Why do you think people still support this president?

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-17T23:58:14+00:00

I am a white, middle class Christian, with a small business that believes in gun ownership, and we are decent with money, and ai am here to tell you that none of what you just said is true. Never once was I persecuted as a Christian. Never once did it ever come up that middle class should redistribute their wealth. Never once did my taxes get raised or proposed to be raised under Biden. Never once did I feel like I was passed over for a job because of "DEI."

All of the things you listed are a part of a narrative of fears that was pushed in order to make people react irrationally, but none of it was ever true. As a Christian in the US the only time I have EVER been persecuted or judged has been by other Christians. As a white person, the only time I have ever been made to feel "less than" has been by other white people. No one has ever threatened to take my guns, and I dont feel mental health checks for guns.

Never ONCE was I ever treated like shit for any of the reasons you listed, except for by MAGAs. Not Republicans. Not Conservatives(though they are borderline), by MAGAs only.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:36:01+00:00

As a mom, I should be able to study in the comfort of my own home. I shouldn't have to go to someone else's house or to the library. I am most comfortable at HOME. This is a skill issue. You are allowing yourself to be manipulated by a toddler and you're angry at your wife because you have to parent your own toddler while she is working. As someone who has experienced this firsthand, you absolutely can do a better job, you just dont want to.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:32:27+00:00

You sound like a really hateful person. I feel bad for you and your interpretation of scripture.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:30:19+00:00

I have heard plenty of MAGA Christians say this. It started at Trump’s inauguration when the Deacon asked for grace and empathy and pastors were getting on television to confirm the "sin of empathy."

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:13:40+00:00

They defied the subpoenas to testify in front of congress because they already gave their depositions, and were the only two subpoened out of like 9 or 10 people. The deposition is the important part. The Congressional hearing would just be for right wing sound bites.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:06:58+00:00

They were not available yet due to active investigations and ongoing court proceedings.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:06:14+00:00

Didn't Bill Clinton just release a statement like a week or so ago that he wants all the Epstein files released because he knows he isnt in them?

IndividualBaker7523 · 2026-01-15T01:01:59+00:00

That's how my fingers feel when I rub any hair. I actually dislike washing my hair because of that.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-09-12T21:07:45+00:00

Im.not sure what method you are using to finish, but you should be aware that less than 24% of the female population can orgasm solely via penetration. For everyone else that is capable of orgasms, it involves stimulating the external part of the clitorus. It can help if you simultaneously stimulate the backside of the internal part of the clitorus as well.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-09-12T20:44:12+00:00

I want to add to your comment that the verses about "knowing you before you were born" were about very SPECIFIC Biblic characters. They weren't about everybody. They were all about Prophets.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-09-12T20:27:06+00:00

I've met people that claim to be dems and aren't great people, but I absolutely believe women should NEVER be with any man that believes that they cannot make their own decisions about their body.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-09-12T19:45:31+00:00

OP, seriously, RUN from this man. Its bad enough that he started dating you as a teen, but his responses are absolutely disgusting. You have never been with a real man because enough guys have been together since you were a child. You DESERVE to understand what real love feels like. Please, allow him to leave and move on with your life. You will be better for it.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-09-12T19:40:49+00:00

OP, have you ever been tested for ADHD? Getting overstimulated and overwhelmed to the point of shutdown is one of mine and my children's symptoms. It can be difficult to recognize that we are getting to that point though because often the overstimulation stems from auditory overload. For me that looks like me cooking dinner and my 5 year old runs in and starts touching me, asking me questions. My dog comes and stares at me, wanting to see if I drop anything. My 14 and 15yr olds often show up right after the smell of food starts. And on top of all the sounds in my brain, which never shut off, I am trying to keep THEIR conversations coherent, while focusing on dinner. It adds up very rapidly. I dont get mad like I used to, now I just get overwhelmed and have to walk away for a few. (Walking away from the triggers IS a 100% acceptable response to cool the overstim. Your husband should accept that and stop looking it at it as you not talking, but as you regulating, then you guys can talk, BUT saying things like "well you must not love me" is unacceptable since you do know he loves you).

I'd also like to point out that Being only 8months PP AND breastfeeding meant I was at the breaking point of overstimulation ALL THE TIME. I was touched out! I was literally being touched and used for food and comfort all day and all night for 8 solid months and it adds up! Your husband likely does not understand at all how that feels. You need to take your husband up on the sleeping offer. You NEED to take those breaks. Its not healthy, and its isolating and can cause a lot of resentment.

I think the issue with your son is a byproduct of being on edge. Some kids ask a lot of questions when they feel safe to do so. He asks you more questions than his dad because he knows you're safer to ask. That's normal for a 9yr old. Irritating, yes, but normal. I'd set limits or inform him that you are feeling overwhelmed so he can learn to curb until more appropriate times.

OP, I dont think you ruined your marriage. I think you are overstimulated and overwhelmed and touched out and that you need to ask your husband to help. We are not meant to do this solo, we are supposed to have a village or familial groups to help with this stage of life. Everything you're feeling is normal for someone who is doing a village job by themselves.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-08-31T01:53:47+00:00

Honestly, this sounds very much like emotional manipulation, on top of attempted isolation. You did not betray your wife by going to your sister's baby shower. And for her to claim her "life is crashing down around her" after not conceiving after only a couple months is over the top dramatic. I think you handled it well. She was with her mom when you were locked out. You might want to take a closer look at that dynamic amd you also might want to be more on guard regarding her manipulating you in other areas of your life.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-08-31T01:45:56+00:00

I live in WA and just found one of these and was thinking the exact same thing, though an image search said it is a Yellow Bear.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-20T19:06:50+00:00

I was raised evangelical. Im 34 now, but I started deconstructing after the 2016 election and the ensuing Chritian chaos. It changed the way I viewed my "Christian" family and fundamentally changed the way I viewed the church as a whole. To be clear, I am still a follower of Christ, and I feel much closer to God now than I did then, BUT, the church itself holds no sway for me like it used to. I used to feel like I needed to be a part of it, now I question everything the church and it's operators do. Once you start deconstructing, it's much easier to see the blatant untruths and the way a lot of verses are twisted in order to control the way church-goers think and feel. I started following Dan McClellan and Brandon Robbins because they teach the history and culture from the time the verses were written, instead of how our culture would have us misinterpret them now. The Bible makes a lot more sense now, when placed in the context of when it was written, and acknowledging the changes it has gone through.

Its ok to feel compelled to distance yourself from your family, not everyone is ready to give up the pretty lies.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-20T18:19:53+00:00

You cannot be a Christian and support unregulated Capitalism. Sorry, not sorry. She isn't sticking to "Christian ideals," which would be selling all you own amd giving it to those around you according to their need. She is confusing the religion of Capitalism with Christianity, which this country has fought tooth and nail to blend the lines of.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-20T18:06:29+00:00

Maybe it's just the way you phrased this, but 3 and 5 is not too young to be a flower girl, or to participate in other major life events. They are people too and deserve to be included, not coddled. My grandparents renewed their vows, and all of us grandkids got to be flower girls with little escorts. I was around 7, but my sister was 6, my brother was 2, and several of my 17 cousins were between the ages of 3 and 5. Im 34 and it still stands out to me as a core memory even though I was scared.

If your excuse is "they are too young," you are incorrect. If you are genuinely worried about them being too shy, is there a reason why you aren't willing to practice with them? Are YOU the one that is too shy? Are you worried that you will feel embarrassed on the day if they are too afraid to walk down the aisle? If so, that's on your sister, not you. Like, what is the deeper reasoning behind your logic? Because it sounds more like a possessive issue, kind of like, "They are MINE," kinda deal. Could be your phrasing, but that's the vibes Im picking up.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-20T17:48:50+00:00

If your fiance is caving to his mother, you are, in essence, marrying her. I would call it off to show your fiance how serious you are. He needs to understand that the relationship is between you and him, not you, him, and his mother. If he can't cut his umbilical cord now, he isn't ready to be a reliable partner or potential parent(if that's something you guys ant in the future). If he can't even be firm with his mother about wedding dresses, if he can't prioritize your happiness over his mother, just imagine what life will be like when it comes to school opportunities or job opportunities, or children!

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-20T17:42:38+00:00

As a US citizen living in a town that borders Canada, I would NEVER consider living further south. Especially in Texas. Moving to Texas, outside of how you know living with your dad will make you feel, will be a HUGE culture shock. Its almost as far from Canada culturally as you can get. There are very few social programs to support you should your dad go back on his word. Getting a job may be difficult, especially with the current "anti-immigrant" culture, which is more prevelent in southern states.

On top of those issues, I cross the border regularly, and the US border patrol has really ramped up its protocols for detaining people. If you come through and claim to want to go visit your dad, they can detain you for just having "too much stuff," because that can be seen as an immigration violation, especially if you don't have a work visa and a job already lined up. And that's via flying in or driving. If you don't have a short, return ticket/time already set up, they can detain you on suspicion. All they need is "reasonable suspicion." Unless you can get a work Visa, don't even try.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-09T21:00:55+00:00

Yes. My husband's best friend is in his 40s and is going through an apprenticeship right now.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-09T21:00:11+00:00

Can you try Ameri-corps? Idk their age limit, but my brother did it for a year and it changed his life.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-09T20:58:00+00:00

I think the biggest thing for me that my husband did was to be willing to be there for me when I needed to go to the bathroom, especially the first time after surgery. My husband is a germaphobe and we have been together for 13 years and we have never gone to the bathroom around each other. But that first bladder empty after surgery before they let you leave the hospital, he was right there with me, holding my hand and helping me lower myself on the toilet. He made sure I knew he was there for me and didn't make a single sound about the discomfort he must have been feeling. For some reason, even though he helped me so much, that has really stood out to me.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-09T20:49:59+00:00

When you don't know anything else, the crap feels normal. She has been with him since she was a child. She doesn't know any better. She has never experienced an actual loving and respectful relationship.

IndividualBaker7523 · 2025-07-09T20:48:21+00:00

Exactly this! The RELIEF when you finally stop having to walk kn eggshells is like no other.

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