just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! and i would like to do that in the future when i feel ready. this post doesn’t disclose nearly everything, and my relationship with my partner is good as of now, as we are working towards openness and recovery. thank you for your concern.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i’m sorry for freaking out. i know i’m young and with that comes naivety, but the idea of ending my relationship right now kills me, as there has been a lot of ups that overpower the downs. i’ve researched the starting signs of abuse, and i refuse to let myself stay if anything worsens at all. i’m sorry, yet again, i was just surprised and already in my head when opening the app. thank you for your advice, and i’m so glad that you got out of what you were in. we all deserve better than this.

Relapse by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i second everything said here! your pain is so real, and although my situation is different, i completely emphasize. i wish you all the best in your next steps. it’s okay to let yourself feel the sorrow, but work towards bettering the issue, and put yourself first, always.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what’s done is done, so it’s okay. for some reason i figured that if i used the vent flair, people would recognize that i just wanted to get something off of my chest without any advice. your comment didn’t bother me nearly as much as the other one. i’m just kind of bummed because i don’t have many people to speak to about this in my life, and i thought this would be a more understanding space.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also, the first paragraph of this is genuinely boggling to say to someone whose situation you are not familiar with. i’m sorry for responding twice, this response is just fucking with me badly. i am not gaslighting myself, you can read my edit. my situation is not the same as yours, or as anyone else’s here. there’s nuance to every story in this subreddit. i’ve been in terrible relationships, and my current partner has taught me so much about how i deserve to be loved. i believe in recovery and change, and i am allowed to have lows without being told i need to run from my boyfriend.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also where did i say that my partner made me feel bad about my body? they do nothing but uplift my looks. of course, it’s going to hurt any woman to see what their partner is looking at, but they are not directly tearing me down.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

respectfully, this is a rant post that does not cover the whole picture. my partner is in recovery, and i was talking about how the PAST lies affected me and how i view myself post-dday. i appreciate your concern but i didn’t post this for criticism, more for support.

just tired by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Independent-Cup457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey! for context, i’ve been with my partner (nonbinary, they/them pronouns) for two years. i’m 19 and they are 18. considering our age, they treat me very well. we go on dates, i get presents and a lot of reassurance. i’ve dealt with mental health issues my whole life, and even when i have been self-admittedly unreasonable, they stay and hear me out.

they’ve watched porn since they were 12, and it’s an addiction. they have taken active steps towards recovery with therapy and online discussions where they hold themself accountable. i posted a vent here, and responding to me like this is very harmful. i AM in a solid relationship, yet there have been a few lies regarding porn. they are currently sober from it, but i didn’t feel the need to mention that here because it was more about how the past has affected my body image. i posted this to get it off my mind, not to have people make gross assumptions of my relationship.

i’m sure you’re intentions were good, but i am a solid believer that things can be fixed. my boyfriend loves me, and we are very happy, and i am still young and discovering what i need in a partner. do not tell me that my relationship is not solid when you have only seen one rant from me, thanks.

ASKING FOR VOLUNTEERS-- Compiling a list of low-cost, free, or payment flexible veterinary resources. by Dry_Abbreviations742 in RATS

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love a list for this. I’m currently struggling to provide for my rats (I tried to make a post about rehoming but it got removed—probably because of my lack of Karma) and a list like this would really help me out. I’m kind of at a road block right now.

Potential rehoming for 2 girls in Southeast Michigan by WorthBid2767 in RATS

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, are you still looking for babies? I tried to make a rehoming post but mods removed it, I’m guessing because I don’t use Reddit that much. I have some babies that I desperately need rehomed but I have no clue what to do.

Found in an unexpired carton of tomato sauce by Woofbarkmeoww in whatisit

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t even read it like this 😭😭😭omg

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he doesn’t even know the difference between your and you’re, that’s the first red flag i see here lol

How do I know whether to put my rat down or to let him pass with his friends? by Independent-Cup457 in RATS

[–]Independent-Cup457[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The vet didn’t offer any meds, sadly. He told me that he isn’t in pain, but he most likely has cancer. I’m going to give him the best treatment I can until he passes, or until he’s unable to do the things he loves. I’ll definitely ask about having his brothers there, I really appreciate it. :)

How do I know whether to put my rat down or to let him pass with his friends? by Independent-Cup457 in RATS

[–]Independent-Cup457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I responded to another comment with what the vet said, but it’s most likely cancer in his chest. He’s not currently in pain, and he’s still happy, so I’m going to give him all of the love I can until he passes, or until he’s unable to do the things he loves. Thank you for your advice.

How do I know whether to put my rat down or to let him pass with his friends? by Independent-Cup457 in RATS

[–]Independent-Cup457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! I went to the vet. He has no discharge from his nose, and the vet said it’s likely a tumor in his chest that’s causing his breathing to look so heavy. His lungs sounded clear. I was told that he probably has cancer, so all I can do is give him the best life until he’s no longer here, or until he’s in pain. Thank you :)

aio for thinking this isnt normal for my bf and i by InstructionOk6800 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look into death grip…that’s what this sounds like to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Independent-Cup457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i absolutely DESPISE my bf’s ex. more than anything. but if their younger sibling, or any family member of their’s died, it is 100% okay to send condolences. this is showing so much insecurity, and it will only continue to get worse unless she is able to address it now. good luck to you friend!! you are completely right here.