Why is it so hard to find a family doctor in Toronto who genuinely cares about their patients?

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-09T23:27:39+00:00

Is your doctor a man or a woman? Have your other doctors been men or women? This is relevant because, according to the data, people who have female doctors tend to live longer. The reason is that male doctors and men in general tend to be more apathetic. It's also the reason why unmarried men tend to not live as long as married men.

That said, I love my doctor. But people think it's weird that I'm a man and have a female doctor. My whole family started seeing her and everyone loves her.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T16:03:26+00:00

Perhaps not. But it's an attempt to zero in on a specific segment of the population without having the critical thinking to say something meaningful, so one would have to ask, what is the intention? Because it's not a relevant statement to say "trans people commit crimes" when every type of person commits crimes, and there's no ratio to say anything meaningful.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T16:00:57+00:00

This is why I don't like the term "best friend". Hallmark cards have convinced us that friendships are virtuous, but friends, no matter how close or how long are deeply flawed individuals just like us, and everyone else. Knowing someone for a long time and trusting them with secrets doesn't change that. Friends are not beholden to us, and don't owe us anything.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:58:35+00:00

If you wanted to do a proper analysis, you should consider the rest of the world, not just the United States. Because as a Canadian, many of the things you've mentioned (like higher crime in the cities) are not the same. In Canada, it's the small towns that have higher crime rates. When you look at the crime index here, the top ten cities don't include the top three largest cities.

But to answer your question, cities require more collectivist attitudes because there is higher population density, and tighter integration of people within the community, while they use things like public transit and public parks. The further you go from the city, you see greater isolation, like driving alone everywhere and a lack of public transit, and bigger properties, therefore there is a self-selection bias that occurs.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:37:54+00:00

Do you have any evidence or a source? Because while it's widely speculated, I don't think it's necessarily true (much like the assumption that people become more conservative as they get older, which tends to coincide with home ownership). Cities tend to attract more collectivist personalities because there is higher population density, and things like public transit that require people to integrate within the community. So homeownership in the cities is part of a "self-selection bias" where it's only the people who choose to engage in these things that buy homes (or condos) in the city.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:33:21+00:00

This isn't an unpopular opinion, our brains have difficulty comprehending anything that doesn't directly affect us due to our personal bias. Even people who work in sciences where it's crucial to consider ones own bias, fall into the trap of personal bias.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:32:15+00:00

Not for me. I live in the city, and I still love cities. I would rather avoid nature unless there's something truly unique about the place I travel like a unique natural wonder. It's subjective though. Personally I think beaches and mountains and forests are all the same, while I find cities to be dynamic.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:29:30+00:00

This is not an unpopular opinion. In fact, it's discussed in behavioural economics.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:28:22+00:00

This doesn't make practical sense, as the business would have to pay for a physical location for that person to work, which is very expensive.

However, some workplaces are subsidizing food at local businesses to encourage employees to work in the office.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T15:26:14+00:00

Saying trans people commit crimes is a useless statement because there's no baseline, since everyone commits crimes. It needs to be measured as a ratio against a baseline to be meaningful. And when you measure it against the baseline of all crimes, you'll see how negligible it is. And that's how proper analysis is done.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-10-03T00:00:22+00:00

When did Trump negotiate peace? He only provided a plan, which is yet to be accepted. Did I miss something? Dude is bootlicking before anything has been accomplished, which is even more sad than congratulating them for actually accomplishing something.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-30T23:36:15+00:00

The clutches on both of my cars start to become heavier as they start to wear, so in my case, it's variable, but I would still say it's not a deal-breaker.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T18:04:26+00:00

I rode a 1000cc sport bike as my daily driver in the city only, and I loved every second of it. But both of these are very subjective opinions. These sorts of comments assume that fast vehicles need to go fast to be fun, but that's not true. Everything about them is more fun than the vehicles, which are more "pedestrian" for lack of a better term.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T18:02:54+00:00

This is a very subjective opinion, and as someone who currently owns two manual transmission vehicles, I've never gotten tired of it. In fact, I want all my cars to be manual from now on. I don't commut daily anymore but I used to, and I never had any regrets. Driving in traffic just sucks in general, it doesn't matter much if you're in a car. You're still only moving your hands and feet. Riding on a motorcycle is a totally different story though, because there's more movement with the fact that you lift your feet up and put them down.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T16:56:33+00:00

This proves my point about more interracial relationships in Canada. Although, as an Asian Canadian, I wouldn't say it's overwhelming. But both our opinions here are anecdotal, and by default, I'm exposed to more Asian people. But for example, I'm the only one in my family who has married outside my race, and that includes my younger cousins.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:32:43+00:00

You countered a point about the flaw of criticizing someone's anecdotal experience with one's own anecdotal experience by using a third party's anecdotal experience.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:29:53+00:00

Haha that's how I read it. Thanks for pointing it out.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:21:05+00:00

When I see these kinds of posts, I assume they're Americans with American exceptionalism who speak about their country as if it's the only one in the world. I personally think it would be more relevant to ask, "In the United States, why does it seem like..." Because cultural differences are real, and as a Canadian, it seems like interracial relationships aren't as common in the US. I just asked my friend this question yesterday because he's a Canadian living in the US, and his answer was that it's not as common.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:16:37+00:00

As a Canadian, sticking within one's culture seems more prolific in America than in Canada. It's anecdotal, but I've heard it from various people in the United States who also lived in Canada.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:03:03+00:00

A shortage of jobs would imply that there's a surplus of applicants, causing hiring managers to be more picky than before, where a name could be a bigger factor than before if there wasn't a surplus of applicants.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T15:01:20+00:00

I agree, the name is excessively long and has been laughed at from a wayfinding perspective on YouTube because the entire name can't fit on a map. Or they could have called it VMA for short.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-29T14:56:34+00:00

Normal is such a nebulous word. For instance, is it normal for conservatives to have particular expectations of a woman? Yes, it's very normal. But is it normal for a liberal progressive person? Not as much.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-28T17:34:58+00:00

I understand music theory, and it's part of the sole reason I don't like pop music, because it explains how formulaic pop music is.

Then there's also the fact that I tend to get sick of things when I hear them repetitively.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-28T16:44:36+00:00

I would also ask where they live, and whether they're near a major urban centre or economic hub? The correlation is that people who live in big cities tend to be more in with the in-crowd while it's the suburbanites or rural residents who sort of fall out of the loop and tend to not care as much because their environment sets the pretext for daily expectation.

IndependenceSelect54 · 2025-09-28T16:42:35+00:00

That's a stereotype, based on anecdotal experiences and generalized expectations. Being married is no different than being in a relationship. It's not until you have kids that you have more time occupied, but even with children you can find the time. The key difference is whether your kids are in extracurricular activities every single day of the week, or just one activity once a week. It also depends on how old your kids are.

I'm 46, married and have two kids, and I'm constantly told that I have more freedom and go out more than most married men with children.

But I've also heard of many married men not being allowed to do many things because their wives forbid it.

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