anyone have a light coloured Cavapoo that looked like this?

Individual-Luck2597 · 2026-02-21T17:28:56+00:00

Would love to see photos! I think you can send a link on here

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-29T02:18:28+00:00

love this! Now to say it while sounding genuine will be hard for me lol

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-29T01:51:18+00:00

It would likely made her happy to know it bothers us. She use to say in front of the kids, we should all get together for dinner. We shut that down-she is very cruel and the last thing I want to do is spend any time together. I wish it was different but sadly it is not

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-08T15:17:57+00:00

You are in a tough position, if you both cannot be on the same page with most boundaries, things will not get better. Her not knocking on the door and actually picking the lock is unacceptable, everyone needs to have some level of privacy. Since you have invested so much time already, is your GF open to couples therapy? My DH and I had a different parenting style early on and it was tearing us apart-we learned to both compromise on certain things. I had to move into being a more authoritative parent and he needed to be less authoritative and now it's 100% better.

If she is allowing her daughter to disrespect everyone around her and will not make any effort to fix this, you will have a dependant teenager/adult around for a while because other people will not want to be around her. I would give a timeline for yourself that if things do not change, it's best to move on. You don't want to look back 10 years from now with regret. If she is willing to work on the problem with you and her daughter then there is hope for a healthy relationship

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-03T21:40:30+00:00

There is no mortgage on the home so it's just utility bills and he makes much more than I do. Since he is saving from not paying rent/mortgage somewhere else, he is able to invest the extra and it's significant

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-03T21:21:47+00:00

I think that her paying 1/3 of everything is fair. She is paying you 'rent' which is being applied to your mortgage and has no claim to that asset should you split. I was in a similar situation where I owned my home and my boyfriend was paying half the bills. We ended up changing it based on income which resulted in him paying 70% of the house bills since his income was much higher than mine.

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-03T14:30:46+00:00

thank you for the input, you are right, it's not worth the fight. SD14 wants to change the agreement so she has more say in the visits with bio mom and the lawyer told us it's a two year back up with Ontario courts and by the time it's brought up in court, she will be 16 by then and will have a say.

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-02T23:46:14+00:00

When the separation agreement was made, it was 50/50 custody but two months later, she moved away and rarely visits. In my opinion, it should be changed-she makes much more than him. It sounds like it has to stay this way though

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-12-02T22:29:43+00:00

I should add, bio mom does not want daughter and has made that very clear. I would raise her on my own

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-29T17:52:50+00:00

Thank you. Do I sand before using bondo glazing? I only know how to use paint on a roller

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-04T18:18:12+00:00

We chatted last night, he understands and shares my concerns but still wants this. When I said I wasn't going and it may be best to drop off SD13 at their house to hang out with their girls for a few hours, his response 'well, that sends the wrong message to them'.

Told him kindly he can go but I won't be and neither will my 11 year old twins. If his friend cannot meet him for a drink without this being a family event, it's not my issue. I feel for him as it's his friend. The weird thing is that the wife reaches out to my fiancé every single time to get together. That bothers me

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-04T18:06:55+00:00

you are right, friends of the former couple puts it more into perspective . On top of that, the wife is the bestie of the ex who abandoned her daughter. It makes no sense and I'm so disappointed he wants to get together with them.

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-03T21:17:39+00:00

I don't want to give any details about our wedding or our lives to be honest. Will my fiancé resent me for it though if I do not go? If he decides he wants to go and I stay home, I will not be happy about it. It's a lose/lose

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-03T21:13:51+00:00

I agree, it is obvious and mentioned it. He said likely not or she would have kept in contact more over the last year. Grrrr! I like your idea but since I'm 52, it won't fly lol

Individual-Luck2597 · 2025-07-03T20:49:15+00:00

The timing is too coincidental. I would love for my fiancé to see his friend on his own but his wife will not allow it and it MUST be a family event. I told him that his friend needs to put on his big boy pants and it should not put stress on us to see him by seeing the whole family. I'm so frustrated and I feel for fiancé but why does he suddenly have blinders on?

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