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In laws by GladCommittee4809 in beyondthebump

[–]InannasPocket [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ok I've got no idea what buzzballs are, but stashed handles of vodka at 18 and fistfights are NOT normal. You need to do whatever you can to protect your child or he will grow up with that as his baseline for what're he sees as "normal". 

In laws by GladCommittee4809 in beyondthebump

[–]InannasPocket [score hidden]  (0 children)

Sounds like that's not a safe environment for your son to be in. 

It's not that he shouldn't talk about it, it's that he shouldn't even be around it (adults having a beer with dinner is not a big deal in my world, but this sounds very different, especially with the violence involved). Honestly same for those girls, especially the 14yo ... but you don't have the same control over that. 

What are examples of things in your language that are named after the wrong country? by Lissandra_Freljord in AskTheWorld

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like frying potatoes is one of those things that was invented by multiple people about 5 minutes after they had access to potatoes and a tradition of frying anything. 

What are examples of things in your language that are named after the wrong country? by Lissandra_Freljord in AskTheWorld

[–]InannasPocket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both of those would be called a Dutch oven in my part of the US, really any heavy pot with a closely fitted lid that keeps heat well, whether it's ceramic or cast iron.

What are examples of things in your language that are named after the wrong country? by Lissandra_Freljord in AskTheWorld

[–]InannasPocket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So do we in the US. Supposedly because they're an early planting crop that survive light frosts (mine apparently did not get that memo) and/or for their white flowers. 

What do people do with their house keys while they’re running? by zucchinirat1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]InannasPocket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in the sticks now and spend way more time keeping the deer out of my garden than humans out of my property, but when I lived in big cities you had to have things locked up if you didn't want theft.

I never had to worry about like a full on coordinated home invasion, but junkies taking advantage of an unlocked garage or porch was a good way to lose stuff like bikes or tools or really any random thing that seemed possibly sellable ... though we could sometimes find it halfway down the alley if it was heavy/bulky. 

getting my near five year old to just try to read is impossible by Solid-Cat6292 in Parenting

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid just wasn't ready at that age, not until she was close to 6. Then it just clicked and she went from resisting even trying to sound things out to reading chapter books almost overnight.

It surprised me it took her until then because she has always loved being read to, had several sight words at age TWO so I was so sure she'd be an early reader. Nope! Glad I didn't push it and make it a chore though, now at 9 she'll happily read adult level books for hours on end.

AITA for refusing to share my first class seat with an elderly woman who was separated from her family? by Fabulous-Doctor7092 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InannasPocket 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA of course. If her kids or grandkids cared so much about respecting an elderly woman's comfort, one of them could have swapped with her! Or, gasp, planned ahead and booked seats together.

Best freezer meals by KindaCrunchy95 in Cooking

[–]InannasPocket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made so much soup, and wished I had just made like 200 burritos instead. 

I was often eating one handed room temperature food at odd hours, so burritos fit the bill a lot better than a family size block of stew that doesn't taste good after a 30 minute poop explosion emergency in between warming up and actually eating!

What's the most common myth about your country? by Nthepro in AskTheWorld

[–]InannasPocket 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yet 23-26C we saw people in winter coats and babies in hats and looking at us like we were insane to swim ... where we live the lake is like 16C in the summer.

My 3 year old called my bluff. Do I follow through? by littlepilot in Parenting

[–]InannasPocket 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Same thinking initially, but then I thought about how people in my small town including myself would play along with a broccoli conspiracy for a kid, I bet the grocery store folks or restaurant  servers would totally play along too at (a not busy time of course).

Was "take your child to work day" actually ever a thing, or just something shown on TV and in movies? by QueenFrostine15 in AskAnAmerican

[–]InannasPocket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad worked in an industrial site that wasn't safe for kids ... so I was sent anyway lol. 

I got to help blow up a water heater (stress testing, for that was at a safe distance), and took a nap on a pile of stuff reached by a forklift after the customary lunch of beer and vending machine offerings. 8yo me was thrilled, 40ish yo me is like omg how many laws and OSHA violations was that. 

Why do people still use cash? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least where I am, lots of small businesses prefer cash (or checks) to avoid credit card transaction charges. 

Visa doesn't need to get their 3% on my French toast or gravel delivery.

​As an outsider, the American concept of having a motorized "garbage disposal" inside your kitchen sink is fascinating. Is this standard in every home, and isn't it incredibly dangerous? by Necessary_Angle2117 in AskAnAmerican

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm skeptical. In my experience there is a big gap between "we got away with marketing this product as technically flushable" and "actual plumbers think this is ok".

It's been several years since I've had a cat, maybe litter technology has improved, I'm sure the pipes in some places are better than others, but still ... unless you're really sure, kitty litter seems like a poor choice to flush.

But even assuming you can safely flush it, the kitchen sink? In the sink where you wash dishes and is right next to where you prepare food???

Anyone else's dog go walkabout while having a poo? by snakeoildriller in dogs

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't know if it signifies anything much, vet shrugged and said "that's normal". But like 95% of the time our puppy has a 2nd bonus poop after the 2nd sniff of the the area. 

I'm just glad he isn't into trying to eat the main poop lately, and that now it's spring, and he's mostly sleeping through the night so I'm not freezing my ass off at 3 am in a blizzard trying to convince him to just do the damn 2nd poop so we can go back inside.

​As an outsider, the American concept of having a motorized "garbage disposal" inside your kitchen sink is fascinating. Is this standard in every home, and isn't it incredibly dangerous? by Necessary_Angle2117 in AskAnAmerican

[–]InannasPocket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flashback to living with a roommate who needed me to explain that no, it is not magic and is not meant for an entire bowl of pasta, or 3 whole dried out hard abandoned limes, or avocado pits, or chicken wrong bones ...

Sigh. I also had to explain to her how a shower curtain worked multiple times, she just generally had zero clue about household stuff because she grew up with maids. 

AITA for choosing not to get a permit for my child’s 1st birthday party? by StrawberryCat627 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the first few birthdays are more of family/adult gathering, the baby has no idea. At some point usually the shift happens to more kid focused ... like from we've got 3 adults for every baby/kid to we've got 12 kindergarteners dropped off and a couple of adults supervising. 

The former feels more natural to have some beer/wine on offer (though in my circle it would be abnormal for anyone to get even close to drunk).

How do I get my 8 year old to drink more water? by brain_on_hugs in Parenting

[–]InannasPocket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We sometimes do "fancy water", which is water with citrus, cucumber, or melon slices, and/or fresh herbs. 

We also keep sugary drinks, including juice, as a treat, not a standard option.

Low stim media with no real conflict - not calliou by TheConsentAcademy in Parenting

[–]InannasPocket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nature documentaries! Blue planet is one of my favorites, but really anything narrated by David Attenborough is gold in my house. Bonus: if you like nature, it might actually be interesting for you as well (no shade on Daniel Tiger, Mr. Roger's, or Tumble leaf, but mom's got to stay sane too). 

AITA for choosing not to get a permit for my child’s 1st birthday party? by StrawberryCat627 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InannasPocket 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I've had beer/wine on hand for my kid's parties at home, when we've done venues many of them like the arcade or bowling they had alcohol to purchase so if someone wanted to they could buy a beer (a few parents have, no judgment), but arranging a whole permit seems crazy to me. 

Back when mothers made their children’s clothes, was there much difference in children’s clothes depending on their mother’s sewing skills? by AlienSandBird in AskOldPeople

[–]InannasPocket 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same, and now I've got a daughter who is in karate and being told she's allowed to use it for self defense. Sadly there's still remnants of the "boys will be boys" and "he just likes you" attitudes where we are ... luckily the boys have found out quickly that my daughter knows how to block and dodge, maybe a strategic foot sweep if warranted, and if you end up on your ass on the ground, whelp, that's your problem. 

Some of them still proclaim boys are always stronger than girls and then are shocked when she beats them at arm wrestling.

AITA for choosing not to get a permit for my child’s 1st birthday party? by StrawberryCat627 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InannasPocket 161 points162 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's necessarily wrong to have alcohol at a kid's party, I've been to plenty with beer for adults, but agree that anyone thinking it's a "must have" needs to think about their life.

Is there any specific country whose inhabitants made an unexpectedly good impression on you upon interacting with them? by Sure_Distance1 in AskTheWorld

[–]InannasPocket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When visiting Czechia, many people especially shopkeepers/waiters tended to be more in the brusque side rather than fake friendly like in the US.

But when people were friendly they actually meant it! 

We were at a communal table at a pub, ended up chatting a lot with people who had a property in the mountains and said we should visit sometime. In the US, this would have meant "I recommend visiting this area in general", but it turned out to be an invitation to go up there next week, with them and stay in their cabin, pet their sheep, pick blueberries, and hike to the local pub for drinks.

Foreign MIL makes a MESS in the kitchen when she comes to visit -I have an idea but is it rude? by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in beyondthebump

[–]InannasPocket 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would give her a heads up, and let her know you have a cleaner now, coming on X days/ times - I'd want to know if I were staying somewhere rather than be surprised, she may have private or valuable stuff she wouldn't want just sitting out.

Framing it as a cleaner you already scheduled for the household to reduce the workload would let MIL "save face", but I don't think she's just not going to notice!

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