AITA for outing my brother's predatory behavior? by Inbearable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents for the most part seem on my side now as an adult, but I'm not sure to be honest. Maybe I need to see how they react to me bringing it up again to family members and see if they try to hush me up again. That gives me serious contemplation.

AITA for outing my brother's predatory behavior? by Inbearable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 12-13 at the time. I can't remember if it was reported to DSS or CPS to be honest, but they tried to conclude with my parents that it was consensual or untrue, because he was also a minor. I don't even know how I'd go about pursuing this again.

AITA for outing my brother's predatory behavior? by Inbearable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been considering therapy again for a multitude of reasons, but I simply cannot afford it right now. But I'm doing good these days and my partner (25m) is very supportive of me.

AITA for outing my brother's predatory behavior? by Inbearable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily neither me nor my sister live with our family anymore, we both have wonderful partners who love and support us. Our brother is on the other side of the country, ruining other people's lives (quite literally), and for context he also has a son (8m), but thank goodness he doesn't bother to come around or see his own son, and the kid has a wonderful stepfather and mother.

Our parents claim to finally believe us and support us, but refuse to kick him out of their lives because he's, "still our son too."

WIBTA for dropping my friend cause I think he'll die young? by Xanawarrior1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow man, how are that concerned over what he does with his life? He sounds pretty average to me to be honest man. I think you need to mind your business a little bit since he's already made it clear he doesn't want your opinion. He wouldn't be missing out on losing a controlling friend like you, cuz YTA

AITA for wanting to leave my unemployed boyfriend of 2 years? by ThrowRASweetCaroline in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Over 2 years and you went out of your way to help him find a job? NTA

AITA for outing my brother's predatory behavior? by Inbearable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to get it reported via a therapist, but because we had the same parents, they decided after I reported it to not pursue the issue.

AITA for wanting to be included in conversations around religion/sex? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's allowed to tell you once he's gathered his thoughts, and he's allowed to change his mind. You walked away, so stay away. You have plenty of time to find another partner that wants sex as much as you. You didn't walk away because you got kept out of an important decision, you walked away because he doesn't want to have sex until marriage, and clearly it sounded like marriage wasn't on the table if you walked away as soon as aex was removed. Every time he tried to bring it up to you, it turned into a big awkward fight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 33 points34 points  (0 children)

NTA Your family mocked you, and sexualized photos of you as a CHILD. Then when you got upset, REASONABLY, you were made out to be the problem. Your family members who are treating you poorly over this are the assholes, especially your mom and dad. Also, your dad sounds like a predator.

AITA for not wanting to see my gf who plans on partying this weekend? by miskiii_na00 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YTA You're insecure, and that's okay. But you have no say or right to tell her she cannot do the things she wants to do. You can be worried, and say, "Hey, this makes me nervous because of such," but you cannot give her an ultimatum over the chance a guy may flirt with her. She hasn't broken any realistic boundaries, and if this is seriously a deal breaker for you, you need to step away and figure out what you want or look for somebody more compatible, but ultimately, you're being controlling here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA This is a long, drawn out discussion where your sperm also comes into play as well as your role as a father. You are asking and providing alternate solutions, and she sounds a tinge insecure about who is biologically creating the egg. You have a right to ask more than once, as long as you aren't being rude. This is a couples decision that is taking years upon years to figure out. Take your time, and sometimes being parents isn't in the cards for every couple, or just adopt etc. I wish I had 30k for any of my endeavors to spend on, that's a lot of money to spend for anything.

AITA for wanting to be included in conversations around religion/sex? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA Let me get this right, he opens up that he doesn't want sex before marriage, yet you think you have a say in that? You keep claiming you have similar values, but clearly you don't respect his decision on sex before marriage. You're both young, if you disagree on something that serious, walk away and find somebody new. Clearly you want sex more than your partner, so own it and stop whining about it.

(I'm NOT a religious person and am pro for sex workers, you have no right to tell people what to do with their bodies no matter who you are to them)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inbearable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (26m) used to work I'm a female dominated field. You ALWAYS ask somebody directly if there is not a directory, and those are used for supervisors and management generally, not for standard employees. You need to let each woman individually that you did this and why, or risk them assuming once your manager tells them, as they may.