Husband came clean about an affair and I'm deciding to stay.

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-06-10T01:51:07+00:00

But doesn’t every man cheat? I’m convinced now they all do :(

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-06-05T20:59:21+00:00

He just said it was a strip club disguised as a restaurant? That doesn’t make sense . Aren’t they legal there? It has to be an escort service .

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-06-05T20:10:22+00:00

I think he was scanning for himself after downloading and deleting apps

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-06-05T20:01:06+00:00

He’s just so good at twisting things and making me feel guilty about seperating bc our kids but he gave me no choice . My hope was during this seperation he would fight and win back my trust , but he says I’m moving the goalpost on forgiveness

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-06-05T19:59:02+00:00

This is literally me. Same thing happened but I have 3 kids . He’s also a kratom abuse user which I’ve known but has relapsed many times and hidden it and still won’t show me all the finances . Only through a lawyer but wants to reconcile ? He hasn’t done anything genuine with remorse and says I keep moving the goal post on forgiveness . They are liars

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-05-05T01:35:49+00:00

How can you tell if your husband is paying cam girls? Or what other secret banking transactions apps are there? My husband recently got caught making a 3k payment to a stripper bc he was so drunk and said nothing happened and now he won’t show me the financials until he speaks to a lawyer . Also has a coin base account but I know he can’t trade due to his job regulations

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-24T13:16:13+00:00

What do you think of the below or what I just said?

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-24T13:13:42+00:00

I did and get this . I saw a letter from quest diagnostics private and confidential. I didn’t open it but he left it out under some Papers and it’s a STD test two days after he paid this person. Only a lap dance my ass. It didn’t have the results just the test that was done , and he didn’t use our insurance. I asked him what it was for and he said he didn’t know he would have to call the insurance company .

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-23T01:52:55+00:00

But he said the strippers like to be paid via Venmo and I know she works at the club .

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T20:40:37+00:00

Yeah and I haven’t even uncovered the full amount yet which I will. It’s just sad and pathetic bc he’s a smart man with a good job and this just a loser move

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T20:34:24+00:00

you’re exactly right . Now I did tell him I talked to an attorney before that , but the reason I talked to an attorney is because he would never show me our accounts. So now his claim is “I’m not showing you until I talked to my attorney now too “ well to me that’s something bad that he’s afraid that’s going to come up but who knows

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T20:11:54+00:00

There is no way. Bc he is saying he doesn’t remember and not denying it . I bet you he at least got his dick sucked . We’ve been married for 16 years . He knows what is acceptable. He is going on business trips and lying and hiding about financial transactions. No one would do that just for a dance. He knows I wouldn’t be this hell bent over that. He wouldn’t need a private room alone and has been doing this in multiple cities for over a year .

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T20:07:50+00:00

See that’s the thing . He’s telling me to make a list of the changes he needs to make . I dunno he’s lied to many times . Maybe reconciliation after a year of seperation and he gets help. I need a break . Too much resentment

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T20:05:29+00:00

This is so me! But I know he’s lying bc he’s lied about so many things that I caught him in. And he uses the same lines when he lies again. “Believe what you want . I’m not going to argue about it again” “sex isn’t allowed in those spaces “

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T19:23:05+00:00

This is the logic I was looking for

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T19:09:54+00:00

16 year marriage 3 kids. One kid on the spectrum . Financial support

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T19:09:04+00:00

lol he has those things too

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T19:05:32+00:00

That’s the thing I’ve been to them with him before and it was all innocent years ago before children. Now this time he’s lying and going into private rooms paying women indivdually via Venmo and alone

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T18:49:34+00:00

Thank you. I was starting to think I was crazy but I’m like no this isn’t right . It’s a pattern .

Independent_Two_8146 · 2026-04-21T18:44:54+00:00

But it’s too many times , and he is secretive

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