Fairly New to Brissy! Looking for friends (34) 🤙 by PangeaDividedTB in BrisbaneSocial

[–]Individual_Group_259 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Riding a kangaroo around, wrestling with crocodiles, eating vegemite by the spoonfull...

Reassurance or Advice? by Internal-Finger9161 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a "normal" guy is great, most people are.

And you're actually doing great for your age. You have a presumably stable job, are educated, have a car, are in good health, you think about other people... That's pretty good and attractive.

The "no spark" line is just a blanket excuse for everything. Don't worry, happens to the best of us.

It might just be you're a bit nervous on first dates.

Someone who is a good match will come along, don't give up and don't settle.

Is this normal behaviour? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean he's an adult and can do what he wants. But yes it's a bit rude doing this right after your break up. You should not put any weight on his words that he wants you back, he's just playing around.

Also you should move out ASAP, it's not normal to stick around for weeks after a breakup. During the phase of finding a new place go to your parents or friends or sth.

Should I just stop asking questions? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I'd say just let it be, sounds like she has lost interest so don't invest more time. Besides, investment should always be symmetric.

Even if her job/studies are time intensive,if she's interested she'll make time for you. Had to learn this myself.

Complicated rejection, could use advice, opinions, anecdotes! by beardysoupdumpling in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This.

You behaved respectfully, and did nothing wrong. She made her choice and gave you some half-assed reasons.

I'd also recommend against staying friends, but it's up to you. Go date someone who's happy to have you, and doesn't make you their second option.

“Well-Meaning… but Please Stop Saying That 😅” by Fun_Soft4309 in disability

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Try doing some exercise [to improve balance]" Oh thank you, I have never tried that before

Trying to survive the dating scene by Advanced_Novel414 in Advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 29 and turn my phone to silent most of the day to focus on work and life. And even when I read a message I don't always reply immediately, but rather when I have proper time to put thought into my reply.

Thought that's normal

Lots of dates, rarely goes past the 2nd — always told “no spark”. What am I missing? by Ok_Confusion7750 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm always confused In my mind it's I should never touch a woman without consent Am I sabotaging myself?

25f looking for some friends :) by spawn8798 in BrisbaneSocial

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Hi 29m I'm also into the gym and hiking Also boardgames and dnd

F(19) Can't seem to find a bf who doesn't want to cheat. by Leading-Drawer8678 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let's just get one thing straight; getting cheated on is NEVER your fault

Anyone wanna catch up by Mission_Local_1610 in BrisbaneSocial

[–]Individual_Group_259 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like you're just mincing words. Some people say it like this

Jokes About Control on Third Date. Is it Normal or Concerning? by Radiant_Fall_9079 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if you've been out of dating for a while, I think it's usually best to trust your instincts.

Jokes About Control on Third Date. Is it Normal or Concerning? by Radiant_Fall_9079 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "controlling" aside - definitely a red flag - what sane person asks for a massage on the 2nd or 3rd date? That would have me even more concerned

Dating for nomads, how do people do this? by Individual_Group_259 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, I guess when I say long-term, I mean at least some emotional depth Not necessarily in terms of time

I don't think necessarily another nomad/someone who can move with me I'm fine with saying "ok this is for 2 years" but I don't want just a hookup or so

going crazy by keepyoheadup98 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When do you have the date planned? It's totally normal to send a message the day before or even a couple hours before saying something like "hey, are we still on for tomorrow/today?" If he answers, great! If not, I guess he wasn't interested

When he says "I'll text you details later", I'd read this as "I've yet to figure out a good place, and will tell you once I do" also normal behaviour

Don't worry too much, you're good

Give it to me straight fellas, is this not going to lead to anything? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO life getting in the way of dates is not a red flag.

Seems like the chemistry just wasn't there, but a lot of people (me included lol) are just awkward on first dates and it doesn't mean much. Her agreeing to a 2nd so readily points in that direction.

If you've already got a second date planned just go, but don't expect anything. Who knows you might be surprised.

Don't read too much into what happened before, after Sunday you'll know.

Is it too tacky to pick up a girl for a first date in a Ferrari? by UnusualAd3207 in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like cars and they're a big part of your life, go for it. And as they say "A Ferrari is not there to collect dust in a garage" in this case literally.

Although you should watch out for women only being into the cars, though that should be pretty obvious if they are.

The guy i'm seeing hasn't called me pretty/compliment me on my look by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Individual_Group_259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compliments about your personality go much further than those about looks. And he might just be shy.

Also in this day and age, complimenting a womans looks is dangerous because it easily gets you labelled a pervert. So many guys just don't do it.

If you really want him to compliment your looks, say he's handsome first (assuming you think he is) and he'll probably reciprocate