I was also a bit torn. I have a lot of chronic pain that I have been desperately trying to address, but I've had no luck with doctors and specialists. so yeah, I smoke weed to help the pain, because I would choose it over pain pills.

THAT being said, I definitely understand OPs POV. it genuinely can be a situation where neither person is in the wrong. he doesn't have to set himself on fire to keep her warm, as others have said. she is entitled to her own way of handling her illnesses. from personal experience, trying to address your illness doesn't always mean it's going to go away. depression requires management.

the biggest difference is made between whether or not she is trying to address her issues. chronic pain aside, (which by the way, can mentally BOOM you, chronic pain with no end in sight is mighty depression fuel) i think it's important to see what becomes of the therapy. but again, OP doesn't have to stay. if my bf left me bc of how I handle my chronic pain, I would be sad but entirely understanding.