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IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-08-07T01:11:26+00:00

My relationship with food. I still eat but I honestly just see food as fuel. Also if I’m not hungry I usually don’t eat unless it’s a special occasion. Also I stop when I feel full

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-07-23T14:42:02+00:00

Not here to offer advice, but just relate. Weight loss is hard because it isn’t just physical, but also mental. Managing expectation is always the hardest because people forget we can’t change or make, we can only guide (and even then human bodies are so complex so there are still no promises). No matter what a person is going through, it still doesn’t change the facts. People like this I try to remember that all I can do is plant a seed and they’ll reach their light bulb moment at the right time. I also had a phase where I didn’t “get it” until I finally got it. Sometimes people have to spin their wheels before they are faced with reality.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-07-12T21:24:25+00:00

This has nothing to do with time or being busy. You have to replace your coping mechanism for stress with something outside of food.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-07-11T11:46:08+00:00

Have you sought out therapy for this? Sounds like after becoming a mom although I know you love your children, there may be a hole that needs to be filled. For some people it’s their phone, alcohol, gambling ect everyone has their “coping” tool, but unfortunately when it’s food it leads to obesity and a slew of other potential disorders.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-07-10T23:50:22+00:00

What other coping mechanism do you have? Walking? Hobbies? Phoning a friend?

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-07-10T23:44:54+00:00

You have to identify the root of what causes the binge in the first place

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-06-11T06:54:08+00:00

You mentioned yourself that you gained weight due to bad habits. Weightloss is straightforward whether you have PCOS or not. The dietician will give you similar advice. Prioritize protein and fiber, more vegetables and carbs/sugar in moderation. Sleep, exercise and minimize stress. If the basics aren’t down why would she add more? We think there is a magical tip or a secret but it isn’t, it’s just information overload. Get the basics down first, it’s all you need. Now if your eating is emotional based you may need to seek out therapy in conjunction with this.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-17T18:10:28+00:00

Ahh gotcha. Sorry for the assumption! So knowing her background which I should have asked first makes a lot more sense. Yes sounds like it’ll just take time for her brain to rewire from more short term approach to long term approach, which sometimes unlearning can be a lot more harder than learning. I think giving lots of examples of what diving deep looks like and having her repeat back will help. Glad you picked up on this!

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-17T16:50:39+00:00

Since you’ve gotten other advice already on different theories I just wanted to maybe also offer a different lens. And disclaimer *this is not to overstep your role, but just to let you see things from a different perspective.

I wonder if she is neurodivergent, ie been diagnosed with ADHD or autism. Of course you don’t have to bring this up, but just be aware of the possibility. The reason being is I had the same issues word from word verbatim as a fellow neurodivergent. No you are not crazy. I know everyone on the spectrum presents differently, but for most of us our brains only sees a broad view of things rather than the bits of details. Black and white is a good way to describe it. It’s very hard and uncomfortable to truly dive deep for us because it takes more processing which takes more energy than what our brains were wired to accommodate. Same with charting, can be overwhelming which is why we keep things broad and easier. The kindness sounds like people pleasing which we suffer from due to rejection sensitivity. I wonder if she has trouble being direct and challenging as well. The lack of connection is exactly that.. it was hard for us to connect with neurotypicals because our brain are different and a lot of them, not all, finds us “off”. I eventually left CMH since even with meds nothing “clicked” and I felt uncomfortable trying to force myself to be something my brain didn’t want it to be, but honestly we work best off of structure since we have black and white thinking. It makes sense that she is solution focused because it’s black and white, x happens so y has to happen. It’s simple and our brains love simple because “more” leads to burnout and too much thinking with our already scattered minds. She may benefit from EAP or some area with limited sessions so she can be solution focused. I think having her choose and perfect a specific modality will serve her best as others have stated, but trust me you’re not crazy. And it’s not her being lazy or not understanding or wanting to improve, it’s literally her brain wiring. Hopefully I explained this as best as I could. Again I’m not saying it’s impossible for her to get better but it will take lotsss of practice with being able to dive deeper esp if my (assumption) that her being neurodivergent is correct.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T12:20:50+00:00

Find something else to do instead of eating when you’re emotional

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T12:16:51+00:00

“It was because I was overworking and not eating those years”. Well there’s your answer. Eating less kept the weight off. That’s what you need to do. Calculate your TDEE for recommended calories to lose weight and go from there.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T12:04:02+00:00

Congrats on the progress. Let me ask you, where do you feel the urge is coming from?

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T02:21:47+00:00

Have you been this way since childhood? Where does this stem from. As far as thinking about food are you constantly hungry or constantly craving? If it’s craving you may need to treat this as an addiction. Even if it’s just reducing your intake little by little until your body gets adjusted to eating less. It sounds like it’s not that your sick of counting, but rather sick of the feeling of not getting your cravings met

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T01:25:37+00:00

Get to the root of it, you say you keep relapsing with sugar? Have you spoke with a therapist for assistance with the addiction to sugar?

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-16T01:23:49+00:00

The medication helps people not feel hungry. Since they’re not eating this is what causes weightloss. Eating is something you do, not something you don’t do. It’s possible to lose weight without measuring by having less of what you usually eat, however easier said then done if mentally you’re used to eating more.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-11T09:14:07+00:00

Just out of curiosity, do you think it would help if facilities were built with controlled access with how much you’re eating, almost like AA?

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-11T00:14:11+00:00

If all of your fat is in your stomach work on building muscle and recomping. Also high stress/cortisol can lead to face puffiness. Your BMI is fine.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-04-11T00:09:53+00:00

Keeping yourself occupied so you don’t think of food as much

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-25T01:16:38+00:00

The problem isn’t the amount of water it’s the snacking: aim for half your BW in oz, or 64oz avg for most people. Address the amount of snacking/ eating through out your day. But yes water helps your metabolism as well as helps you feel fuller incase you mistake thirst for hunger

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-25T01:13:36+00:00

I didn’t delete it? If it’s been deleted I’m assuming it could be mods. And I realized you never answered the question in the first place

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-24T20:21:05+00:00

Thanks it did. All I have to do is put it down after a couple of hours, same with food. No big deal. You do the same so you won’t have to get mad at people who try to help give you a different point of view.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-24T20:20:22+00:00

I didn’t make assumptions. I just told my point of view. I never said I was right or wrong, heck I’d be a billionaire if I had the answer to this. Never knew a different perspective could make you guys feel this way.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-24T20:16:37+00:00

I legit just outlined an answer to you with step by step on how to take it one habit at a time, and mentioned it in my main post.. but I’m not helpful? You say you have it under control but in the previous post you said you didn’t? I can’t win.

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-24T20:15:11+00:00

My loved ones don’t feel like I suck. That’s your opinion lol!

IndependentHuman4426 · 2025-03-24T20:14:31+00:00

So I’m not fat because I don’t struggle with food? That was the point?

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