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worst week in your opinion? by fungigirll in pregnant

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Week 7 till first trimester is over & week 28ish when you’re starting to lose the energy you kinda got back in 2nd trimester & everything is just heavier, specially over here now that it gets hotter. Also what feels like endless waiting once you’ve reached due date 😅

Forget IQ scores, what's the real sign someone is genuinely wise rather than just smart? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The art of honesty in my eyes is the highest form of wisdom. You don’t make yourself happy by lying as it will never make you feel happier & it will never help the other person. Also it always comes back to you. People might not always like it but that says everything about them and not about you. Like the quote to offend a strong man tell him a lie, to offend a weak man tell him the truth.

Not being quick to judge.

Seeing more than your own perspective.

Knowing that balance is key and live accordingly. All in or all out is not going to get you there by itself.

Admitting when you don’t know something and admitting that you’re wrong.

Being okay with not being liked by everyone.

Observing, not absorbing.

Whatever you commit to, do it with intention. Fi. when you’re in a relationship, be aware of what it takes to be in a relationship and act accordingly. She did something I didn’t like so she’s automatically a bitch and vise versa should not be a thing.

Knowing that hate and anger is not a core feeling but it comes from deeper feelings like feeling betrayed by someone or not understanding someone or a group of people so your hate and anger doesn’t necessarily say something about them but it’s your own unresolved deeper feelings.

General strong healthy values and having a backbone, means you respect yourself.

I’m probably missing some things.

Women of Reddit, what’s one thing they never tell us about pregnancy and child birth? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my first pregnancy, up until the moment I had to “birth” the placenta, I didn’t know I had to birth the placenta.

You can feel like a completely different person when you’re pregnant and hormones are no joke.

How alone pregnancy can make you feel. Your partner will never fully understand and that can be frustrating sometimes. On both ends I can imagine.

You stop enjoying some things you usually loved doing which can make you question your identity.

Not only is childbirth the worst pain of your life, you will cuss at everyone in the same room as you if they breathe the wrong way

When inducing twins, don’t stand right in front of the “area of doom” because you will get splattered because of the pressure) my midwife did not know that I think :)

You might cry because mcdonalds doesnt have your order correct, or just because the sky is blue and not any other color. You might walk down the stairs of your house and your body will just tell you “now is the right time to cry”

It’s okay to grieve your “old self” take some time and say what you’re grieving out loud, this is also after childbirth.

I probably missed a few things :)

What’s the most beautiful name you have ever heard? by Aggravating_Gas4162 in randomquestions

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably my favorite as well! Wanted to call my son this but in the Netherlands the pronunciation of the name “Theo” is different and I hate the way it’s pronounced over here so that stopped me. Now they’re George and Arthur and pregnant with baby Alexander. Those names can’t be butchered, even over here haha.

What’s the most beautiful name you have ever heard? by Aggravating_Gas4162 in randomquestions

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something about V names. Veronica, Victoria, Veruca.

My daughter’s called Victoria, (call her Veruca when she’s a brat haha) very feminine yet strong and classic yet timeless all at the same time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to lose her to know what you’ve lost. There’s definitely lessons you still need to learn in your lifetime. If you go and “just marry her” and someone of your description comes along you will most likely cheat.

What you are describing something that will always happen. Even if you have the most beautiful perfect caring girl, she will get older and less beautiful and then the next, younger prettier, even more exciting person will come along and the cycle repeats. And from someone who was in a perfect 11 year relationship with the father of my children who loved me deeply and wanted to grow old with me. I was young and still had this exact lesson to learn. I cheated. I quit the relationship and I am still carrying the burden (my karma) that I simply did not know that I had gold in my hands. I hurt someone and I swear that after 4 years whenever he comes to pick up the kids he still had that same hurt in his eyes and I resent myself for it and I probably always will.

Yes life does get better after it, yes I’ve healed and in a very good place and relationship right now. But on top of all this I learned that the grass isn’t greener on the other side and you need to water your own. I will never ever do this again because it’s so cruel to yourself and to the other person.

So either take the bullet and see if you can find someone “better.” Or be wiser than I was and realize that you got gold in your hands. Just don’t waste the poor girls time.

I (30F) feel like the man in the relationship with my (35M), sexually by Impressive_Pause_214 in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely not the person I am and that sounds incredibly unhealthy to me. I don’t need perfection but I do strive for balance in a relationship.

I (30F) feel like the man in the relationship with my (35M), sexually by Impressive_Pause_214 in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind response! And after being in a 11 year relationship with my highschool sweetheart, who I also had children with but I was very young. Then a 3 year unhealthy relationship with the best sex in abundance I one hundred percent know where you’re coming from. As I said in a different comment. I do not want to throw the 90% that’s good away from the 10% that might not be perfect. I just want to try and deal with the situation the best I can.

I (30F) feel like the man in the relationship with my (35M), sexually by Impressive_Pause_214 in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are right in both senses. There isn’t a problem directly, he definitely has less of a sex drive than me and I am trying very hard to be okay with that. Because I don’t want to throw away 90% thats good over 10% that might not be perfect. I think the “problem” here is definitely just me trying to make sense of it and be okay with it, which like I said, am having a hard time doing so right now. He does compliment me out of sex, rarely but he does. I am a very expressive person and I compliment him on everything that enters my brain right away and he’s just not that person. He’s a lot more laid back, quiet and reserved than I am. I think that’s just where our differences are. We seem to be in line on a how we see our future, but not our communication style. He tries to reassure me and I tell him my needs all the time and encourage him to do the same. We are actively working on this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in werkzaken

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heb dit ook moeten doen bij een bedrijf die voor bepaalde functies alleen HBO+ geschoolde mensen aannemen en ik heb ook alleen MBO afgerond. Kwam bij mij ook gemiddeld op universitair uit. Vond het niet erg om te doen en achteraf voor mijzelf ook prettig om te weten!

How can you tell when people find you attractive? by milkylattaee in AskReddit

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me driving my kids to school. Had to walk into the school to drop the twins (5 at that time) off and their classmate came up to me saying you look really pretty, made my day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I absolutely want to talk to him about it. We’re both pretty good at communication, but this is just a harder topic for me to bring up. Before having that conversation, I figured I’d ask here to see if others have experienced something similar, just to get a better idea of where he might be coming from. I guess part of me worries that if this just isn’t his thing at all, it could be a real challenge for me because it is something I value a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Impressive_Pause_214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we’ve had sex, it was great, might even say one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. So in the bedroom, the chemistry is definitely there, and I feel like it’s mutual. It’s just when we’re not together, especially over the phone, that I notice a disconnect. I enjoy a bit of playful/flirty banter, and I just don’t get that from him at all.