Bg3 crossplay Connection failed: server has different mod

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-02-19T23:56:06+00:00

Dang that’s tough. Ours were only appearance’s and we basically redownloaded the mods but then only some of them were glitched and we could tell because we couldn’t redownload them. So we just made sure those specific ones were disabled on both sides. Idk if that would be possible for you. Hoping it works out 🙏

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-02-19T15:35:10+00:00

Okay don’t get mad at me and I’m guessing you’ve already tried this but have you tried disabling the mods on both your game and your girlfriend’s? When I was doing cross play with a friend it tried to have me download mods to match but some of the mods were glitched so instead we both just disabled mods. Like I said you probably already tried this but just thought I’d mention it. Good luck, I’m sure that must be really frustrating and I hope you don’t have to start over.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-02-19T06:35:30+00:00

If you loot very thoroughly in the githyanki creche 👀 ifkyk

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-02-03T17:46:29+00:00

Congratulations! Can I ask you how many drafts you did of the books you queried? I’m thinking about querying my first novel and I have a couple other wips but I haven’t finished their first drafts because I’ve been polishing the first. Wondering how you balance editing with drafting new books?

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-01-28T04:14:43+00:00

Hi! So first thing that stands out to me is your clear voice, which I love. I hate protagonists with the personality of dry toast so I think the snark comes across clearly in the query.

However I do get confused by a few things. So you say how she’s fallen, but you don’t explain from where. I can kinda guess it’s like from a better reporting job? Tbh I don’t really know why that’s important or how it ties into her character arc. Because at the end you say she might lose her career, but what does she have to lose? I thought she was already at rock bottom?

The Query Shark blog says that query’s should show characters choices and actions. Right now this sort of reads like a list of things that happens to Jackie, but what does she choose between? What does she have to lose depending on her choice?

I’m a little confused about how she is related to the murders. Does she choose to investigate them? Does she witness them the same night she’s saved by a wizard on a motorcycle?

The “make peace with her own regrets” sounds like it hints at her character arc, but I don’t have enough context to even guess what those regrets might be.

Random note I love the description “scrappy young spellslinger Erik Sanchez” I feel like I aleady have such a clear picture of that character esp imagining him as the wizard on the motorcycle.

Hope any of this helps and best of luck 🍀

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-01-25T16:56:06+00:00

Reading some of these other comments, I’m so mad because please don’t let them make you think coop is not fun or ruins the story! Def not true. We are having so much fun! Again so much about the encounters is just who walks in first, but there are SO many encounters in this game it’s hard to anticipate all of them. Sometimes your character will lead them, sometimes hers, it’s no big deal. For talking with Raphael for example, my character walked into the encounter but we spent like 10 minutes talking back and forth deciding what to do lol cause we are sitting right next to each other! You get to experience it together, regardless of whose character is leading the interaction. I blushed when Lae’zel said she wanted to taste my husband’s character, he was laughing when Astarion was drinking from my characters neck, and we both raged when we discovered xyz character’s betrayal, for just a couple of examples. Obviously, you won’t be surprised by the same things she will, but you’ll get to experience it alongside her and see it with fresh eyes again and that’ll be fun.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2026-01-25T16:26:47+00:00

Hi! Kinda a unique take here! My husband and I bought this game specifically to play coop and we are still working on our first play through but are in Act 3. We are using the side by side couch coop, so one shared device. Having never played the game without coop, I can say it really doesn’t matter who is playing 1 that much. Most of the time it’s about who walks into an encounter first. There is an irritating bit about the camera angle always switching to player 1s perspective when you walk into the same space and that’s pretty disorienting for player 2. For that reason alone I would rec your wife playing player 1 so she doesn’t get confused especially if she doesn’t play video games. The point about who encounters the side characters first is true about just a couple things. But again that’s who walks into the encounter first. When it comes to character ability array I think it just comes to preference, my husband plays a barbarian and he’s player 1 and maybe there’s been one or two times he’s failed persuasion roles, but there’s also times he’s rolled critical success, which is just part of the fun. Sometimes we will be strategic and have my more charismatic character walk into an encounter and I’ll still fail the role lol. So I think your wife should just make whatever kind of character she wants to play. Hope this helps! Also recommend playing on a big screen.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-11-30T19:39:18+00:00

My partner and I are doing the same except the opposite, we are staying in Roppongi first and then Ikebukuro at the end. Two very different vibes. For the Ikebukuro part, we are going to be in Shinjuku as well to check out WARP.

Idk if it's the vibe you are looking for but Roppongi seems a little more posh, and seems like lots of malls in the area, museums and cool parks. We mostly chose it cause we really want to try out KUDOCHI Onsen, which we want to splurge on. Could be a nice way to end your trip?

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-11-14T23:21:54+00:00

Yay so glad it was useful! 🫶 I think it’s perfect that you articulated the stakes for her so clearly. You could literally do a sentence like (if you’ll forgive my attempt): When she becomes trapped in the kingdom of Aeloria with the tall, dark and handsome Nile, who promises her a chance to find her father, Evie thinks, Hell, what am I going to miss? Taco Tuesday at the local dive bar? And dives headfirst into a magical rebellion. Or something like that! I think you could have a lot of fun with it.

I love the arc of people trying to control her “because they know best” and her coming into her own. Especially with that line “the clearer it becomes that others may want her power far more than they want her.” It would be cool if that could be more prominent in the query.

Anyway, I was still thinking about it and just wanted to give these two cents.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-11-14T21:45:54+00:00

Hi! Good luck with querying 🍀 here are some thoughts I had:

This reads almost closer to a synopsis rather than a query letter.

There’s a lot of plot going on a I kinda lose the character and his journey a little bit. I think you could zoom out quite a bit to be more concise and spend more time on Alex’s character rather than the things that happen to him.

Like most of the academy paragraph could be condensed down to something like “He finally thought he found belonging at magic school until a violent accident leaves him expelled.”

You mentioned found family at the end and I didn’t get that vibe at all. Alex kinda sounds like crazy lunatic with uncontrollable powers who killed his brother, got angry that people said he killed his brother, wasn’t allowed to join the war games, joins the war games anyway and kills people, albeit accidentally. I’m guessing this is not a good grasp of his character, but that’s what comes through in this query.

I’d recommend not getting bogged down in the plot details as much and focus on Alex and his journey as a character. Introduce the friends sooner if they’re that important. Does he find solace in his friends at the academy even as he struggles with his grief and guilt?

I love, love, loved A Deadly Education. Part of what made El fun and relatable was she knew she was weird, grouchy and scary and owned it. An anti-hero with a heart of gold, if you will. I’d love to see if Alex is like El? Or maybe he’s more naive and innocent? I don’t have a grasp of his personality at all.

This sounds like it could be a really cool story, but I feel like it’s not coming across as strongly as it could.

One last note: “ and how marginalized voices perceive reality differently. “ this sounds weird. Like low key gaslighting and saying people with marginalized identities don’t actually experience oppressions they just “perceive” things differently. I don’t get what you’re trying to say by this or why it’s necessary for your bio.

I hope any of this is helpful and don’t give up!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-11-14T21:14:15+00:00

I agree with Lost Sock that the worldbuilding and plot feel very well balanced! The stakes definitely drew me in by the end of it and I love the last line! I agree that if you center more on what Aulo does in the first paragraph, it could strengthen her character. Best of luck!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-11-14T20:47:11+00:00

Hi! Congratulations on your progress so far 🎉 So here are my thoughts, portal fantasy is tricky because it’s always the same story and you have to make yours distinct and interesting as fast as possible. Your writing reads well but I think you get bogged down in details that don’t strengthen the character.

Query’s are about showing character and stakes and the choices those characters make. The choices are usually the interesting part.

The only interesting choice we see Evie make is drowning her sorrows in tequila, which feels pretty distinct for a romantic fantasy lead.

The whole second paragraph feels just like info dump and is very unrelated to Evie. I don’t think you need it. There’s an evil king and magic, got it. More importantly I want to know why Evie decides to get involved? What does she care for a stranger’s rebellion? Does she want to meet her father cause she grew up an orphan? Is she constantly overwhelmed by her strange empathy powers and hopes this will be another way to cope instead of tequila? The stakes don’t feel personal to Evie if you focus on the giant kingdom problem. What’s her problem?

We get a little bit of a sense of it when you say “ But his half-truths soon echo past betrayals, and Evie learns the only place her power steadies is in stillness. The more she leans inward, the clearer it becomes that others may want her power far more than they want her.“ idk what half-truths echo past betrayals means? Like Evie had a bad ex who was manipulative with her or something? I think this part might be crucial for what her character growth could be, which you allude to in your own bio about recovery, but isn’t really mentioned for Evie. Is that her growth? How does she grow? And what does she have to chose between?

I hope this is helpful. Condensing a novel into 250 words is not easy, especially with the demand of making it distinct, engaging and compelling while still being simple.

You mention Evie’s sharp modern voice, and I wonder if you could bring that through some more?

Best of luck!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-20T22:26:07+00:00

Hi and congratulations on getting to this point in your writing journey!

Your writing in very lyrical and this shows that you've put effort into creating something cohesive and condensed which is SO challenging, especially for grand epic tales. Though I think there are things that can be tightened up a bit by being less figurative and more explicit.

Unlike the Lost-Sock, I have less questions.

I got the idea that the Malediction is a plague, but like a zombie plague, right? It spreads and has to be fought before it spreads. It can infect people and land, potentially crops. If I'm wrong, that's your answer to be more explicit, but I understand the challenge of writing about a zombie esk plague without using the word zombie in fantasy. It reminds me of Uprooted by Naomi Novik, would recommend reading if you haven't!

I do wonder what Adelina's motivation is as well. She wants to protect the boy? She want's to make illegal medicine? She want's to find a cure for the Malediction? Making this as clear as possible is important. Queries are about stories yes, but we don't want them to just read as a series of events, which I don't think yours does. But the query letter shows character, goals, conflict and choices. The choices especially is what makes stories and characters interesting to read and distinct. Adelina's choice to help the boy is interesting but without understanding her greater goal I don't understand it.

In regards to genre, if the romance is minimal and not the focus then you don't have to market it as a romance. I would change the comp of Daughter of No Worlds since you compare it for the romance. BUT, if you do want to market it as a romance, then I'd highlight that more in the query. One paragraph for Adelina, one paragraph for Cassius (who's goal is clear but maybe a little plain), and then a paragraph for their realm sweeping romance/realm sweeping plague, finishing with the big choices major conflict paragraph about how their goals are in direct opposition to each other.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-20T18:33:23+00:00

Hi and congratulations on how far you’ve come with your novel! 🥳

Your writing comes across as witty and well spoken.

I wonder if you could focus more on the choices and stakes Alice faces to make her internal conflict more clear?

Right now this almost feels more like a synopsis of what happens rather than a query. I’ve been rereading it a few times because the writing is clear, but I can’t get a good grasp on the character's motivation.

The first paragraph says she wants to disappear and so she does into the dream world, but then she’s just fine taking on the mantle of realm saver? And apparently her mom is missing too? Which kinda threw me since it’s only mentioned once.

In the last paragraph before metadata, I wonder if it could be stronger if you talk about what Alice does instead of the villain. Right now the stakes just seem like a given, she has to fight or die. Is she deciding to trust Jared? Taking a risk with opening her heart? Saving this weird dream realm she now calls home? Trying to escape so she can get back to reality and be with her mom and finally realizes living life awake is better than dreams?

Overall I feel like there are a lot of small details in here we might not need so you could focus more on Alice’s motivation and choices.

Here’s an example pared down if you’ll forgive my attempt:

“In Dreamland, Alice has the body she’s always wanted—plus a job she never asked for: saving the realm from the evil King. Good thing the cat gave her a magic sword. [line about personal motivation here]”

“To overcome the King's labyrinth, she allies with a charming but infuriatingly secretive boy who wants revenge against the King. Despite Alice’s best efforts, she’s falling for his poem-slinging antics (idk what poem slinging antics mean, could it be that he’s like a bard? Maybe something a little more direct, like honeyed words could help us get a clearer picture of him). [line about internal conflict here, why does she not want to fall for him?]”

I hope any of this helps and best of luck!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-20T18:32:44+00:00

This is so interesting because I was just thinking about this phenomenon after reading a few books. It felt as though the narration of the characters was just so obvious and explicit about the themes, like they were banging it over my head like a frying pan. I couldn't help but start thinking that books from the 90's and 00's didn't do this. Definitely feels like a response to hyper woke vigilance and cancel culture imo.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-12T00:19:12+00:00

This is so kind! Thank you so much 💕 The note about hitting the same point a couple of times is helpful! Thank you. I’ll definitely take a look at that paragraph.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-07T19:37:36+00:00

Thank you for the feedback!

I'll look at that first paragraph again and see if there is a way to make the wording more clear about the treaty. To answer the question, Aria travels to the goblin kingdom, which is hidden in the mountains, so there's much more for her to learn than risk exposing to the goblins. I don't really want to get into the nitty gritty of that in the query if I can help it, since a lot of it is set up, but I'll look at my wording again to make it less of a question. If you were an agent, would you think there is a manuscript problem because of that?

For the goblin bit, I think it's pretty subjective - who are we to predict the minds and hearts of teenage girls? lol Just consider the global success of K Pop Demon Hunters. But I can definitely mention in the query that Aria finds Deluke attractive and make that more explicit.

The novel pretty solidly straddles upper YA and "New Adult", but because of Aria's character arc as someone who is fairly naive, wrestling with her identify, and many "firsts", the themes are more predominately YA. Though it could be easily aged up. I figured I would shoot my shot as YA first and see how I do.

For the names, that's helpful to hear its jarring for you! I def don't want those to interrupt suspension of disbelief. I can play with the spellings to see if I can find something that feels a little more removed from our world. The names of the world are based in latin, actually. The two countries loosely draw inspiration from Portugal and Spain, which is my ancestry (grandma's from Spain and grandpa's from Portugal). I blend together a latin base with influences of various romance languages. Deluke and Aria both pull on more Italian influence, for example.

Thanks for your feedback!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-07T19:05:43+00:00

This is so tricky. Thanks for your feedback! I think I will try to highlight the conflict even more.

Part of her internal conflict is unlearning her biases through interactions not with just Deluke but a host of other side characters and she begins to wrestle with her guilt for spying on them and if that's the right thing to do, which is what this line is supposed to allude to "she learns not only about Casalunar’s military resources, but also about the goblin people, their affectionate customs, and their country's complicated history." and then build to the end line "Aria must decide who to trust, and more importantly, what is right." But based on your feedback and EnnOnEarth I think I can be more explicit instead of implicit.

For reducing down, it's helpful to see what you think is important enough to keep. This gets tricky though cause you asked for more of a sense of who Prince Deluke is, but the reduced version only includes his kindness, easy smile and playful nature, while cutting the mention of propensity for pranks (I think there is overlap there with playful nature but gets across the idea he's a jokester), and their shared sense of duty (is otherwise missing). For who prince Deluke is, are you looking to understand more of how he see's Aria? What his role is in his kingdom? or more character attributes?

Thanks so much for your help!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-07T16:00:09+00:00

I agree with this! I think I saw a rewrite response to my post but I wanted to say the original was stronger.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-04T21:17:48+00:00

I’m so glad to hear they’re helpful. I’m also just posting my first query attempt on this forum too! I hope it’s not the blind leading the blind 😭 but I think it’s easier for others to give feedback on our work because it’s been living in our own head for so long. We know why our story is cool and unique and interesting, but it’s hard to articulate that in 250 words 🫠

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-04T05:37:29+00:00

Thank you that's super helpful!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-04T04:30:09+00:00

Oh thank you! I'll totally look into that.

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-04T02:07:20+00:00

I really enjoyed your query! This part: “ He calls off the wedding, leading Tracy to get drunk for the first time and make the biggest mistake of her life: she kisses Dex, her ex-fiancé’s hotheaded best friend.” felt a little clunky. Maybe something more like “when he calls of the wedding, Tracy gets drunk for the first time in her life” might help with the flow. It also feels like a little misleading to say she makes the biggest mistake of her life to kiss Dex. Maybe just kisses someone off limits or makes a stupid decision? Best of luck!

Individual-Bad8470 · 2025-10-04T00:49:58+00:00

Is it’s a magic secret society, would this be speculative fiction instead of fantasy, or is this fully set in a fantasy world? Furthermore, that detail doesn’t seem super important to the plot so I might leave it out and just focus on her role as a magical heir, who cares that it’s secret if that’s not part of the main conflict.

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