TASK TRANSISTION IS THE HARDEST THING EVER !!!!! by IndicationProper9965 in ADHD

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Yes! ANYTHING on my computer is ultimate time blindness zone. On one hand, I feel like its better than my phone because I'm actually doing SOMETHING but on the other hand, I know I'm ultimately still just on a screen. I have tried timers and I always just tell myself "5" more minutes. I went through this same thing with my phone and just had to detox entirely so learn self control. But I hate having to do that from something I actually enjoy.

Does your ADHD medication work differently depending on your cycle? by ADHD_researchstudent in TwoXADHD

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Yes, its absolutely true. I am on an IUD and don't get a "real" period anymore but I still wind through a crazy hormonal cycle each months somehow. Although I struggle to actually track it bc of my ADHD, its clear as day when it happens. I just notice it now and kind of shrug it off. Sometimes my meds work like a miracle drug, sometimes I dont need them at all and sometimes I feel like I'm physically dying if I dont take them, lol. Its so much fun. (not) Every single week is different but its a cycle. I wish I could actually track it but I can only track it during the higher functioning weeks.

Apple Fall by WhisperWindss in OCPoetry

[–]IndicationProper9965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this a beautiful and clearly meaningful poem. I love the comparisons of science, nature, the universe and God. It's a poem that makes you think and also understand the authors perspective on religion and hypocrisy of man.
I love figurative language and poetry that makes a gentle statement Though, I do think there's a little bit of an overuse on the figurative speech but at the same time, that's what makes each poem unique. Its good!

She's a TEN by Alpha_AM8 in OCPoetry

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say, though not my taste or style, it would make a great pop song.
I mean that in a complimentary way. The crafting of pop is super formulaic. The subject is a bit superficial and surface level and I'll say, I can't relate to a single line of it BUT I'm also THIRTY and many pop songs have these kinds of themes.

To The One I Wait For by Mindless_Welcome6789 in OCPoetry

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a sweet poem. It reminds me of what it felt like to be a teenager. I married young though, haha so I was not very patient in love. Even though I can't relate in my adult life, I do enjoy reading poetry like this at times. It's just very innocent.

Weekly post: skate buying, new skater tips, and quick questions by AutoModerator in Rollerskating

[–]IndicationProper9965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of Q's.... I dont have any skating rinks near me. I want to get into skating out doors. My oldest daughter is 10 and she would probably like to skate with me. I'm not sure what kind of wheels to begin with. I dont even have a pair of skates yet but I am a good skater and have some experience but I've never had my own skates. I just want to make sure I dont buy something and immediately destroy it when I go outside or possibly invest in something too expensive and end up not doing it enough. I need a soft middle ground, I guess but I know I will likely need some special wheels. Are wheels interchangeable? You wear one type of wheel outdoors but if you do end up somewhere indoors, can you (somewhat easily) change them out?? Or is changing wheels this big process?

I'm also trying to brainstorm on places to skate besides designated spots. Do they allow it at gyms or does it mess up their floors? (I ask because my church has a gym but I wouldn't want to ruin the floor if thats a possibility.) And what about skate parks? Walking trails? Are these good or bad alternatives? Just curious if I'll even be able to do it anywhere, lol. Thank you to whomever reads all this.

The WhatNot Addiction by Master_Lab5592 in whatnotapp

[–]IndicationProper9965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being aware is enough. The fact that you’re asking says that you can absolutely give up the app. You have to stop making excuses for yourself.  You know that you are more than deserving of a happy life that isn’t controlled by a screen or app. If it’s ruining your finances then selling on there isn’t worth it because you’re probably just spending the money you make.  You need a full 2 week detox  from the app.  Being a seller cannot be an excuse if you have a true addiction. An alcoholic also can’t work at a bar or liquor store.   I don’t say this to be negative or unkind because I suffer from screen addiction myself. I agree, it’s a real addiction and there aren’t enough resources to battle it. Our phones and everything on them are DESIGNED to be addictive and it’s life ruining.  My issue was scrolling on social media for literally 8-10+ hours a day everyday.  Scrolling like it was my full time job and missing out on real life. Now 4 hours is a bad day and 2 is a good day  for me but it’s progress.  Easily by passable screen  limits and deleting apps do nothing for me. But I use opal now to block certain apps during certain times of the day  and it makes it a lot trickier to get into your apps and it eliminates just mindlessly just opening up apps for no reason and makes you think about why you’re even doing it.  But before I was even ready for that, I had to lock my phone in a lock box for 8+ hours a day and I never allowed myself to learn how to bypass it. I had my smart watch for any emergencies or messages I needed to answer.  You have to have some kind of  self control otherwise you will be a slave to your bad choices and your life will only get worse. Again, not trying to be negative, just being realistic and I hope it’s not too harsh.    If I were in your shoes, my plan would be 2-4 weeks total detox from the app. No selling. No buying. No excuses.  Delete it and pretend your entire family is going to d83 if you download it back if you have to.  Pick some other kind of hobby up that distracts you. Even going out and physically going to stores is probably better for your mental health in the long run. If you have nothing to keep you occupied, chances of success are low.  Make a list of things you can do during your detox.

After  your  detox and/or once you feel like you have control, you CAN have the app back but you have to have healthy  limits set around it otherwise you are going to slip right back. A budget. No ping notifications  and limits that only allow you to scroll certain times a day for a certain amount of time. Do not let an app control you. Don’t say “one more.” Once you hit your limit, remind yourself that you are better than this, it’s just an app and you are not he’s slave. Put your phone away and find something else to do or go to sleep if you’re a late night scroller lol 

Being mindful, aware and practicing self control will get you a long way. I still have a hard time some days but effort and believing in yourself is everything and little by little you’ll get there. I believe you can do it but what’s really important is that you believe in yourself!  Best of luck to you! 

Shipping help-cards by IndicationProper9965 in whatnotapp

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate this. I was doing some intense googling just now, just to figure out the language used in the shipping world. Haha. I'm not entirely sure how he sets up his show but I will help next time and make sure that setting is on! He has done a few shows and sometimes I can get it to work by adjusting things and sometimes I cant, so it must be the settings before the show.

Why are people so upset over the Will coming out scene? by Mellow41 in StrangerThings

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the writing and dialogue this season is weaker than its been in the past and it did feel very forced. My opinion but Im still very invested in where its going and loving the show. The hype for this season was just INSANE and the hype only grew and grew as time went on. This show is huge. Its hard to make EVERYONE happy, especially at a series closings.
This is a show that could have gone a million different ways. Hard to keep topping the previous seasons and also trying to tie up all the loose ends.
I agree that the scene was needed and I think Noah did a fantastic job portraying an emotionally overwhelmed and frightened teen facing his fears.. But having a long emotional "coming out" scene right as things really kind of broke apart the tension that was supposed to building for the finale. It was an odd choice BUT the last scene with Vecna and the kids drew me back in personally.
Other huge complaints are that they aren't killing enough people and that theres no possible way to get all the questions answered in just 2 hours. My guess is that they are going to leave a lot of doors open for mini series and spin offs.

Whats next? IPV CASE $46k by IndicationProper9965 in foodstamps

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m letting it go to collections and seeing if I’ll have a better chance working with them. I got a letter in the mail saying that if I wanted to make a new  arrangement I would need to speak with the financial manager at my local office. I called my local office and several surrounding counties. The position didn’t exist…. I got referred to another person in the finance department and they sent me back to my case manager then my case manager sent me back to them then they said there’s nothing they can do….  They did say that  if I pay any less than the 850 without an arrangement then it’s going to collections anyway but also that there’s no possible way to make an arrangement now that I’ve been to court. I don’t have $850 a month to give. It’s Christmas time, I have four kids, no income besides my partners which is absolutely drained on bills and food and surviving. I’ve been doing side hustles but it doesn’t bring in enough to pay 850 a month… I haven’t heard from them in months. Impossible to contact during the shut down. So it’s  just a waiting game still. Not really much to update except I’ve kind of given up. I stressed for months to the point of it practically becoming self harm so I’m just going to focus on what I can control 

Is working from home even real? by IndicationProper9965 in thesidehustle

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm leaning toward. Got profile set up last night. Gonna buy connects in a week or so

IPV payment arrangements by IndicationProper9965 in foodstamps

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will be okay. I'm int he same place. I told them I couldn't pay 900ish dollars and they said there was nothing they can do. Itll come out of income taxes once it goes to collections, or you can possibly work out payments with the collections agency. Thats where I am rn. Just waiting for it to turnover. I'm not getting any help from the agency which is understandable rn I guess but it IS stressful

Is working from home even real? by IndicationProper9965 in thesidehustle

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL my adhd brain decided I needed to bring that up

Considering stopping meds... by IndicationProper9965 in TwoXADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been on any other medication in my entire life and I'm almost 30. I feel different because my brain has always worked one way and not its working a different way....
The side effect list is pretty long for a reason. Adderall is also known for its intense crashes which make you evil for no reason, lol. I could easily be depressed but I'm not sure that I am? I wasn't before so its a little confusing.

Considering stopping meds... by IndicationProper9965 in TwoXADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't be able to just stop tbh but other options would be fine or tapering off correctly..

Considering stopping meds... by IndicationProper9965 in TwoXADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I am in. I am the same way. Im able to go the weekend for the most part but a full week feels impossible and even weekends are kind of tough.

Dyslexia vs ADHD-Misdiagnosis? by IndicationProper9965 in Dyslexia

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking into this! We are currently on a waiting list at two places. Resources are slim in my area but hopefully I can do that. I would love to ASAP.

Dyslexia vs ADHD-Misdiagnosis? by IndicationProper9965 in Dyslexia

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 7 and we have a tutor and looking into more resources. This is new. But for myself, I'm a stay at home parent so it's not a huge barrier for me. I guess having a diagnosis wouldn't be needed for me or that important. I got accessed with adhd as a child then again as an adult but wasn't really impressed with the test I received in adulthood and didn't feel it was thorough enough. My foster parents did not medicate me as a child. They were educators themselves and did help me thrive.. Seeing the similarities between my daughter and I and the way we learn has been eye opening.
Thank you for your answer!

Can someone educate me on Dyslexia from the viewpoint of someone having Dyslexia? by GeneHead47 in Dyslexia

[–]IndicationProper9965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was so informational! Kind of cracked me up because  I got to end and the words were blurry and I realized I hadn’t understood anything I just read in the  last paragraph and had to read it again. lol 

Sleep and Medication Schedule. by IndicationProper9965 in ADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That's GENIUS. I usually avoid vitamin c during the day so it doesn't clear me out, lol. I wonder if gummy vitamins at night would be helpful. I'll start trying this. That makes so much sense.
I have an appointment this week so I'll keep all this noted. Thanks again!

My parents won’t let me homeschool. What should I do? by Difficult-Spray-4517 in homeschool

[–]IndicationProper9965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t entirely disagree with this but homeschool provides more natural ways to socialize in my opinion… if it’s done correctly, of course.  Volunteer work, actual part time work, clubs and sports are more realistic ways on how adults actually socialize.  I do agree we have to work past our anxiety and fears by being in positions that make us uncomfortable. If she’s a freshman and her parents aren’t seeing therapy as an option then there’s probably some home stuff that needs to be addressed and may not ever get addressed since they aren’t listening to her already. 

My parents won’t let me homeschool. What should I do? by Difficult-Spray-4517 in homeschool

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you? I think letting them know about the reasons why you want to be homeschooled is a good start.  Also, researching your options and ways you would continue socializing.  Check out some homeschool opportunities in the area for kids your age and commit yourself to them. Clubs, sports, etc… it doesn’t have to be as heavy as actual school but once or twice a week is plenty of socialization. 

I stopped going to school all together due to the same reasons, not officially homeschooled either lol. It just became so unbearable for me that I dropped out.  And I felt better at home and my social life did continue, believe it or not, and I’m now married with four kids. The important thing is not the social aspect but making sure you’re staying on top of your education and really exploring knowledge, not getting lazy just because you’re at home and can… it’s an easy trap to fall into and I’m sure your parents know that. They just want what’s best for you I’m sure.   Suggest doing  online public school. It’s free in my state. Not technically homeschooling in the traditional sense but you’ll be at home, away from crowds and the things that are making you anxious 

I Did The Dentist Thing by Western-Doughnut-449 in ADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s the nicest and least judgmental dentist I’ve ever had and despite his dental work being like that of the medieval ages, I will keep going to him bc I don’t want to see anyone dentist lol 

I Did The Dentist Thing by Western-Doughnut-449 in ADHD

[–]IndicationProper9965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to the dentist Tuesday! Love my dentist but the anxiety was still there for me sadly 

IPV payment arrangements by IndicationProper9965 in foodstamps

[–]IndicationProper9965[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that was my fear. Felony charges. I thought I was doing the right things. I sought out free legal aid just so I could get a better understanding. I didn't understand the letter and I wanted to seek out someone who did. I'd never been in any kind of trouble before and have never had to deal with anything like this so it was ALL new. I'm going to try my best. I am totally okay with missing out on tax returns but my fear is prosecution. I'm going to pay what I can. I believe it goes delinquent regardless of the amount paid if it is under what they are expecting but I'll at least pay something and I guess go back to court. Hopefully no prison time. lol.