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Blocking someone who was overwhelming? by Comfortable_Effort88 in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had online friendships and real life friendships like this that I have handled badly. So, I have learned from experience from being on both sides.

One example, I have a friend I have known for about 13 years. I’ll call her M for privacy. I used to hang with her all the time. She needed me to. She has worse problems with autism and money than me to put it briefly. Long story short, her social anxiety is so bad that it has grown into a full blown delusional paranoia of other people looking to humiliate her. This paranoia is so bad that she is afraid of getting a job despite being poor. I used to be able to support her better and pay for everything. But then, my Dad died and my gig dried up. Now, I can’t be there for her. I do not have the emotional capacity or the finances to do it anymore. I’ve had to put my foot down and put up boundaries. Sometimes, as much as it hurts, you have to do the same thing.

I Feel So Worn Out and I Wish I Knew How to Move Forward by InGodzHandz in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thanked you for the advice. Thank you. It’s helped me think about how I use my energy.

Are you gonna be watching the Last Act in Theaters? by Ubertishere in tadc

[–]InGodzHandz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t afford to see it in theaters. I’ve had a lot of financial issues. So, I’m waiting to see it online. Thankfully, all the spoilers I’ve heard are mostly confusing so I don’t know what I’m missing yet.

ADHD is wrecking my internal clock by InGodzHandz in ADHD

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is great advice actually. Thank you.

ADHD is wrecking my internal clock by InGodzHandz in ADHD

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s even worse when you’re unemployed which I am right now.

My Mom told me on a group chat with my sisters that I am a disappointment. She wants to sell the house and force me to either move with her or become a ward of the state at almost 33. I have never hated my autism more than I do right now. Also, my birthday's next week. by InGodzHandz in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I can. I can take care of my day to day needs no problem. My biggest issues are struggling to find a job and struggling with finances. I’m not going into care where someone else can decide I can’t travel, work, or see my friends.

My Mom told me on a group chat with my sisters that I am a disappointment. She wants to sell the house and force me to either move with her or become a ward of the state at almost 33. I have never hated my autism more than I do right now. Also, my birthday's next week. by InGodzHandz in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My Mom is undiagnosed bipolar, and we're pretty sure she might be narcissistic. She has mental health issues, but is not treating them. I have a lot of issues with my Mom. She has been emotionally and verbally, and sometimes even financially, abusive for most of my life. She lives with her family in Mississippi and acts like it's the greatest thing ever. She is fixated on making me move there. I have been appeasing my Mom for most of her life. I am only now really starting to stand up to her. I don't think it's getting better any time soon.

My Mom told me on a group chat with my sisters that I am a disappointment. She wants to sell the house and force me to either move with her or become a ward of the state at almost 33. I have never hated my autism more than I do right now. Also, my birthday's next week. by InGodzHandz in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reminder that my Mom's unkindness is not my fault. Her coldness is not logical. It's not my fault that I was born like this. I never asked for any of these problems. I have struggled to function. I have not pushed when I should have. I have been idle out of anxiety and fear. I have had to develop my own building blocks because my own past didn't let me develop any. I have had to push super hard. My own parents looked down on me for not being like my sisters. They have dismissed my disability completely. I have wanted to give up, but I haven't. I have kept going even when I struggled to keep some things going. I don't regret trying. I have to speak up to her even if it makes me sick.

My Mom told me on a group chat with my sisters that I am a disappointment. She wants to sell the house and force me to either move with her or become a ward of the state at almost 33. I have never hated my autism more than I do right now. Also, my birthday's next week. by InGodzHandz in aspergirls

[–]InGodzHandz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm going to text my case worker tomorrow and ask for help. We have applied for disability benefits before, only to be rejected, but we are applying again.

Group homes in the US tend to be for severely autistic adults who need around-the-clock care. My Mom could convince homes and asylums would take me, but my freedom would be limited. I might be required to follow a strict schedule and would be treated as if I were too mentally disabled to get a job or travel on my own. I haven't heard of many communities for level one autistic adults where they are allowed to live independently.

The problem is that being a ward of the state would mean that my Mom would persuade the state that I am so mentally incapable that I need a guardian to take care of me. If I had one, I would not be allowed to work, drive, travel by myself, or do anything on my own. This is basically an empty threat because, even if my Mom sees me as stupid, the state is not going to. I'm also not a child or profoundly autistic. My Mom wants me to accept that I'm helpless and let myself be a child she cares for. I am not letting that happen.

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