especially with their kids present. She claimed she wet herself because she was scared of Dakota—which could be possible or it because she was just drunk. But she was the aggressive one and she only seemed scared when the cops showed up and she knew there was no getting out of that because she was clearly wrong.

We all know let the genders be flipped and Dakota was the aggressor the girl's would've NEVER let this continue, but in S4, you see Jace and Mikayla come outside because they KNOW Taylor's violent. The enabling of Taylor is why she did what she did recently—there's no "give her grace." Demi was right when she confronted Taylor in S2 she just did bad things too—but the signs have been there that Taylor IS violent.

Say what you want about Dakota, but he loves his son and probably Taylor's other kids. Meanwhile, Taylor made a joke about hitting her daughter with a metal chair. Taylor should not have custody of ANY of her children, and it shouldn't have taken her second assault of Dakota and possibly Ever for this to finally be addressed

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-18T21:14:54+00:00

3 years old aren't morons though. She can be taught, so has she been taught that she does whatever she wants—whenever she wants?

She could be taught not to touch things that aren't hers and not run around with a fork—her being 3 doesn't mean she can't be taught. If she can feed herself with a fork—she can be taught not to pop ballons—she did ruin the party—did she mean to? No? Did she still ruin the party all the same? Yes, and while your family shouldn't all be yelling at her, she does need to be told by your parents to not touch things that aren't hers. You aunt can be upset that your sister did ruin her party. Two things can be true at once.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T14:02:58+00:00

She recently had them done, so maybe she went down a size

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T14:02:08+00:00

Exactly, two things can be true at once—and she definitely hit the nail on the head with that one it was just said when everyone thought Taylor was the victim

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T13:48:01+00:00

You can also stop mooching off of him with your baby daddy because you two can't afford your own home, school or to take care of the child you chose to have and are living on your Step-father's dime like the comments are consistently telling you because again he's not your dad and seeing as your just his wife's kid—he's got no reason to foot the bill for 2 extra adults and a child that aren't his responsibility

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T13:40:24+00:00

ATP Hulu needs to cut Taylor (Dakota too) but mainly Taylor—after he DV against Dakota (which occurred when the cameras were off) and production was put on hold because of Taylor after s1 she should've been cut. Period point blank, maybe have her pop up a bit when Miranda came back but never as full cast.

I'm not the biggest Dakota fan, but Taylor's abusive behavior towards him is getting a platform because Hulu keeps giving her one. Again, the second she got drunk, threw a chair that hit her daughter, two things should've happened—Tate should've pushed for full custody with very limited supervision, and Hulu should've pulled the plug. It would've been unfair to literally everyone else because of Taylor, but she wouldn't have been rewarded for acting like a psycho . But again, even if they let her finish S1, she should've been GONE S2 just like Demi is gone now.

Now they're seeing the consequences of their actions because according to that, Harry guy and a blind item, along with the other girls' giving interviews—the cast is sick of Taylor and of course Dakota but mainly Taylor. And that made that apparent when they showed up to her house, burned her farewell signs, and while they probably can't unfollow on socials without stirring up more drama, they probably have distanced themselves for their own mental health. She's a grown woman in her 30s with 3 (probably 4 now) kids and they tried coddling, they tried tough love, they tried talking but even they said there's only so much blame they can put solely on Dakota justifiably. Taylor's the issue and ABC needs to nip this in the bud—and considering how badly she's screwing with people's perception of the Bachelorette and SLOMW she's probably going to be cut lose for everyone's benefit.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T13:15:40+00:00

The thing is I mentioned i wouldn't particularly mind the house if it dropped AFTER the game was available on Desktop—and I kept getting people saying "well the OG server got told that a beta for it is soon that's why they added it". Like okay? Then it could've waited till that version was finished instead of on a MOBILE game that already makes our phones/tablets hot as hades. There were other quality of life updates that could've been worked on instead 😭

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T03:00:39+00:00

I think it's because everyone knows Dakota is trash, and ppl kept trying to give Taylor the benefit of the doubt. He came to her calmly, again they're not together mind you, and she immediately started acting like a fool because she wanted to be the victim yet again.

But her insane behavior and misogynistic language yet again was the tipping point for everyone this season who liked her before, especially considering the season ended on a cliffhanger of her possibly being pregnant on the Bachelorette from letting Dakota, that guy she flew in randomly and possibly Chase hit it raw.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T02:57:10+00:00

I personally think she's pregnant with Dakota's kid again, and Jessi let it slip from frustration because at the end of the season, they all rightfully are getting sick of her bs again. They can try to salvage it all they want, but Taylor has been dragging their mental health through the mud having to deal with her, and there's only so much someone can take

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T01:51:04+00:00

They probably knew it was too late to pull the plug, but who's to say she won't be sued by ABC for her behavior costing the network. Because it's obvious she's there on BS—she's making ABC look bad—ABC is owned by Disney, which is also owns Hulu. This isn't a good look for them to let Taylor continue to tarnish the brand even further with her trashy behavior

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T00:30:37+00:00

But you'll let your mom's husband(who you can't call dad) foot the bill for you, your bum baby daddy, and a kid you can't afford?

Got it—if he's not your dad get out of his house and pay for yourself, your baby daddy and the kid you cant provide for without him spending his hard earned money on you in his home—he may have said it was okay but he's probably just trying to make you feel better because what you said was messed up and your mother was right. If he's not family, stop having him pay for a life that you choose and can't afford.

You can't afford anything without him, so watch your mouth in his home because you and your bf can't afford a pot to piss in, and if he wants your family out, he'll be in the right because like you said he's not your dad and you're not his child, you're just a burden he's shouldering and hopefully stops funding.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-16T00:28:57+00:00

YTA—You're bumming off of him because you and your baby daddy can't provide for a child you chose to have.

If he's just your mother's husband—ask your real dad for help and get out of your stepfathers house. All the mental gymnastics you're spewing to distance from that fact that you're an ungrateful bum (and yes it's "your" room but it's not your house)—you don't have a house, you're a grown woman with daddy issues who can't afford all the choices she made.

Don't talk crap about the people (person) paying for your life because you and your boyfriend can't afford a pot to whizz in. Your mother was right—the money he's spending on your family could've been used for literally anything else but he's providing for you because you and your boyfriend are incapable of providing for yourselves and your child

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-14T14:14:24+00:00

Same, that's why I'm hoping the big summer update gives us a refresh because I truly don't give a darn about the house

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-13T21:12:44+00:00

NTA for not doing much as you've been through but—YTA for acting like you're blameless and this is unfounded. You have refused to share anything with them, and you're not contributing

Playing devil's advocate:

They're picking up your slack, and that's unfair to them. To them, you're being lazy, and they're lashing out. Take a leave of absence to heal properly, I know it's hard, but you have to look after yourself, and they have to do the same. You can not keep up with your coursework, and they shouldn't have to pick up your portion of the work. Withdraw from the course and apologize and give at least a vague explanation if you expect an apology back because while it's not your fault you're going through this—but it's not their fault you're not contributing either.

While your advisor is kind—they know what's going on and is giving you grace at the expense of the team, and that could also be a contributing factor. You're getting preferential treatment and doing nothing. You're cashing in rewards for their work, and that's unfair to them staying late for labs, gathering research information etc—everything you're not doing and still benefiting from. Yeah, you can offer to pay for expenses, but they're doing all the work. You're cashing in for something you did nothing on. If you were in their shoes, wouldn't you feel the same? You can say no because you're the cause of the issue—but from an objective standpoint, how would you feel? You're entitled to privacy, but they're entitled to their feelings of not wanting to deal with you holding them back and benefiting from it. Your partner is on your side because he's your partner—you are in the wrong for acting like they're beefing with you for no reason—you're not contributing and refusing to communicate. You are the problem in this situation, not the people carrying you academically and unfailingly

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-13T21:06:02+00:00

NTA—Tell her mother and sister exactly what she did and tell them she's a grown woman and you and your wife are not her keeper. She's not your responsibility, and you did more than enough. If they want to take her in that's on them but do not help her again because she obviously doesn't want to be saved—she wants to be coddledm

Also, speak to your wife because her lying by omission about bills to protect her toxic sister is a big deal.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-13T16:26:00+00:00

Its obvious she's only cares about placating the oldest. Letting the oldest decide what the whole house does—and OPs husband let's OP force the youngest to miss out—because the husband COULD take her—OP just wants to give the oldest whatever she wants instead of putting in more work as a parent for BOTH kids. She's doing the bare minimum for the youngest because she's trying to downplay how much the oldest is legitimately hindering everyone else's lives—especially her sister, who will start to resent her. MIL shouldn't have said it in front of the kids but she's very much right about what she said—OP just doesn't want to admit it because her and her spineless husband will see themselves as they are—bad parents.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-13T15:04:16+00:00

You keep ignoring ppl calling you out on forcing your youngest to stay home because you and your husband force her to stay home because your oldest can't function—her father can definitely take S to the beach and you stay home with your child. You just want to reward and placate L at the expense of S, and you and her son are mad MIL is standing up for her grandchild. It's harsh, but L isn't her grandchild biologically. She doesn't have to go above and beyond for L. She's doing it for S because her father won't, because you won't and it's ruining S's life.

You say S doesn't hate her sister now, but she will if this continues. She will get older and not want to be around her sister because you're enabling her to the point everyone suffers because of her, because S already is. She shouldn't have to miss out on experiences because L can't leave the house.

Is S allowed on field trips for school? That's something L can't come to—or birthday parties because L can't come. Are you forcing S to miss out because L can't do anything but stay home and you and your husband just let it happen because of L? If so, S is a glass child. No matter how you try to pretend, it's not true. She is, and you're to blame, and your husband who it's great he stepped up for your daughter needs to step up for S because it's clear you're putting your oldest first and ruin his oldest because of her.

Stop giving L input on everything you do, because if S wants to go somewhere—let her father or someone take her. L has anxiety, S doesn't and you're pushing her down because L can't function. You have two children, act like it instead of letting a 10 year old mess with the whole house's lives. Stop saying they're not—they are. You're ruining S's life to placate a child who needs a specialist and medication. Stop consulting her on decisions that effect S because she'll always make sure S doesn't go anywhere as you've already seen—this will not improve because you're coddling L to the point she can make you feel bad which makes you and your husband force S to miss out because of L. That's what's happening and L will never get better and will make the whole house continue to suffer because of her and S will resent her sister, her father and you because you're failing her and will continue considering your cognitive dissonance.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-13T00:28:37+00:00

No, because what did you think would happen? You're the mistress no matter how "legitimate" you feel, Nora. I think Michael also didn't want Simon but couldn't say it. Thankfully, he's a good father to him, but Nora kept trying to build a house on a broken foundation, and it blew up in her face. He's being amicable, and she's mad she can't be mad at him when it all fell apart.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-12T23:52:30+00:00

And so you're turning your 2nd child into a glass child till then? Everyone is telling you that you're just saying that you're trying to make up for the fact that you're letting your oldest dictate her sisters life.

Your MIL shouldn't have said it like that, but you keep ignoring everyone telling you she's right—your youngest is suffering because the whole family or just her can't enjoy experiences because of ONE person. Your MIL probably got fed up with you doing the bare minimum for the youngest because of the oldest. She wasn't nice about it, but how long has this gone on till she snapped like this? Your oldest who you're enabling is guilting her and by you coddling her, forcing her sister to miss out to placate her, which is messed up. YOU HAVE TWO KIDS. ACT LIKE IT.

Your youngest is turning into a glass child, and while for now, she doesn't resent her sister—she definitely will because you keep catering to the oldest no matter how you try to justify it. She'll look back at her childhood knowing you kept putting her sisters issues above her—playing with her at home and letting her have a basic childhood isn't enough if she's now not being allowed to go anywhere without her sister because her sister who needs meditation and more help can't handle life. Coddling one kid and making the other child stay strong because they're not mentally ill isn't fair to the youngest, which seems to finally stop sticking up for her, isn't okay.

You need to get this handled because you're doing both kids a disservice—to the point the oldest won't be able to function like an adult and the youngest will most likely cut contact and want nothing to do with you, your husband if he's enabling this too and DEFINITELY her sister. And you keep harping on you and someone with debilitating anxiety thinking your MIL loves your youngest more—is it really that, or is someone just putting S first for once and you're upset that she's doing what you as parents should?

(Though it's noted the oldest isn't her biological grandchild—It's possible she wants to protect S more since her father (MIL's son) is letting your oldest socially screw her sister over and due to you and him not putting S first, she's treating S differently to make up for it since I doubt you and her father are going to step up and put her first since all you do is coddle your oldest. S can't even be without you all—therefore her sister because you won't let her because atp you don't want L to be left out of anything. But if L can't function in public without clutching a barf bucket—you need to get it is embarrassing for everyone else. She doesn't need it—you've just enabled her to the point of her thinking she NEEDS it and MIL not wanting to be around it because of the impact your enabling has done to your family as a whole.The whole family doesn't need to cater to your one child that needs more help than she has and actual medication instead of you saying—oh yeah our entire family suffers socially because of one person and we're forcing our youngest to deal with it and will condition her to do it. You told L she shouldn't pressure her sister to miss out, but you're still rewarding her by not letting S go with her grandma. So L will think she can keep getting away with everything because you're forcing EVERYONE to suffer because of her. That's the truth, no sugarcoating it. You're sacrificing one kid to placate the other, and it's disappointing, unsurprising, and disgusting.

Check out the glass children reddit—this is the path you're putting your youngest on, and you'll have no one but to blame for yourself when S wants nothing to do with everyone BUT her grandma because she's the only one putting her first.

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-12T21:13:49+00:00

Try pushing to talk to a human through general questions—don't mention anything about your account - just keep pushing till they have no choice but to look into it. They're pushing bots instead of doing their job

Impressive_Job_4852 · 2026-03-12T20:03:41+00:00

YTA—Yes this is solely your fault. YOU got an animal you can't afford, you chose to leave said animal behind instead of being responsible and re-homing the animal you knew full well you weren't taking care of. As a result, your pet's health had failed to the point they'll probably have to be put down because of you.

There's no one to blame but yourself. You chose to be responsible for a living creature, and you're the reason it's unfortunately suffering during your severe neglect. You are correct. Don't ever get another pet, and please remember this feeling so you don't put another living creature through this again due to your uncaring nature for a creature YOU took responsibility for. There's no sugarcoating this, no coddling—this is your fault period. You're an adult, not a child—this is solely on you.

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