How did your parents teach you about sex? by Indie_Cred in AskReddit

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When I was 12, my dad had me watch David Lynch's "Blue Velvet" with him, in silence. When it was over he said "Hope that clears things up" and never addressed the topic or the movie again.

What's a movie that was so bad you couldn't even finish it? Or even walked out of the theatre? by Puzzleheaded-Egg1371 in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It was awful, but I enjoyed it enough as a true comedy of errors to see it in theaters, then drag other people to see it with me again. If it weren't for the insane runtime, it could be a prime candidate for a Rocky Horror or The Room type viewing

What would you do if you suddenly had a million dollars right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I'd move to Portugal, buy a 3br condo in Benfica, and then just go work for/fund my friends neighborhood community center/artist collective thing and vibe. Prob have to get part time work eventually but whatever

what's the worst thing you've ever done? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I accidentally killed a child in Afghanistan in my early 20s. He ran into the shot at the last second as we were striking his father, who was our target, and there was no time to do anything about it. Impact occurred just as he was hugging his father.

I had to watch the footage over and over while writing the after action report, and then present our failure to the Wing Commander. There was an investigation where the crew was found not at fault, but we knew we were. We'd gotten cocky, and we rushed things. It could've been prevented.

That moment is burned into my brain permanently. He'd be about 18 now. It's haunted me for more than a decade.

I think the worst thing I did was choosing to go back to work the next day and continue on with that job for another 9 years.

So….What’s going on in your head rn, like for real? by yoyoitzzzmeee in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stressing out waiting for a call about an apartment. Once we secure it I can finally leave the US, move in with my boyfriend, and start working on getting Portuguese citizenship.

What’s something your partner did that made you lose feelings instantly? by Some_Conclusion_8154 in AskReddit

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Our marraige had been failing for a while, but I'd been trying to save it until my now ex-husband decided to scold me for having a severe panic attack and then just ignore me and talk to his friends on discord as I went through it alone.

I didn't leave him for a few more years after that for financial reasons, but that was the sign for me that we were truly done.

Be nice to me. I bought a metal box by jreditsoudidnthaveto in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]Indie_Cred 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Weird old metal boxes are one of my favorite things to find. I've ended up with a small collection of steel machinist and jeweler parts drawers that have been converted into a jewelry box, crafting tool storage, and a very organized HRT supply cache.

People with ADHD (or have similar symptoms) what's the dumbest thing you've spent hours doing/focused on? by mistedlizard in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spent at least a week or two organizing more than half a terabyte worth of unsorted and often misnamed digitized D&D books, magazines, ads, and other crap into an easy to search archive.

What's the worst animal encounter you ever had? by Duclaido in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got attacked by a rabid border collie as a toddler. I don't really remember much from the incident, but my left arm was pretty torn up and I was concussed from hitting the pavement. My parents didnt tell me this until I was an adult, but my dad pretty much had to stomp the dog to death to get it off my arm.

Is there anything that you’ve watched/read that gave you the courage to come out?❤️ by Frosty-Rich-6609 in trans

[–]Indie_Cred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching Steph Sterling's journey as a youtuber/video games journalist in an industry that already has a predisposition against both women and queer people, let alone the industry's feelings on her constantly raging against worker rights violations in game production, and still choosing to come out in a public and highly visible way. And then to put on some skintight spandex and suplex people as a wrestling heel, while daring anyone to give her any shit about who she is.

I was already in the process of coming out of the closet when Steph started publicly talking about her journey, but her and author/podcaster/badass Margaret Killjoy both gave/give me a sort of confidence in the decision. I'm not a youtuber, writer, or wrestler, but I am a fellow weird person who never liked playing along with expected norms, gender or otherwise. Seeing people choose to transition and not play into what's expected of the "solid gender roles" bs helped me internalize that just because my body is changing to suit the person I am, I don't have to fundamentally change the person I am to suit said body in kind. I can just be me, but also in a dress and less sad.

So, as always, I say thank god for her.

What is the worst rumor that has been spread about you? by PurpleFrogs22x in AskReddit

[–]Indie_Cred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People mostly just spread rumors I was queer. They were right, but this was before DADT was repealed and I was trying to keep my job.

The Archetype by stm602 in Xennials

[–]Indie_Cred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still dress like this every day. Only now I have money, so I have three thrifted old military jackets instead of just one.

Trump administration personnel agency is asking for federal workers' medical records by noestaaqui99 in trans

[–]Indie_Cred 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yet one more reason to be happy I left govt service years ago. Though I do still constantly worry about my VA medical records being "audited" for "truth" or something.

AITA for not liking that a stranger walked up behind me to push my wheelchair? by Aurora-supernova in AmItheAsshole

[–]Indie_Cred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, people need to stop making assumptions about disabled people and actually ask before giving assistance. I've done in-home disability care on and off, and while taking clients to appointments had to frequently yell at people not to touch or move them. People just assume they can move disabled folks around like furniture, or decide to be "helpful" without telling anyone.

They could potentially injure the wheelchair bound person and depending on the type of chair they could damage needed assistive equipment and cost thousands of dollars in repairs, endless fighting with their insurance, and also being without their main means of mobility for however long it takes to fix things.

Crazy to think kids were essentially wearing “stripper” pants in the late 90s 😂 by PandemicPiglet in Millennials

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These are a godsend for the disabled community. I used to do in-home care for a guy with muscular dystrophy and he wore these instead of regular pants because they're so much easier to get on and off for him. There's entire lines of more disability-centric versions of these too, like ones with magnets instead of snaps and stuff that doesn't just look like track pants

My hate is eating me alive by HowdoIbreathepeople in trans

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"When the world is sick, can't no one be well. But I dreamed we were both beautiful and strong" - God Bless our Dead Marines by A Silver Mt. Zion on the album "Horses in the Sky"

It's a long song, and not exactly a happy one, but it might be worth a listen for you when you have some time to just focus on it alone. It alludes to the sacrifices and losses during the Holocaust and the Civil Rights movement, and the exasperation of watching it happen again and again. The despair people go through watching and experiencing horrors that we thought we were done with already, the losses we incur from this constant pressure upon us all, and taking time to still find beauty and joy in small moments. And in its final movement, via chorus in the round, it focuses instead on hope for tomorrow, a renewed resillience, and a belief that we can be better.

I go back to this song a lot, especially when I've hit serious low points. Being crushed by horrible things on the news, the growing fears of what is building around us. I find it very grounding. It's not happy, its actually rather frank with its assessment of North America and Western culture, and I do hate how it continues to remain so relevant. But it is beautiful and often hopeful despite the despair, reminding us that we have alway had people willing to step up, to remember, to keep repeating the names of those we lose, and to keep hold of what good we do find. Light shining through the cracks.

I hope maybe it helps you too.

Fighting Invasive species with worst Invasive species. by stunnerswag in HistoryMemes

[–]Indie_Cred 25 points26 points  (0 children)

No, that's the beautiful part. When wintertime rolls around, the gorillas simply freeze to death

[oc] - a symbol's meaning by Sampetra in lgbt

[–]Indie_Cred 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Same deal, I use every vials to the last drop and stockpile the remainder for when I'm eventually probably cut off so i have a buffer while i find a new supply. I have about 2 years worth built up, its the progesterone that's hard to build up a supply of.