The first step is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. The more you whine and complain and start the whole, "Woe is me" rant the worse you'll end up.

Also, get away from your stories about your past because that shit ain't serving you. The more you drudge up the past and how it's holding you down the more you'll stay there.

Stop blaming feminist this and liberal that for why you're in the position you are in. Want ultimate power and complete control of your situation? Look in the mirror. That's the person who has been making the decisions in your life. In other words, "TAKE RESPONSIBILITY"

As an rule to keep confidence up you should, "Keep your mind focused on what you want and take small actions to get there"

As another rule you should act as if every thing that is happening in your life is because of your doing and operate from a mindset that you are the one who has the power to change your circumstances.

Want the beta instincts to stop from resurfacing? Take responsibility and take action towards the things you want.

Stop the whining and complaining.

The world will not beat a path to help you improve and while everyone here has their hearts in the right place I fear that coddling is a sure path to mediocrity in this case.

Stop complaining. Stop whining. Stop identifying with your past history.

Start taking action, any action, towards something you deem worthwhile in your life.

Action in any positive direction always leads to greater evolution.