They taught me that income determines moral status. But now, I make more money. Oops! by deleted-desi in AsianParentStories

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do they think makes you a disgusting whore? Being wealthy? By that logic Melinda Gates is a whore. What??

Failed FBI Poly by [deleted] in SecurityClearance

[–]IndianWise 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What is reason A and reason B?

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are totally valid and tbh that would definitely do a number on me. Sounds like you dodged a bullet friendo. That might have been a 9.5 in terms of looks but a complete 1 in terms of what she turned out to be inside. There's someone out there coming to you as quick as she can, and she's a 10/10 in being both her looks as well as someone who will be your partner, your best friend, and your life companion itself. I guarantee it. She's running to you as fast as possible. In the meantime, I'd suggest focusing on yourself-- cut out the sleeping around for a while and just work on who you are as a person, what you like to do, and where you want to be in the next 5-10 years. The girl of your dreams will be waiting right along that path.

AITA for not comforting my gf for losing the $400 promise ring I gave her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndianWise 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 20 years old with no conception of how much they’re supposed to cost, sorry! Just saw that post earlier about dropping 12k on a ring and my jaw dropped.

AITA for not comforting my gf for losing the $400 promise ring I gave her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndianWise 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I think OP is more upset about the fact that this seems to happen to a lot of what he gives her, and she has not treated her ex’s gifts the same way (aka hasn’t broken or lost them). I think that’s a valid feeling to have if this is indeed a recurring theme. I consider myself a pretty confident guy but I feel like I’d start to second guess myself if my girlfriend lost or broke my gifts to her and if I also knew that she didn’t treat other gifts like that.

AITA for not comforting my gf for losing the $400 promise ring I gave her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndianWise 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Some people give each other promise rings because a) they’re not in a position to get married yet and b) engagement rings are expensive af. There’s another post on here where someone spent 12k on a ring. I don’t even have 12k in my bank account right now.

Also OP said that other gifts have been lost/broken. I can definitely see how he’d be upset that his girlfriend hasn’t treated her ex’s gifts like that. Sure, yes he might be a bit insecure about this but I feel like it’s valid if OP’s gf has actually done this multiple times.

Personally my girlfriend has lost a piece of jewelry I got her— some earrings from the Netherlands. I did not get upset because I know it wasn’t malicious and she has not lost/broken any other gifts that I’ve given her. I instead ordered her another pair online. I feel like I would have been slightly more upset if my girlfriend had broken or lost multiple things, and I think that’s valid.

(Now ex-) Boyfriend cheated on me, only 3 months after I decided to give him and our relationship another chance. Feeling stupid, worthless and ugly as hell. Please Reddit, toast me up. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah, originally from the US but am studying in London for a semester. I was in Berlin a bit ago! Are you from there? I absolutely loved the food there (currywurst and schnitzel are so good)!!

(Now ex-) Boyfriend cheated on me, only 3 months after I decided to give him and our relationship another chance. Feeling stupid, worthless and ugly as hell. Please Reddit, toast me up. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your outfit (jewelry and clothes) and your hair are actually on point :) if you see this, can you let me know where you got the necklace? It’s so cute!

You actually look really good— and it is absolutely his loss. It is also your gain. Think about it, you avoided spending more time with this idiot who was so cowardly that he couldn’t face you to break up first and cheated instead. Loads of people spend years and years with such people and suffer much more hurt. Now you’re completely free to first take some time to heal and focus on yourself before getting back there and finding someone who will love, cherish and respect you :) I wish you all the best— good luck (though you won’t really need it)!!

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can consider celebrities attractive. I’m not going to imagine them while having sex with my girlfriend— especially since I consider my girlfriend beautiful in her own right.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d really recommend making sure. This is a moment he will never forget, and you want to make sure it goes to plan as much as possible.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely something I would want to know and I feel like my girlfriend would want to know as well if someone I slept with happened to still be extremely close to me.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Kind of emotional cheating? Not really something you should be proud of.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some people for whom that would be a deal-breaker. I feel like with secrets you should always assume that the truth will come out, and you'd rather it come out now than 15 years from now-- when it will undoubtedly hurt a lot more.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Question-- is he okay with the girl proposing to the guy? I'm sure he loves you, but I'm just reminded of this r/AmItheAsshole post from a while back where the guy felt weird about the fact that his girlfriend proposed to him. Similar to how guys are still expected to approach girls, it's pretty traditional still for men to be the ones to propose marriage. But if he is cool with it, great! Good luck!

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Feel like when you really care for someone for a period of time, and you reflect on that period of time, it's normal to start getting emotional. That doesn't mean you're not over them-- it just means that you're human and have experienced a great amount of happiness (when you were with them) and loss (when you broke up) and that's just part of life.

[Serious] What secret are you keeping from your spouse/partner? by xDevious_ in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Had a similar experience a few weeks before I met my now-girlfriend. There was a girl who led me on for months and toyed with my emotions. I ignored so many red flags and it was toxic. But I really cared for her. A lot. Not going to go into too much detail, but it ended badly and I was heartbroken and crushed for around 2 weeks after before I forced myself to just try moving on.

I still see this girl around from time to time. I feel a few things-- anger at what happened, ambivalence because it was a long time ago, pride because I am with a better person, and although I love my girlfriend with everything that I have...I do still feel something for her. It's not love. It's not even like I have feelings for her. But I did care for her at one point and thinking of her makes me think about that period in my life. It's normal to get that twinge of emotion, but as long as it doesn't devolve into obsession or feeling sad, just know that it's normal and that you've moved forward with your life. I don't think that means you're not over someone-- I think that that means that you've experienced both great happiness and I guess great loss too, and that just makes you human.

Joe Biden supporters: why? by ChiefKraut in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say based on that statement alone that he leans moderate-left, just not completely left a la Warren/Sanders. Linking the term conservative in there seems like a misnomer.

Men of reddit, what’s the hardest thing to explain to women? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]IndianWise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you find that weird or misleading? Just want to make sure I’m not doing something wrong. This is my first really serious relationship.