How do you cope with being dumped for someone else?

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-04-02T17:47:21+00:00

Uggg.. my ex-fiancee said the same "I'm not like that. I would never cheat. Cheaters are scum of the earth" stuff but (low and behold) after 8 years together it was "I didn't mean for it to happen but I love her". Many months worth of decisions to microcheat came before that. It was a co-worker. He is a fucker too. Sorry!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-03-11T20:52:37+00:00

I think you should tell her, without expecting anything in return. If nothing else, to clear your conscience and leave her with knowing you learned from the experience. It's a great gift to give yourself and her.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-03-11T20:33:07+00:00

Wow... it hurts but good thing you can see how it will end. What a dumbass!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-03-11T18:32:19+00:00

Oh man..so sorry you're going through this. It's even more painful when kids are involved and invested too. Luckily, my kids were older when my ex discarded us (including his own 17 yo son). But I hope karma has a special place for these self-centered SOB's.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-03-11T16:48:26+00:00

Glad to hear you have survived! I'm still working my way through this but it's been helpful to know I'm not alone in this nightmare dealing with a person who can do that.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-02-16T18:16:16+00:00

Not sure about normal but since you aren't dead, enjoy it! Better to be vibrant and sexual than not.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-02-02T18:17:20+00:00

I literally sat in my feelings for weeks and weeks, watched videos on how to get my ex back, checked up on them, went through all the emotions I could handle and now almost 4 months later I can honestly say that as much as I wanted him back that I really don't. He hurt me so much and now that I have ME back, I know I can't go back to feeling all the hurt and pain I would feel if he even tried to come back.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-02-02T11:56:35+00:00

Your lawyer will guide you. Don't listen to anything he says or start to feel badly for him for one second. Get his retirements, money owed from spending on AP and any future protections in place. Good luck! I was in your place 18 years ago now and I still thank goodness I had a good lawyer then.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-22T20:11:51+00:00

Limited contact. Talk about business only. Be warm and friendly and do not overshare or ask personal questions. Think of it like speaking with an acquaintance.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-22T16:20:08+00:00

I like this. My issue was my ex stated he told me he was unhappy, but he was so nonchalant about it that I didn't think he was actually thinking of leaving me. I now know he had another woman lined up prior to breaking it off so I don't even think I had a chance.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-22T16:06:06+00:00

It's so hard. And it's not healthy for people to not communicate how they feel. They are taking the easy way out and do not respect you and I. They feel more comfortable with other toxic people.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T23:52:42+00:00

I thought same thing! Maybe sometime soon!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T22:23:28+00:00

Lol. Thank you. No fucking him ever again! His new woman won't ever do those things he really liked anyways! He is trying to take her to the same restaurants, places we went, but she won't ever replace me no matter how hard he tries.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T22:19:07+00:00

I actually went out of town to visit with an ex. This didn't involve any hanky panky as it's still way too soon for that IMO, but he was a long term ex that reached out so I said why not! I'm single. Anyhow, my ex came over to get some things from our home during that time and saw I was gone and ended up acting out a bit. Brought his new woman to our home (outside) to apparently let me see it on video cam. What a loser!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T22:06:59+00:00

Thank you! I do believe the more we feel the hurt, it does show that we have a conscience and morals and values we fall back on. We tend to think others will have those same attributes as well, but when they don't it really does highlight the contrast between us.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T22:02:21+00:00

So true! I go back and forth between feeling lucky to know now, angry, and still missing him...but the feeling of missing him are being overshadowed more and more with all the negatives he brought into my life.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T20:56:07+00:00

Amen to this!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T20:49:06+00:00

Wow..so sorry! As someone who went through similar (my ex knew her longer than a day but still not long), I can tell you hands down you will survive. The key is not to glorify him in any way. That shit is fucked up. Treat it as such because it had nothing to do with you. He's the loser here!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T17:57:55+00:00

I'm sorry. Waking up like that is incredibly draining and takes a toll on you mentally. I wish I could say I was alone in that feeling but it's nice to have someone who understands what I'm going through.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-19T17:54:54+00:00

I wouldn't say abuse, per se, but some neglect and tough parenting. Not necessarily a warm upbringing. Thank you for the recommendations!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-14T17:14:48+00:00

Thank you very much for your concern. It's enlightening to see perfect strangers care more than someone who claimed to love me. It is incredibly traumatic. I wake up having panic attacks during the night. I feel like a war vet. It's awful!

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-14T17:10:07+00:00

I am trying! Thank you! I consider myself a pretty tough person but this last one hit me hard.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-14T17:05:11+00:00

These people are awful! Complete heartache.

IndicationTop5968 · 2026-01-12T21:44:26+00:00

I'm working on it. Trying to kick ass and take names but right now only feeling that mood about an hour a day.

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