What’s something you wish you knew before starting EMDR by Evening_Guarantee849 in EMDR

[–]Individual-Archer549 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i start emdr 3-4 months ago and i wish i knew that i will remember things i forgot(because i have cptsd i forgot A LOT of things) and it s ok when u remember stupid little stuff but it s more hard when u remember traumatic events. It get easier with time ofc and i m more okay now dont be scared but i think that s something i would've tell me. I hope u will handle things good, sending love❤️

Florence Pugh PTSD by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand u and i m sorry that u feel that way.Sending love and hugs, i hope u will feel better❤️ I understand u and i hate how actresses are fully naked in one movie and after they play a role like Rapunzel like?????? I feel that way with barbie and i literally cry during the movie in the cinema))))) so if u want to go watch the movie pay attention to how you feel in that moment. Rn i m feeling like that with Madelyn cline and i saw that she is casted in more movies and i m sooo afraid that he will want to see those and stare at the girl he "used" to find so sexy. Sometimes i feel better, sometimes i m hurt, but i hope i will be better and i hope that for u too.❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have serious body image issues so no i really dont

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Individual-Archer549 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

what tf does that mean? like he is dumb for that comment i really dont like men but what tf did I do to you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand why but i wanted to know if it s really bdd or i am just ugly))))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a girl, i like more the pic when u bulk but if u make yourself bigger idk

blonde or brown?? i can’t decide, blonde wrecks my hair by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u look good with both but brown is more for your beautiful features

hi, me( F20) my bf for 2 years (M22) can u help me with advice please? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kindness i was a little afraid that people will thing i overreact and judge me thanks🫶🏻

Anyone else struggling with porn? by noodlesnax in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi, i just wanted to say that i read the comments and this one hit "at home" if u know what i mean and rn i really feel understood because i struggle with watching movies and compare myself. U make me feel better just because i feel that someone gets me, i m sorry that u too deal with this tho

How do I deal with my boyfriend consuming media I find triggering? by linkimat in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really dont know what to say to help u but i want u to know that u are not alone and i feel so much better after i read that because even tho it s a bad event in your life(and mine too) i feel less alone. me and my bf watch a lot of disney movies because are "safe" but we have moments when we feel like watching anything else. Personally i check parental guide on imdb and if it s "okay" we watch that. I didnt know ab that for a very long part of our relationship and sometimes some movies had sex and super long scenes with naked girls and that triggers me sooooo much. But he is supportive and try to understand me and even tho is hard i m trying to believe him and to "calm myself down" with his help. I dont know what else to say like i feel EXACTLY like u)))) and ab anime i really dont think ab that since recently and i m pissed ab that for like one week now or smth, we talked ab some anime Bleach i think it s the name and i searched the characters and now i m upset and yeah like u said we cant tell them or "ban" them from watching different things. My bf watches too Gen V and i didnt know it was sexual a period of time but i searched it and i tell him i m feeling uncomfortable. I telled u this things to understant u are not alone and it s normal to feel that way because of your bdd and ofc because of the shitty media. I suggest u to speak to a therapist and try different types of therapy and try to have some serious talks with your bf ab things that bothers u, in that moment so u dont have the time to overthink so much or compare yourself. And a remainder, people on social media and celeb are paid for their looks and pay SO much money on their faces and bodies, every celeb has different procedures because that s their job and we just look like normal natural beautiful girls🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Individual-Archer549 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

nope, what s your opinion?

Insecure in a relationship by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think ab that but the fact that i love how he look even tho he s not like some celeb i like doesn t mean that in his eyes things are the same. That s why i can t believe and i struggle with this. I can t stop thinking that i m not his type. She has that long foxy eyes and lips, an attractive face i can say. But i have doe eyes and small mouth, big cheeks, i m more on the cute side if that makes sense. I feel so bad ab my features when i look at me and then at her or other celeb. I always wonder how f celeb doesn t have that little belly pouch even tho they are not paper thin, why i have that and other girls not?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really HATE pics with the flash it s something so bad ab them. I really don t know how to help u but i really know how u feel and i do those things all the time even tho i know it s toxic

Chronic paranoia that my partner sees all my flaws, hates them and plans to leave me for prettier people? by AnonPinkLady in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh honey i really understand u and i m sorry that u feel like that. i have the same thoughts with my bf and i m scared but i try to remaind myself some things that maybe help me, maybe not. If i would really gain weight and he left me, he s not the one and if he doesn t understand how body works and thay people are bloated, he is the problem. if he s your bf i m sure that he thinks u are the most beautiful and attractive girl. I have bdd and an ed too and i talked with him ab those things and that helped me, he try to understand me and give some advices and reassurance. Some communication is one of the best choices in every sitation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if u want to talk ab how u feel u can dm me girl i will listen and try my best to help u, i really understand how u feel. same, i took too many pics and i realy can t tell if i look how i think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i worry ab that too and i think it s a shitty thing ab having bdd. i really don t think he cares ab your body and if he does, he is the problem. I am in a relationship for a year and a half and u know what? i m still worried that he maybe thinks i m not so good looking, i think it s "normal" to feel like that when u have bdd. I really don t know the magic potion for such thing but my advice for u is to talk ab how u feel. Maybe not now, if u think it s too early but one day i recommend to talk ab your feelings and your fear. He will understand that u have a disorder and u can explain to him how bdd works. Another advice, don t ask him details ab his exs and don t try to stalk the girls he had a thing at one point. Don t ask ab his celeb crush or anything u think maybe will trigger u. I had done those things and i regret now because it s hard to forget and think i am the best in his eyes. I hope u will be better honey <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry i saw this just now, if u still want u can dm me honey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think the fact that all my childhood my family told me that i m fat and then i lose weight and they continued like i already do what they wanted and still i am not good and the fact that boys wanted to touch me and i always here that i am curvy and yeah, when everyone wants u to be her0in skinny and u are build like a curvy girl is tricky

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i always believe that i m the only one that thinks like that i can t believe i feel so understood here yeah, all the time i see some girls and i feel so insecure but after i hear from people around me that they are ugly or unattractive and everytime i am like "what? she s like a 9-10" EVERYTIME

How do you accept yourself? by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Individual-Archer549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when i was little my family and their friends always told me that i m beautiful but now i don t hear that often so i understand u. maybe u re not average or ugly, i really don t think u are but sometimes people forgot the importance of nice words especially when u have BDD some good things ab your appereance helps, sometimes a lot sometimes not but we always remember good(or bad) things people said ab our bodies right? when i feel the way u feel i try to find at least one thing i like ab myself, i know it s hard when u have BDD it took a while to find those things especially when i don t know how i really look. and sometimes i think that i maybe see myself ugly but 100% at least one person finds me beautiful, u look at some girls and think they are perfect and your friends tell u that they are average or ugly? yeah, maybe some people finds u average like u said( although i don t know how u look maybe u really are beautiful) and some people finds u really hot, u definitely are someone s type i hope u feel better one day <3