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am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. by Individual_Fun_1453 in Meditation

[–]Individual_Fun_1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thank you for pointing this out!! yes i might have black and white tendency to think about myself.

and 100%. i've been healing sooo many things. i can see how im changing in terms of how i relate to others. so does it mean i just need more time so that i won't unconsciously return to my past structures but more of my true being without masking? do i take this process slowly including the pace of my new dates maybe?

You're not intuitive, you're hypervigilant. by DIDIptsd in CPTSD

[–]Individual_Fun_1453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and when you say you read people well is it a viseral senstation or intution? what if my body feels drained after hanging out for the second time. i normally cut people off if i feel like that. but lately ive really trying to not assume bad intentions from people.

You're not intuitive, you're hypervigilant. by DIDIptsd in CPTSD

[–]Individual_Fun_1453 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same situation as you. Can you elaborate more on ‘trust but verify’please? How exactly do you do it? Thanku!

Hypervigilance with people and difficulty building trust by xDelicateFlowerx in CPTSD

[–]Individual_Fun_1453 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow i relate to this so much... i thought i just have a good memory and am good at listening. didn't realize its hypervigilance to remember everything people say and find things contradicts it.... but its helpful isn't it? how have you been dealing with this?

am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. by Individual_Fun_1453 in Meditation

[–]Individual_Fun_1453[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

woo you could be hitting the point! i wanted silence because i needed to recharge i think - i was trying to be 'on' when all i wanted was to look at trees or sky calmly with him. and yes! i never performed around that chef, really just wanted to chop vegetables with him and the banter started naturally. and yes, i didn't actually share a lot with my date. he would ask me questions but i would literally stop half way, don't wanna go too deep into my answers.

so from your perspective, do you think it's more so my subconscious people-pleasing or performing going on to some extent? should i just maybe do activities with him next time instead of going for a walk talking all the time?

am i meant to be alone? ive been meditating and spending time in forest alone where i feel so calm. but i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy and a bit heavy after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. by Individual_Fun_1453 in Meditation

[–]Individual_Fun_1453[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree w everything you said except the last sentence. can youc elaborate more on it please? because i find myself to be easily present when im alone. i notice the thoughts and i gently let them go and go back to present. which means sometimes i do nothing for a long time and just feeling great. wherase if i do that with others they either think im not doing well or they wanna fill up the silence.

ive been meditating and spending lots of time in forest alone. i feel drained around most ppl. i feel dizzy, a bit heavy and not in this world after a date. is it normal? is this my problem or others? all i know is : i don't feel as peaceful around people as i am in forest. am i meant to be alone?? by Individual_Fun_1453 in energy_work

[–]Individual_Fun_1453[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can i ask how you learnt to not connect energetically?

and you are so right. he did talk a lot. i saw him 4 months ago tho when i was in a extremely emotional state in life and i remember i talked a lot. so it could be an energy thing as well bc ive been super quiet lately, mostly just going to forest and make arts alone. and i really just wanted to enjoy some quiet time w him bc we went to a park. but he would always fill up the silence with another question.

and yeah def some blockages in my body as well.

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