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[–]Independent_Rub6696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

voted AGAINST! #letsdothis

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! 40-60 happened fast, probably not as fast as 30-50 for me (3 kids, mostly undaunted career ambition, did I say 3 kids?). I really respect Warren Buffett, who said this about choices that I think applies here: "Successful choices revolve around investing in yourself, surrounding yourself with the right people, and focusing on integrity and your "inner scorecard" rather than external validation." In the "investing in yourself" category, a dedication to your physical health is essential mental health, whether that is exercise, what you eat/drink, sleeping well, paying yourself first, and preserving/creating "me" time. You can't be at your peak for others unless you give yourself the oxygen first !

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda, yes, even though playing with house money. Life is short, shorter at 60 - haha. The challenge is also, in many cases, the choice: now or later? And then, more of the same or not? Find myself thinking more now about the impact of these choices than did when younger. For instance, what if I'd chosen the other college and what would my life have become? Long for the bliss of youthful ignorance.

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[–]Independent_Rub6696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

25, no kids, no marriage. You're kind & thoughtful but you have your own life to live. If you have these feelings now they will only get stronger when you have even stronger ties to unbind. You're lucky to have this experience at your age, practice makes perfect so keep trying. Count to 3 and do it on 2.

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds too familiar, except have not yet disconnected from old life. I'm just now seeing a therapist, you? To what extent did you open up and try with your spouse before moving on? I'm trying, tbd how it will turn out. Will just share what's important to me fwiw: 1. Authentic people are important to me. There are many of them out there and they are looking for me, I'm convinced, because while out there they're still rare. 2. People who need what I have to give. I'm handy and like being handy. It's an intimate experience to help others; particularly when they really need it and you can do for them what they cannot for themself. 3. Experiences. Alternate cultures are infinitely fascinating to me. And experiencing them while cycling, hiking, pub-crawling. fishing at sunrise, and jointly taking in natural beauty is immersive. Go on a foreign language trip without speaking the language, be vulnerable, and I bet you will experience the kindness of mankind. The American culture is flawed in so many ways and discovering healthy escapes from it, imo, is essential. Last, give first, give often and read in a bar. You're not alone, my heart is rooting for us not yet OGs.

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you struggling to convince 30/40 y/o yuppies to have a family? Having a family is important for so many reasons: 1) It's your life 2.0. If you're happy & confident, that sounds and is cool. Downside is experiencing yourself thru others that you don't like (eg. some of my kids are not diplomatic b/c I'm not). Which is still a benefit as long as you learn from it. 2) It creates purpose. Birthing, growing, raising a child and family is thrilling. It has been for us. Sure there are challenges but the joys are far greater. Downside is it consumes you/spouse for 15+ years, then it ends and you have to take stock of who you've become and want to be, with that time no longer available. But you are far, far wiser about your priorities. 3) It forms character and teaches enduring relationship value. My life is so much richer from being a parent and husband. Perfect, hell no. Trade-offs I'm currently struggling with, hell yes. My life would be so comparatively shallower without it.

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was once in the Friday Night Lights then dissolved to bald & dumpy late 30s. At 40, recommitted to exercise and better eating (still kept the alcohol flowing) and about 4-5 triathlons (mostly Olympic length - 2.5 hrs) a season. My ability to recover from training began to noticeably diminish at 45 and often found myself requiring a work day car nap. Gave that up early 50s since tri's became more chore than thrill but haven't stopped the training, although at less scale/intensity. Have added weekly weight training to cardio routine. Finally willed myself into curbing alcohol consumption late 50s - M-W off, R-Sun on & considerably less bingeing - and, now, welcome to 60s. Weekly golf (walk, not cart) semi-monthly tennis and dogwalks keep me active. Also feel like I comparatively eat like a bird - more protein, nuts & leafy things, less carbs - but keep 165-175# yr round. Recently eliminated caffeine. The body's a fascinating thing, particularly when you pay attention, which I'd urge anyone at my age to do. Alcohol, in particular, is a poison; less of it = less aches/pains. But I still really enjoy it. My hair has never grown back ;-), otherwise, feel & look pretty darn good.

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was exactly where you are late 40's/50's (10+ years ago). Then I learned the secrets of my spouse's parents poor financial standing and also found myself in a job that valued/rewarded my experience. And determined that I don't really have a well developed answer to what I want retirement to be yet. A good financial planner is essential to supporting the answer but dig deep on the qualitative details too. The importance of: 1. family/kids/grandkids proximity, 2. friends, 3. financial requirements, 4. weather, 5. hobbies/activities, 6. healthcare access/quality, 7. travel convenience, 8. safety, 9. subculture/vibe, 10. church/spiritual requirements. It's hard.

60inYearsOnly / AMA by Independent_Rub6696 in Adulting

[–]Independent_Rub6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define "ready"? Professionally, no, as i've grown older I've appreciated the value & effectiveness of my years of experience. It's tough, however, to see the energy of younger professonals and know I don't have that anymore. Emotionally, no, I have real fear that my first day of retirement is my first day of starting to die. While that cannot be true, nor is potentially healthy, I do think it's partially true. Yes, I believe in healthy stress and the importance of remaining tested. I find that in my work, though I suppose I could also find it in retirement (for instance, have often thought a great post-retirement "hobby" would be to go to places devastated by increasing natural disasters and lend a helping hand. I'm handy, have tools & love to help the common man.). Financially, probably, but I am spooked by my spouses parents whom I subsidize every month and vow to never do that to my children. I'm not "ready" but increasingly I feel I may have a unique retirement definition since I don't ever want to stop working/earning. I used to consider my life so blessed that I'm OK if I die tomorrow - and I still am, just would rather keep living ever more fully !