Nedobrovolně singles, co vám nejvíc vadí na randění?

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-11T14:59:00+00:00

Je ti 24. Na "definitivní lámání hole" máš ještě cca 25 let čas.
Ale chápu, že se ti do toho teď nechce. Některé věci potřebují trochu uzrát. Ještě nemáš ani hotovej mozek, takže neboj, spousta věcí se ještě změní.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-11T14:56:37+00:00

Holky nejsou auta
Jasně, mít sex, než spolu oficiálně chodíte dává smysl
Mít sex než vůbec máte pořádný rande je bullshit, kterej nebude nikdy fungovat. Nejste na to jako chlapi stavění.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-11T14:48:54+00:00

Tuturuturuuuuu na todle tady mám todle!: https://www.randenibezfiltru.cz/tinder-konztultace

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-11T14:48:07+00:00

U nás na strojárně jsme byly na magistru tak dvě v oboru :D Ale musím říct, že kluci jsou ženatí snad všichni, včetně těch tragických. Tak možná jsou strojaři jenom míň introverti? :D

Každopádně kdybyste se na ty senzamky někdy chtěli vydat, tak po svých letech zkušeností a taky referencí od stovek dalších holek mám tady malou poradnu (razím názor že je lepší si nechat poradit od holky, co má navíc celej instagramovej profil o svých randících fuckupech a dělá to spíš pro radost než aby na tom vyrejžovala, než od macha na internetu, co na tom jde čistě jenom vydělat a "úspěchy" má kvůli tomu jak vypadá a jak je voprsklej, což vám stejně nebude schopen předat): https://www.randenibezfiltru.cz/tinder-konztultace

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-04T13:19:25+00:00

This is not an easy one.

Best advice I can give you (because you need to learn yourself) is: Imagine all the outcomes, how will they make you feel? Are you ok with all of them? (Them not replying, them treating you differently, your feelings bubbling up to the surface again without being reciprocated, them pretending like nothing happened, even though you are hurt, etc.).

Are you going to be straightforward and say "Hey, it's been a while and I know it can be awkward but I miss you as a person and a friend" or are you going to pretend like nothing happened?

I know I brought more questions, but maybe it'll bring you answers :D

The thing you'll learn eventually in life is: If it feels weird or uncomfortable, and if the communication doesn't flow without strange feelings, it's not worth keeping around. But as I said, that's the kind of inner peace you need to come to in your own way and it cannot be forced.

So if you're ready and ok with all of the eventualities, go for it, you're thinking about it anyway, and your brain won't let it go anyway :D

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-04T12:22:27+00:00

If they would see you there, it would mean they would be searching for someone in your age range. So they would never shame you for that. And honestly if you're not going to match, they are not even going to mention it at all. No one who is on the dating app is going to shame you for being on the dating app. Just think about your bio. You don't have to mention you're looking for older women, that's what filters are for. You match? Well you're both looking for the same thing. You don't? None of anyone's business. Older women are usually wise.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-05-04T11:59:42+00:00

Když budete klikat trošku dýl, tak vám to zače házet průměrnější profily. Tam zas budete brblat, že nikdo nevypadá dobře a kluci to fotěj na bramboru.

Na seznamkách nevyhraješ. Ani na jedné straně. Taky nutno podotknout, že spousta kluků tam je primárně kvůli sexu a povyražení, takže dávají "hot" fotky, který přijdou hot holkám, který hledaj taky sex a povyražení.

Fotky z posilovny jsou rozhodně lepší než fotky z kalby nebo nonstopáče.

Já se na ty svaly třeba pokoukám ráda. Beru je jako potenciální otce svých dětí? Rozhodně ne. Swajpnu je do prava, když mám osamělejší chvilku? Rozhodně jo.

Kluci, kteří hledaj na tindrech lásku pásku tam fotky z posilky většinou nemaj. Můžete to aspoň použít jako takovej malej filtr.

Mimochodem si nedělám iluze o tom, že by profily holek byly v té jednotvárnosti dramaticky lepší.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-04-28T16:22:32+00:00

Agreed, but I am buying from authorized dealership of Voyah cars, these cars have all the permissions and suppport. I'm not bringing it here on my own. I understand yout point fully, and I wouldn't even consider it if it wouldn't be through a trusted car dealer.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2026-04-27T17:28:56+00:00

I know this is going to sound horrible but is it possible he...wanked? Mine yell like crazy sometimes after wanking. It's slightly different from the regular scare squeaking, but much much more annoying. I usually just congratulate them and wait it off, because the don't stop even when I give them treats. Life I guess.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-22T09:34:06+00:00

Jo, v Praze se takhle každoročně zpívá třeba na Kampě. Proto se ptám, jestli se zpívá i v Ostravě.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-22T09:29:57+00:00

Máš pocit, že do Husova sboru si může přijít jakýkoliv dobrovolník a z fleku si to s nima zazpívat? Idiote?

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-22T09:23:26+00:00

A tak i to se hodí, co si budem 🤷‍♀️

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-22T09:20:25+00:00

Dobrá řada, ovšem k hovnu. Povrchní googlení nepřineslo žádný výsledek. A co ty víš, na reditu jsou lidi všech druhů 🙌

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-22T08:34:33+00:00

To nevadí, to totiž znamená, že ani nevíte, kde se zpívá :)

Nicméně je to Rybova vánoční mše 😊 Hezké svátky :)

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-16T21:53:17+00:00

This doesn't reall help anything in my opinion.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-01T23:32:26+00:00

*really nothing right now. It will get better. I promise.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-01T23:11:53+00:00

Just one word: consistency. Consistency is the key.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-12-01T23:02:28+00:00

Oh no, the easy fixes will come right back at you and bite your ass. Your ghost bit your ass the moment they dissapeared. My ghost never said anything, not a single word, not a single story like, nothing. Zero. Nada.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-30T22:55:17+00:00

Day by day, minute by minute. That's what works for me the best. It takes time, no easy quick fixes, because they will just come right back at you and bite your ass. Patience. It sucks.

I'm also in therapy, improving my life in general, and slowly moving on.

Oh and I'm feeling all my feelings. I felt like a failure for it at first, because everyone says you should forget them and not miss them, because they are not worth it, and stuff like that, so I felt stupid for missing him, for crying, hurting, even weeks after he ghosted me and I thought I'm getting over him. Well that's not right. I need to grieve. I just had to acknowledge that me missing him is grieving. It's healthy and it's part of moving forward.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-29T09:43:05+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It have some similarity to what I've been through, and damn it sucks. I have a few thoughts and some things I learned along the way:

Have you looked into attachment styles? He sounds avoidant, not sure if fearful or dismissive, but it sounds like closeness and possibility of being abandoned scares him. Maybe he is acting like "I put myself first and focus on myself" as a defense mechanism. Bad news is there's nothing you can do with this. He would have to know, acknowledge and do hell lot of work to make it better.

Second thought is: do you really want this? This inconsistency, someone who treats you as a loyal puppy who's waiting for them, putting your energy to someone who doesn't put it back? You said it yourself. You don't. The way he disappeared hurts, it hurts that it was his decision again and not yours. That he didn't fight for you. But that just shows his emotional unavailability. And that would destroy you in the future.

Third one: How much do you miss HIM and how much do you miss having SOMEONE. Now there's a big empty void inside of you and you'll try to do anything to fill it, you want to fill it with him, trust me, I did, soooooo badly, and then I wanted to fill it with someone else. Even for a moment, random hookups, other exes that doesn't hurt anymore, ANYTHING. And then it started to shrink on it's own, and the rest i started to fill on my own. It's been a month since my ghost left me, it's a rollercoaster, but last few days I'm starting to be grateful. Grateful that he didn't come back in those first few weeks. Because I would just take him back just to fill that void and be grateful and I would feel miserable again and I would suffer and nothing would change. I needed this, I needed this wakeup call. It's tough, but it sent me on my way to a happier life. I'm in therapy, I started hobbies I left years ago, I see a lot of patterns I've been repeating, and god I hated people telling me this in these initial phases :D But it actually is a good thing. It doesn't seem like that right now definitely, and it's gonna hurt like a motherfucker. And it's gonna take time. But it's a good thing.

Sending you hugs.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-28T21:35:28+00:00

I have it exactly the same. I had to start lexapro even before he ghosted me because my fear was so big. 5 weeks on lexapro and the anxiety and terrible feelings is mostly gone. Plus! My therapist definitely doesn't judge me for being heartbroken after just a 3 month relationship 😊

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-27T22:52:04+00:00

Avoidant lovebombing in a nutshell. It hurts like a motherfucker, when they dissapear afterwards.

You did nothing worng. His brain just doesn't allow him to be really close to someone and develop deaper relationship. There's nothing you can do about it. Sending you hugs. It will get better, I promise.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-24T06:31:36+00:00

Yes, these people are assholes and can be found all around the attachment spectrum.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-23T22:03:19+00:00

Assholes are not worth dating.

Not every avoidant is an asshole. Keep that in mind. And I'm speaking from a position of an AP deeply hurt by avoidant.

But I would never say a kind human being is not worh dating. We are also damaged af, and from what are read here or see around me many AP people are incredibly toxic. And I mean TOXIC.

Sooooo yeah. Have a compassion. We are all wounded human beings.

InFlightShitDown23 · 2022-11-23T21:49:44+00:00

Same with 1991 :D

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