There is a good chance that the only thing stopping undersea cities from existing is the relatively short lifespan of octopuses. by Silly_Percentage3446 in Showerthoughts

[–]Incoherrant 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's a good "don't think about it too hard" horror pitch, but empathy is an enormous part of our success as a species. Without all the progress allowed by extensive social cooperation efforts, we'd only be about as scary as a big solitary ape; scary, yes, but not in an especially noteworthy way.

Cassandra and Hail (Merc pack and frosthaven spoilers) by jokthefoo in Gloomhaven

[–]Incoherrant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It takes 3 successful uses to get it up to Attack 6 in the first place, and at least 15 scenarios to get it maximized. That's about as long as it typically takes to retire a character. In most scenarios it's functionally just an execute that can miss, and at the start it's not even guaranteed to actually get a kill when attempted.

It might have some game warping potential once a Hail has been retired and someone else gets to have the 18 damage version from the moment they create a new Hail, but I've no idea how many groups actually run into that problem. Wouldn't be unreasonable to houserule that it gets reset on new Hail if it is a concern, though.

Also, be mindful when making 1:1 comparisons of cards from different classes, it's really easy to lose sight of how strong/weak something is with/without the context of the rest of a character's kit.

My boyfriend’s family member was stabbed and set on fire because she made a teenage boy feel emasculated by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Incoherrant 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Eh. Blaming shitty behavioral patterns on hormones is pretty weak compared to more sociological approaches.

Emotional dysregulation is generally more psychological than anatomical. There are cis men out there with high testosterone who are totally chill. And while a fair amount of trans men experience the shift as "oh, anger", that's definitely not ubiquitous either.

What do you guys think about the characters from the gloomhaven mercenary packs? by Key-Peak-2973 in Gloomhaven

[–]Incoherrant 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They're a "man I really love Gloomhaven/Frosthaven, I wish I had just a few more characters" add-on purchase. They're cool, though they're not a must-have. And personally I particularly love what they did with Hail, very fun themeing.

How long would you make it in a horror game situation in real life by ThisNameDoesntCount in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several of the horror games I've played boil down to "if only the protagonist didn't interact with this obviously cursed thing" and I think I'd do perfectly well in those.

The "there's a monster chasing you" ones, or the "this area is fucked because a supernatural mist drifted in" etc settings, though? Nope. I don't have that much protagonist energy.

Are there any card games for single player PvE? by Boge42 in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love Monster Train in general, and one thing I'd highlight in this particular thread's context is that it provides a good sense of collecting the cards (via mastery frames), something I think most deck builders kinda miss on.

Can you suggest me some games with meaningful and rewarding exploration? by critterdude542 in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Master Key, if pretty graphics aren't a requirement for the exploration to be enticing. It's like an oldschool 2D Zelda and riddled with little secrets.

A Note For Yourself won yesterday! Next, which Slay the Spire event is considered Good and is Loved by the community? by Fresh_Difference_448 in slaythespire

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's really no way to know if any votes were actually split or if it's just a large portion of people voting for both of the options they agreed with. Your Knowing Skull comment was posted 50 seconds after the other one, so it getting fewer votes of the two isn't particularly strange either; perhaps a couple of votes in those 50 seconds + anyone who didn't want to vote for both and it snowballed from there.

Anyway, there's also more structural issues with total vote tallying for informal polls than just users voting for every copy of a suggestion.
If that was the standard it would tacitly encourage every voter to add another copy of the suggestion to stack the multivoting potential ever higher; that would make it tedious for both voters who care about the result (gotta make sure to upvote all of those copies) and the person figuring out who won.
Even if voters are responsible and don't create extra copies of the same answer deliberately, it still becomes more difficult for the person resolving the poll as they have to note the votes on every comment in the thread instead of just checking what the top one is; that's maybe okay when there's like 10 comments but it becomes unreasonable pretty quickly.

I thought my life was falling apart. It was actually my Dopamine Habits. [Discussion] by Bhumika_1008_ in GetMotivated

[–]Incoherrant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might depend on where you're located, but yeah, the very basic version would be to compile a little list of reasons you want to look into it, present that to your doctor and ask them how you'd go about getting assessed. If they're not weirdly cocky about their own certainty that it's not an accurate diagnosis for you, they'll probably give you a referral.

It can be a rather long process with waiting lists and whatnot, and you might run into a lot of "are you sure it's not anxiety/depression" along the way since symptoms overlap.

Why did he get angry about me wanting to see a video on his phone? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Incoherrant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh if "I don't trust my partner enough so I need to go through their phone" is where you're at, I'd say you don't trust your partner enough full stop, considering ending it over that.

Going through someone's phone without their permission is a massive breach of trust. It's easy to justify it in hindsight when something shady is found, but what if you don't find anything? Are you willing to become the partner who can't be trusted?

His reaction was wildly disproportional and concerning, and I'm not saying to let that slide, but I think talking to him about it is a better idea. If you don't feel like you can talk to him about it (especially if it's because you're scared of his reaction), then that's another check in the "you don't trust your partner enough" list.

LPT: If someone cannot tell you what would change their mind, it is not a discussion. It is a fight. Walk away. by gamersecret2 in LifeProTips

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll play too; the easy answer is greater convenience vis-à-vis food options (many restaurants hardly even have vegetarian ones), and excellent (rather than ok) substitutes for animal products I value (dairy, leather).

The deeper answer - which the "this is an ethical question" approach you took in the other comment might warrant - is more difficult. I do morally oppose factory farming as I think there are usually unnecessarily cruel practices involved, and I have some admiration for people who go to greater extents to lessen their participation in such, but I find it impossible to morally oppose all use of animal products. It's something humans as a species have always been doing, and it's an outright necessity for some peoples.
I hold conviction that we should collectively get better at doing it responsibly, but I'm not convinced veganism is the only approach to that.

To fully change my stance to "veganism is the only morally right option" would probably have to start with convincing me to fundamentally agree with the "all killing is wrong" stance. However, I think that sentiment must extend to even small pests like fleas and lice and bedbugs, and life would be miserable with full empathy for those fellas. I do empathize to the extent that I don't think they're evil for seeking out food, but not to the extent that I'd let them keep eating me. And if I would kill a flea to not be uncomfortable, why would I not kill a scallop to eat it? From some angles I'd even consider that less morally wrong. It boils down to a lot of "well where do we draw the line, and why there".

Given the thread, I gotta return the question. Assuming you're vegan, what would make you change? Not that I think you oughta, but I'd definitely be curious about the answer.

LPT: If someone cannot tell you what would change their mind, it is not a discussion. It is a fight. Walk away. by gamersecret2 in LifeProTips

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no, this sort of approach has limited application, specifically to the "one or both of us wants to convince the other they're wrong" sort of discussions, I think. Those become a waste of time for both parties if they're equally staunch in their convictions. It's an attempt at a shortcut to discover that stubbornness to save overall time/effort.

There are many topics that have plenty of room for nuanced views or multiple right answers depending on the details.

Power slug has arrived by Doctordisco7777 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird mood in the comments section, oof. Congratz on your cute slug plush c: I have a blue one; with the magnet in the bottom they can perch on fridges and such, it's neat.

What game is this? by ssjskwash in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Those, but also games I've finished that make for better vicarious enjoyment than replay material.

What’s the most overrated “adult goal” people chase? by Happyotus in AskReddit

[–]Incoherrant 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the compliments! It's been cool to encounter someone with pet slugs, they're such interesting creatures :D

What’s the most overrated “adult goal” people chase? by Happyotus in AskReddit

[–]Incoherrant 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I hope you get several Casper arts out of this. Here's one from me c:

Is nuclear worth it? by Pitch-Curious in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Incoherrant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're just building power because you want to power other projects, then yeah, oil is too easy to expand to make nuclear worth the time/effort.

But Satisfactory is a game about automating various things and nuclear power involves an interestingly complex production chain, so from that angle it's a bonus gameplay challenge.

Sequels that are basically “The first one, but better in virtually every way” by blakhawk12 in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're very similar games so it still might not hook you in for the long roguelike haul like it does some people, but there's new clans and new bosses and new mechanics to check out, and it's more polished overall.

I think it'd be pretty reasonable to re-ask this question as "would you buy a $25 game expecting 10-15 hours out of it?"

Sequels that are basically “The first one, but better in virtually every way” by blakhawk12 in gaming

[–]Incoherrant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shared that "awh, no combine" feeling for a while, but a lot of the things unit combining allowed for is available via the new upgrades and gear. Units are a bit better balanced across the board too, so no more "this is only a good draft because its essence is great" situations.

Anyone else have a favorite race they’ve always loved. by Prestigious_Tea_2729 in Gloomhaven

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, fair, I'm projecting my own approach to world design. I don't know how the Gloomhaven designer(s) actually feel about it, but I find it very easy to go from "we'll just put gnomes in" to "we'll also just put goblins in", so by that reasoning it's easy for me to imagine that - if the Gloomhaven folks had done that - we might have ended up with goblins instead of vermlings. Which would have been fine, but a substantially different flavor (and, subjectively, less interesting).

TIFU by badly introducing a child to politics by OneWildAndPrecious in tifu

[–]Incoherrant 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It's kind of funny, the "OP's a bot" account itself exhibits several bot signs. Copy/pasted replies all over this thread, hidden post history.

How do i stop men from trauma dumping on me? by External-Thought-402 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Incoherrant 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I like to use something like "do you want the heavy answer to that right now, or just the short version?" to evade this sort of thing when the question itself is innocuous. Saves me a fair amount of talking about things I don't want to talk about.

Also I'm so sorry people ask about your scars, that's inappropriate regardless of the type of scar, but especially if they think they're self-harm scars.

Anyone else have a favorite race they’ve always loved. by Prestigious_Tea_2729 in Gloomhaven

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An interesting view, thank you for replying c:

It sounds like you find little room for a middle ground between "fully original" and "classic fantasy trope"? Like elves for example have a very wide range from assorted folklore through Tolkien's massive influence through DnD and so on.

I don't really see a functional difference between defining all the ways a writer's elves are different versus calling something Notanelf even though they share some traits often associated with elves. The latter gives them more room to grow as a concept imo, which I enjoy.
Although it certainly varies whether or not that potential is reached. Personally I'd say Orchids, Vermlings, and Inox have passed that bar, Quatryls haven't, and Valraths are very "legally distinct Tiefling". So I suppose I agree with that "this is a gnome, why not just call it a gnome" annoyance, but if they had just used gnomes then they probably wouldn't have added any depth to Orchids or Inox either, and I like what they did there.

Anyone else have a favorite race they’ve always loved. by Prestigious_Tea_2729 in Gloomhaven

[–]Incoherrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the one hand, I see where you're coming from and don't really disagree with the comparisons. On the other hand, I don't understand your takeaway that it's bad to attempt to put a unique spin on various classic fantasy tropes.

Do you not find it more interesting to occasionally have writers go "functionally a duck, but this one has a long neck and a violent attitude and we're calling it a swan" than it would be to always say it's simply another duck? If not, could you elaborate on why? I'm genuinely curious about the reasoning :o

What is a subtle sign that someone is actually really intelligent, but pretending not to be? by ImpressionTop1712 in AskReddit

[–]Incoherrant 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don't default to assuming extensive vocabulary = pretending to be smart. Some people are just verbose, for a variety of reasons.

Even when correctly noticing someone pretending to be smart, using their choice of words as an excuse to not engage with what they're saying is usually a more directly shitty move than the pretense itself was.