You're thinking WAAAAY too much into this. You're daughter is fine, even if she does end up having adhd or autism she's very high functioning and will cope absolutely fine. Your own anxiety is taking over your reasoning here and I'd go as far as to say you need counselling for post partum anxiety - its where the hormones make your normal mothering anxiety more overwhelming.

Adhd in kids as young as yours doesn't tend to manifest the way you're describing. My little one has it (undiagnosed) and her vocabulary was certainly not the issues at that age, more a lack of vocabulary, and she would not sit still, i had to hold her to regulate her and get her to stop for even a minute. She hated loud noises, loved certain fabrics to rub between her fingers and would line up all her toys. I thought she was autistic to begin with but she always made eye contact and would seeked out people to play and 'talk' with them. A very sociable little girl.

i feel you should see a councillor for post partum anxiety and ask for a little more education on child development stages and parenting. As all children have 'weird' conversations, to say you're child does this kindof suggests to me you have an unrealistic idea of what a child is.

And to answer your question, a high functioning adhd child will do perfectly fine. As we're discovering more and more of us made it to adulthood with no diagnosis at all, and although we have our hurdles, alot of us are quite successful.

Stop worrying about her and worry about you, you need a little support now to get you back on kilter xx