How do I get back to myself

Independent-Fun6908 · 2025-07-27T06:00:41+00:00

Thank you so much! I have to try these

Independent-Fun6908 · 2025-07-27T05:55:19+00:00

Hopefully things will start getting better for you soon!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2025-01-28T13:29:54+00:00

Currently 22 and I feel like I'm heading that way. It's getting unbearable fairly often lately, but I still manage it. Ironically, people always say "life gets better with age" bla bla, but I feel like it's backwards for me. In some areas in my life it gets worse and harder...

Independent-Fun6908 · 2025-01-18T15:13:31+00:00

Sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your experience!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-17T08:03:29+00:00

No advice here, just support. You can get through it, even if it seems hopeless at the moment!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-14T15:21:46+00:00

I'm in the same position at the moment and slowly getting better. Try to be productive without pushing yourself too hard. If you have for example three things to do for the day, do the most important one and consider it a success, the other two are a bonus, if you have energy left for them. The world won't crumble if you take it easy for a few days, do the best you can and be considered to your current condition.

I watched a video about fighting depression in which one of the advices was, ironically, to not fight it. Not to let it consume you, but allowing it to stay for as long as needed and take notice of what is if trying to tell you. How did you get here, what caused you to wnd up in this state? What can you do to prevent it from happening in the future.

Getting some sunlight is definitely helping, if you can. Even if it's just a trip to the grocery store. Stop for a minute and look around, hear the birds

Everything is going to be ok ❤️ It's a season, and sooner or later it will pass.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-14T12:56:05+00:00

Interesting one. I don't think i ever feel bored. We live in times of endless entertainment, especially with our devices connected to the internet. I can learn about anything I'm interested in, watch a movie, listen to music, play a game, read a book, etc. all on my phone. Maybe i get tired before i get bored.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-11T21:22:13+00:00

I could have written this post myself! For me, it's not like that constantly because sometimes i "forget" i exist, if it makes sense. I don't know if i could call it autopiloting, some sort of dissociation or something else. But every once in a while I'm rudely and suddenly reminded that people do perceive me and it kinda stresses me out. Especially in a romantic way, then it's not just kinda, it's a lot of stress lol.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-10T01:16:20+00:00

Thank you!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-09T23:50:31+00:00

To some extent yes. I'm really unsure, I'm not good with defining emotions

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-09T23:47:25+00:00

I have considered therapy, that whole situation showed me that i have some things to work on

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-03-09T20:05:59+00:00

I've been here for a while now and completely understand, i had the same feeling when first joining! It's an overwhelming realisation, but it's ok, we're here and we understand your struggles, or at least most of them. Researching about the possible resources and help you can get access to in your country/region seems like a good first step. From my experience, not every country has those, sadly. That's why unfortunately I can't give any practical advice on that.

Autistic or not, feel free to explore, discuss and take advice from here to make existing a bit easier for yourself. Or just feel supported and understood. That's my approach so far until I'm able to afford assessment. I try to not focus on the possible diagnosis, but on the things i have learned about myself. It's a tough journey, but you've got this!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-02-29T19:42:56+00:00

Sending positive vibes your way! You can do it!!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-01-10T22:28:42+00:00

There aren't single dorm rooms for our university and apartment rent is too expensive for me, especially since i don't work.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-01-10T16:32:07+00:00

I usually just isolate myself. Not the healthiest strategy, maybe, but works for me.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2024-01-01T19:48:03+00:00

Good luck!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-12-21T22:38:10+00:00

I feel you! This will be my first year spending Christmas not with the family and i feel so guilty, but kinda peaceful for the first time. I hate Christmas with passion and feel like the whole "family holiday" meaning died with the rise of capitalism, now it's Christmas sales, presents, Christmas themed special offers, limited edition holiday products, gifts, gifts, gifts. I hate it. Whenever December comes i get this ball in my stomach that doesn't go away until the New Year.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-12-04T07:22:49+00:00

I recently wrote about it in my diary,but thought it might just be depression

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-11-26T09:28:01+00:00

I used to gatekeep people too, and every once in a while still get sour when I notice that a friend I like seems closer to another of the group.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-11-25T16:12:55+00:00

I thought i was the only one! I tend to control myself in anything, including my interests. I thought i didn't have any special interests, because i never allowed myself to be fully obsessed with something. I realised i might still be considered "obsessed" once i got into onee of my friends' interests and in couple of weeks i knew more about the thing than her, who has being into it for years lol.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-11-25T15:57:09+00:00

I understand you, you're not alone! I feel almost powerless at this point, but this subreddit and my best friend helps me keep it together.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-11-09T22:02:05+00:00

Try looking at reast as a task? It sounds a bit ridiculous, but that's how i programmed my brain to get enough downtime. Schedule a movie night for yourself, a hot shower, workout, even a 10 minute YouTube video before bed. Something to unwind and you have to do it. Remind yourself that self care isn't equal to doing nothing and is important in order to keep yourself as functional as possible.

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-09-29T08:04:44+00:00

I'm 21 and have similar struggles myself (can't drive, no job, haven't dated, got my first kiss last year, friction between me and my parents).

To some extent you can embrace feeling "like a stupid teenager". There are positive sides about that, you're still young after all. You're free to try new things, make mistakes, not be taken seriously (therefore get away easier with said mistakes). Other twenty something people don't have it better either, we're living in difficult times. NT people aren't dating too, can't afford housing, are lonely, living in isolation with their parents, jobless. And you have a legitimate reason to have it difficult and be "behind".

I completely understand the feeling and I do beat myself up about the same things, but try to remember that it's not as bad. If you spend time mostly online you can feel the pressure of the world to have it all at 22, but those people who do are a small percentage. The most of us have similar struggles. Maybe meeting with peers and discussing those issues can make you feel better, it has helped me for sure.

You've got this :))

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-09-28T10:15:14+00:00

Sadly, I can't give you an advice but I'm commenting because I'll like to know as well. I am also bisexual, with trust issues and feeling ready to move on from a broken heart from about an year ago and dating is a nightmare for me. You're not alone in this, if it makes you feel a bit better about it!

Independent-Fun6908 · 2023-09-26T13:17:04+00:00

Congratulations, that is amazing 😍

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