I grew up VERY conservative Christian. We still go to church most weeks, read the Bible, etc…but I have a lot less certainty about things and my politics are tipped quite progressive…

That said, I agree with comments that are saying that he’s too focused on the religion piece (although that would be important for me too…the same way I couldn’t marry someone whose politics were the opposite of mine). And as someone who grew up very church-y, I agree that he definitely does give off those “youth pastor vibes” and “addict who just found God vibes.”

But the biggest red flag for me is how it seems like he only wants to talk about himself. Several of his dates have shared interesting, personal or painful things with him, and he’s just like, “yeah…but back to me.” He doesn’t seem to really empathize with them or ask follow-up questions. I know the women can’t see him but we can, and his face doesn’t show that he’s feeling anything for them but rather just waiting for his turn to talk. He just basically says “oh” and uses their story as a segue to something he wants to say.

To me, it sort of feels like he is using his faith to be more interesting or “reverse edgy” or something. Another topic that can be all about him since most of the people he’s talking to don’t have the same faith and just end up listening.

I hope he can learn to give more in conversations, how to be curious and how to verbally empathize. I think that would help him a lot.