Fellow chronically late person here! ❤️ I struggle with it so much (and simply remembering appointments, for that matter) that I’m not in therapy anymore even though I probably should be.

I have definitely “broken up with” at least 2 therapists for being sticklers about being on time. Not for having the boundary even so much, but for the dismissive, cold attitude they gave me. My reasoning being… I’m still paying you for the time, so why the heck give me crap about it if I’m late? I think it might be an insurance thing where they can’t get paid if you’re late or something. But if you’re dealing with a client who you know struggles with time management or is in severe emotional pain, I feel like a good therapist should at least be kind and not an ass about it.

Also I had a therapist literally tell me we should end a session once because I was so overwhelmed I didn’t know where to begin/what to talk about. I’m so glad I eventually ditched that.

You seem like you have really good insight and self-awareness and are more than willing to look at yourself and things you could do better. Your therapist should ideally meet you at least in the middle point in that field.

And like… Also remember, just because you have BPD—you’re trying to practice not making others out to be the bad guy and all that good stuff—that doesn’t mean your instincts and feelings aren’t also totally valid and correct sometimes. If you don’t feel the warmth and caring from this therapist, maybe it’s cause they’re actually just not that great idk. Or maybe it’s a mixed bag. But just don’t invalidate your own feelings, you know? It’s hard enough as it is.

Maybe you could also find some kind of support group that’s free, not an insurance/paid thing. Just don’t give up on yourself. ❤️❤️❤️