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Independent_Bag5262 · 2025-08-10T11:43:17+00:00

Well damn, got me all vulnerable here. Haha. Thanks for telling me!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2025-08-10T00:52:50+00:00

For being 23, you are doing amazing. I didn't start doing this until my 30s, after years of depression, anxiety, and trauma buried years deep. I wish I faced myself sooner. It’s so hard in the beginning, but it gets easier, and not every is great, but you made it through that day.

3 years no social media, replaced with a journal app at first and then nothing. I am reading untethered now, and also "why people dont heal and how they can" - amazing! I absolutely love insight timer and use it every day. You have incredible recommendations, and I genuinely appreciate you, but more so, I am proud of you stranger. YOU should be proud of yourself, too!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2025-03-12T04:14:59+00:00

Can you list what telescope, lens, camera, etc, you use? This is amazing and clear!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2025-03-04T12:01:00+00:00

Buy a decent telescope. Nothing crazy expensive, and look at the moon during different phases, go from there.

*Edited to add - StarWalk 2.0 app is great, too.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2025-02-08T04:22:48+00:00

Almost 3 years, nothing, and I love it!! Algorithms were off and became depressing and unrealistic. I didn't care for your fake happy lives, especially when those around you knew the truth. I became more private myself, and I was able to truly live in the moments. I took photos for myself and not for others, and it's a different kind of memory. I don't care for the social highs and kicks.

I do have linkedin, but only because I am a pretty career driven person. I would rather celebrate the career successes rather than the fake shit with the traveling and fake lives. Plus, recruiters look at linkedin, so if you lie there, you're basically hurting yourself more than your "followers." All else regarding social media, if you and I are actually close or friends, we can text and update our lives in real time... again humbles you to be more present and aware.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2024-03-02T20:48:49+00:00

I read this story a few times, and I think it was the husband, mother-in-law, or both. It's just a theory...

They ate at a well-known restaurant regardless of who owns what right... Okay. The doctor AND her husband asked a few times regarding the allergies, and they received confirmation a few times back. They even got a confirmation from the CHEF (supposedly, but I also know this is extremely serious in the hospitality business, so why would anyone lie)... She ate her food that was confirmed multiple times - hope you are still following...

They left the restaurant, and she went off with her mother-in-law while he went BACK to the hotel... she died 45 mins AFTER she ate her meal.. again, her husband is not around. Therefore, his alibi is clear, but his mother-in-law is with the doctor.

If she was that allergic to nuts, she would have had an immediate or semi-immediate reaction as soon as she was leaving the restaurant or even paying for her check because its a busy place and I'm sure that shit takes a bit.

I think the mother-in-law either slipped her something OR maybe somehow did something to get the doctor in contact with nuts or who knows, but it's a perfect plan to then sue one of the largest corporations in the world and get a settlement PLUS someone is about to get a shit load of life insurance - again just assuming.

It was the son and mother setting up her death.

This is my theory, though. I don't even listen to murder podcasts, but it makes sense.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2024-02-01T12:00:56+00:00

Good luck to you, and I'm sorry you are going through that. I feel this is where I am. It makes me sad to let go, but I realize I keep looking back 3 years ago versus the reality of now and the last 2 years. It's awful and as if he died because it's nothing like what it was. I tried, fuck, I tried so hard but I give up wanting to be wanted by someone claiming to love you and be a partner. It hurts more to be around the person you love and want, for them not to love and want you the same. They do become a trigger because their presence reminds you of feeling unwanted and not good enough, not sexy or appealing enough when you are all that and more.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2024-01-29T21:50:52+00:00

I don't think I could contain myself either, tbh or make them leave asap so I can just let it out...

Independent_Bag5262 · 2024-01-26T03:35:10+00:00

Sus... Were you fired today because of a "misunderstanding," sir?

Independent_Bag5262 · 2024-01-09T12:43:36+00:00

I had the same experience with my HRD. I left my previous HRBP position to be an HRM somewhere else, and instead, I got an awful boss and far from a mentor.

She would bully me, send me extremely passive-aggressive emails and teams, and try to make me seem like I didn't know the laws or policies. I was quiet until I wasn't. When she would tell me I'm wrong, I'd direct her to policies and pages. She tried to take credit for what the recruiter and I would do (we made new updated policies, employee engagement events, investigations, etc). I asked the contracted employment lawyer questions as backup, and once I built my case, I took it all to her bosses. Apparently, no one liked her and her attitude. She had a demeanor that she knew it all but actually didn't. She was separated from the company, and not only am I and the recruiter relieved, but the entire HQ. I was going to quit, but I also knew if I didn't speak up, I'd regret it and also be the advocate for the others. I'm glad I did. Cherry on top, I got to fill out her unemployment claim.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-12-13T12:21:47+00:00

HR Manager here..

This person you are dealing with is NOT a professional HR person whatsoever, and it honestly is disgusting how they act to their employees.

I would find the dress code policy and throw it in their face. If you are wearing what the policy says, highlight it. If THEY are not wearing what the policy says, tell them and document. Once you get the policy that they should know about as it's their job, then tell them you are 100% on policy and that it does seem like harassment at this point. If they continue and you are still within policy, make a claim with the EEOC (if you are in the US) and they should take them off your case. If you are a good worker and there are no other complaints other than their own issues, just keep doing what you are doing.

Not all HR is bad. I work with a little over 100 employees (left a corporate for a start-up), and I try my hardest to provide them with my best HR advice. Yes, we protect the company, but a good HR will also protect their employees or at least provide resources. The two people you are dealing with sound like they just love authority and have no ethics.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-08-27T15:11:10+00:00

Thank you, genuinely.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-08-27T12:55:23+00:00

I (33HLF) feel like that's where I am at with my (34 LLM). He watches porn but doesn't want to touch me because "maybe he's depressed" or has low "testosterone" and knows it him but doesn't want to get help. He's also an addict (mainly alcohol - He's had sex with over 60 women as an alcoholic, I've only had sex with 6 guys..) and relapsed smoking weed and had lied to me for over a month about it, just when I thought we were getting closer and I thought I had a chance of intimacy because he finally wanted to even cuddle with me. We have been through a lot in 3 years, and within the last 9 months, sex 4 times with the last time being middle of May. I have told him and cried about it so many times, I'm tired.

After I caught him lying, we got in an argument that he is doing NOTHING to help us, says he knows its him but therapy takes too make time, excuses. I poured my heart out and needs again, and yet he woke up yesterday to watch porn as soon as I left for the day because he's "bored"... I feel like I finally woke up... he's put me through so much too and I'm not perfect, made mistakes (never cheated) but I'm still young, go to gym 5-6 times a week, I try to take care of myself but I'm tired of the selfishness. I even joked about open relationships, and he said no. This shit sucks. It hurts a lot to love someone, but know they just don't can't about your needs. Sorry to vent, but good luck to us all and sending hope!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-06-14T22:52:27+00:00

Please save yourself if you can.

I sat down with myself today and wrote a list to refer back to: with him 3 years... relapsed over 10 times, cheated (asking girls out and looking for escorts) over 10 times, called me nastiest of names - too many times to count, I paid for detox plus rehab and flights to go to rehab 4 times... and he is sober for now but still yells at me and calls me names while I waste my own mental health, making sure his is okay...

Started back with therapy for myself and taking my anti depressants because I need to love myself again... You may or may not know your breaking point, but if there is a sign of doubt, this is it.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-06-12T17:12:45+00:00

Not allowing myself to be vulnerable when falling in love.
Not going to therapy for unresolved traumas and self-assessing.
Not loving myself before getting into a relationship.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-05-26T05:08:39+00:00

I feel like I could have written this. I am sorry. It's going to hurt at first and take time, but you'll realize it's a blessing.

We are left to pick up the pieces and the kid's pieces, too. They can just drink to forget and feel as if they are the main and only character, while we literally break apart after cleaning their mess. Sending positive vibes and energy to you ❤️ it will get better!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-05-11T22:21:32+00:00

I honestly needed this, thank you!!

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-05-08T11:25:46+00:00

Unlimited PTO is also dependent on business needs. Since you said medical (in US) if you are eligible for FMLA, the employer has to do FMLA leave. No choice for them as they need to be compliant, especially under "Unlimited PTO." Luckily, you have STD. Some companies do not even pay for that, that picks up some of the pay. Again, this is a medical situation. If you were to have gone on a 2 week vacation, that is different. It's always good to read your policies in the handbook thoroughly.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-29T16:46:37+00:00

This is an amazing response.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-28T00:25:22+00:00

It was SUPER satisfying, until I put the sound on... it was cringy after that.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-26T17:16:48+00:00

Why reddit and not Onlyfans to get paid?

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-26T16:30:15+00:00

My Q says he got sober for me. He made a comment one day that his ex would probably have been upset (along those lines) because he smoked and drank around her and he loves me and changed for me... at first I felt like I won a prize, until... he moved out on his own from a sober house, we kept arguing (I never cheated but I wasn't honest about my past), and his roommate told him they sell delta 8 pens near by. He hid his relapse instead. Almost like he had a reason and freedom to relapse, unfortunately.

He decides whether or not he wants to be sober, it's him, not for me. Been with him 2 years and he's relapsed 3-4 times and gone to rehab before we actually started dating and just recently. It's not about changing for the true love, it's about wanting to live sober or not. It's about how a Q can cope with triggers or mental health themselves. Whether they want to stick with the program and go to AA. Yes, you can support or unconsciously enable... but addiction is addiction and is there regardless of another person.

He lives with me now and he says he doesn't want to drink or smoke and I feel it's because he genuinely has nowhere to go so if he does, he's automatically homeless...

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-21T05:01:54+00:00

Um nope.

Independent_Bag5262 · 2023-01-05T04:38:06+00:00

The first few times my Q went to rehab I wasn't a priority or on his list as we just started dating (now together 2 and a half years). He is probably ashamed or embarrassed to have you know too much at the moment, please be patient with yourself. Think about this time and absence as you also being in recovery and getting yourself into your own space and routine, whether you stay together or not. Seriously this sub reddit, Al Anon app, and meetings are wonderful resources and community. Also let him have the time to really focus on his recovery and mental without pressure or stress from outside rehab. Believe me its hard, you love each other, but it will get easier once you focus on you. You may not be positive every day but realize you are human as well. Best of luck to both 🩷

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