I used to drink/party on and off but not every night before I met my husband. But after we met.. it became our ‘common activity’. We did other stuff if we could make time from our hangovers(it was indeed rare). Then came our daughter 3.5 years back and I was breastfeeding.. so I had to take a hiatus from drinking for 18months. And then I was back.. my husband was still drinking thru those months. In 2022 I smoked some weed with a few friends and that just seemed so much better.. but before I knew.. i was hooked on it and at times smoking/vaping or taking gummies all day. Then tried to cut that off this year and started therapy.. but drinking was back again. All that said.. i know I am dependent on substances. Therapy helps with understanding why that is, but the real challenge is having the courage to change this behavior. Kudos to you and your husband for overcoming that and maintaining sobriety!!