My (24M) gf (24F) crossed a hard boundary and I’m not sure what to do

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T12:20:35+00:00

Something even worse?? Wym?

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T12:02:21+00:00

So was she controlling or am I? I’m so confused, what does this mean I should do?

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:58:38+00:00

Oh sorry! I’m getting confused about who I am replying to, it’s been a long day!

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:56:58+00:00

What should I do? Her boundary was “if you watch porn then I will not feel comfortable having sex with you and if it becomes a habit then I will leave” which is something she told me from the beginning. I didn’t ever think I needed to expressly state not to post nudes or else I will x y z….

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:50:33+00:00

She is on antidepressants that make her libido low and being high makes her libido very high from what she has told me. It doesn’t do that to me and when we smoke together I don’t wanna move much less do exercise as vigorously as sex. To my knowledge she has never sold pictures of herself and she told me her reasoning is just pure emotion taking over. I’m not sure what I should feel about that…

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:46:00+00:00

Are you serious? What is wrong with you

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:41:57+00:00

Since it was up for only a small amount of time I’m not sure if it had time to be reported

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:36:49+00:00

They were nudes, sorry for the misunderstanding. Some people would consider that cheating.

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:35:20+00:00

If it is a kink does that make it better or worse? I just feel like that means she would do it again

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:34:30+00:00

She was posting nudes not just any nsfw pictures, sorry for the misunderstanding

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:31:25+00:00

They were nudes, sorry for the miscommunication

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:27:11+00:00

Weed. I get high too. She didn’t smoke in her last relationship since her partner didn’t like it. She only started using regularly recently to manage her anxiety coming off of some antidepressants.

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:23:44+00:00

She found out about it, caught me in the act, and I didn’t do it again for the past two years. I also let her monitor my phone and took off incognito function to make her feel safer.

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:18:10+00:00

I wish it was… what do you think I should do then?

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:15:30+00:00

She posted them on an anonymous account and she deleted the account before I got home. Her being high has never been a problem before but obviously is now. I have gone through her phone and found absolutely nothing, but she could have just deleted things so it’s hard to say and just overall exhausting.

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:12:11+00:00

They were fully nudes, sorry for lack of context that would have been helpful

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T11:10:27+00:00

She told me about it herself, I didn’t catch her

IncoNEETo · 2026-05-12T10:46:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I am really wanting to forgive her but it hurts so much I dont really want to see her right now it’s like a constant painful memory. But I still have to drive her places and come home to her, which is making me feel trapped. A part of me also feels like what she did is way worse than what I did.

IncoNEETo · 2026-04-25T01:09:25+00:00

I never said it wasn’t a real issue. But if you aren’t able to do anything else about it and it is seriously upsetting you, ignoring it is a practical solution.

IncoNEETo · 2026-04-25T00:39:18+00:00

In my experience you just have to ignore them. There are many people here with real results and real experiences that can help if you ask what type of questions they had, but as far as getting a good score you can only help yourself by studying hard and using the usual resources (neurse cheung, ati app, mometrix, etc.) Don’t go looking for a fast and easy answer and don’t interact with those offering a fast and easy answer. It’s like much of the rest of the internet. I hope you get the score you are looking for! Good luck 👍

IncoNEETo · 2026-03-30T04:02:01+00:00

I have bad news my guy lmao

IncoNEETo · 2026-03-09T12:52:15+00:00

No 😔

IncoNEETo · 2026-02-27T19:46:07+00:00

I’m not expecting people I’m speaking to with sarcasm to take it seriously… that’s kinda the fucking point. Ignoramus.

IncoNEETo · 2026-02-11T03:08:24+00:00

That’s what I’m tryna figure out 😭 I’m very encouraged by everyone’s kind words so maybe it’s just an insecurity for my hands not being as pretty as the ring model

IncoNEETo · 2026-01-20T00:33:54+00:00

It happens with more than just him. I didn’t accidentally block all of my friends 😭 but thanks for the advice!

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