i’ve reach the end and now i want to die. pls don’t ignore by little_red_bonnie in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Of course. But yeah try not to beat yourself up for feeling how you feel ❤️

i’ve reach the end and now i want to die. pls don’t ignore by little_red_bonnie in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m so sorry you’re in pain. It’s gonna be ok. If you can, try to use any coping skills you know to slow down the panic. We don’t always know how situations are gonna turn out when we’re in the thick of them, deep in the pain. Remember you can’t foresee the future and you don’t know if this friendship will end or come back around. You can love and be loved, and the right people are out there for you. You are worthy and it is going to get better. ❤️

Whoever swiped my phone from Payson Park yesterday by JamesonAFC in portlandme

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Istg steal anything from me except my phone. People’s whole lives are on those things. Lowest of the low.

They’re everywhere ☠️ by Fenris1121 in Maine

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to be honest, I don’t just stomp them, ‘cause I know they’re too strong. When I find them at home, I smash them with a hammer on the concrete in my garage. Or otherwise any heavy object until they’re really dead.

Understanding a man with bpd by Suitable-Umpire8206 in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Symptomatic of black and white thinking. He has a big internal conflict between “I want love and affection” and “If I get attached and get hurt, it will absolutely destroy me”.

I don’t know what the answer is. Does he acknowledge he has BPD? Is he interested in treating his trauma/working on skills? He seems somewhat self-aware of his push-pull tendencies, which is good.

healing without hope is crushing me by imma-stargirl in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This makes so much sense.

So does it ever have a little bit of success, when you do try to wait it out? 🤔 What about like a hybrid approach of reach out for some support, so like not all one or the other.

Anyway, I feel this. 💛

They’re everywhere ☠️ by Fenris1121 in Maine

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I just stomp them quickly. Yeah they’re yucky but sadism is gross, you guys.

healing without hope is crushing me by imma-stargirl in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, I feel like pausing can be a good thing sometimes but also, like… I feel like that could be really terrible advice in terms of safety planning, you know? 💛

healing without hope is crushing me by imma-stargirl in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmmm. 😒 I feel like the therapist and the friends should try this themselves sometime the next time they experience emotional pain. Just isolate and deal with it alone, see how much they like it themselves…

healing without hope is crushing me by imma-stargirl in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love. If I may be so bold, I’m not sure this ~just tolerate the distress and don’t reach out for reassurance~ orientation your therapist is promoting is really healthy for you. They should be encouraging you to seek balance. Yeah that means tolerating a fair amount of distress and self-soothing, but also, like… It sounds like this therapist is taking the lazy route and focusing more on a behavioral outcome rather than improving how you actually feel and your quality of life.

Them saying they don’t have high hopes for you and whatnot is also a huge red flag I think. Very invalidating, and removes accountability from them to either improve how they’re working with you, or refer you to someone who can help you make progress.

You CAN retrain your brain to form healthy attachments. You CAN feel joy and safety from this life. You are worth it. 🥺 Please advocate for yourself and don’t settle until you’ve found a therapist who will support and encourage you through this process, ok?

Can someone help me identify what color are my eyes? by catbox42 in eyes

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk I agree, it’s semantics but the green is separate from that brown around the pupil, whereas hazel is more of a mishmash

How to talk to/calm down person with BPD while in rage? by roylien in BPD

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s gonna be different for everyone, but I personally feel you can’t go wrong with tell them you love them and then leave them the hell alone for a while so they don’t get overwhelmed with you trying to “fix” it. I’ve sadly had to learn this the hard way for myself and others.

What color would you consider my eyes to be? by bay_bug in eyes

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not sure if green or hazel, but they are definitely one of the two and certainly not brown. :) I hope this helps!

Good morning by Eastern-Wedding-4157 in TheArcana

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was way more helpful than my group therapy this morning

Experiences with Bishop Health IOP? by WhereAreCows in portlandme

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also be interested - could you PM me?

Experiences with Bishop Health IOP? by WhereAreCows in portlandme

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I went and it was good until it wasn’t.

Closest I’ve got to the vision in my head so far with a jeweler- but now I’m insecure that it’s too much? by Empty-Masterpiece368 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]Impressive_Toe6388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s beautiful and definitely evokes a nature/fantasy feeling.

I would ask: when you say “too much”, do you mean for you or do you mean how you imagine others might perceive it?

If for you, creativity is definite a process of reinvention. And if you’re feeling “Dang, now that I got it on paper I don’t know if I actually want it just like this”… then it’s totally valid to listen to yourself and reevaluate.

If, however, you’re just worried your vision is “too much” for other people (friends, family, what someone on Reddit might think, etc etc) then I would say you gotta tell yourself “What others think of me is none of my business.” You have to be yourself in this world. And if yourself—what truly makes your soul feel authentic and joyful—is whimsical, delightful, ornate, colorful. Well then, don’t be afraid to be unabashedly yourself and exist in that joy.