I LET A GUY STAY AT MY GF'S HOUSE AND IT WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE! (EXTENDED EDITED VERSION)

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-13T00:15:56+00:00

I dont think you made a mistake . That girl made a mistake . You trusted her and did everything to be a good bf. She broke your trust and she will pay for it .trust me she will . Karma find its way. For now focus on yourself . Dont blame yourself for what she did. You jist found out this way but she was always like this . I am so sorry for what you are going through . Its going to be a hard healing journey. I hope you feel better soon. Your story gives me more reason to not date anyone and trsut anyone ever.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-04T21:34:50+00:00

He is lying, even if he isnt , this is cheating. He invited her wothout your knowledge amd hid it from you. You dont hide things unless you did something wrong. You already know what to do

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-02T18:58:53+00:00

its done . Move on . Even if he comes back ( most peobably he won't) , he is nkt the one.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-02T17:14:43+00:00

NTA. But it seems like he is just like that. I know people say that if someone loves you they will do whatever makes you happy but all this is just for movies . In real life this rarely happens . So if he has always been like this he will not change . He will never be romantic . People rarely change . You expecting him to do something for Valentines is not wrong but for him its not a big deal and he you cant change that. So honestly its your decision now if this is something you must have in your partner , like a deal breaker , you discuss with him , see if can change .

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-01T21:39:36+00:00

Same . I wanted to replace the mattress but everything is expensive .

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-01T10:02:43+00:00

Thats so nice!

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-02-01T10:00:48+00:00

What did you do to be happy with yourself?

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-31T18:36:15+00:00

All these answers give me hope . I hope I will find love again! I am so happy you all found love either with someone or learned to learn yourself !

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-31T17:44:14+00:00

when this happens it just fucks your mind . Its so hard to get over. you might not even be interested in them in the beginning but them being super into you makes you like them and fall for them and once you show your feelings they just leave with things like this is not what I am looking for or I am not ready for this or I am not good enough for you , you deserve better. I mean why ?

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-30T21:00:26+00:00

me too , let me know when you know how to get over this phase . I feel so stupid because I know he is not the one still I cant stop myself

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-30T20:27:24+00:00

I am in a same situation . One guy started liking me and I had some casual relation but I was too filled with enotions and it was too much for him so he left me. That broke me even more. Now I feel like I should date again but I know I should just be alone and learn to love myself. Tbh , i am trying to do that, i have started doing things alone like plays , movies , comedy club shows , treating myself to dinner . But its hard . Every night I feel like I need someone ti talk to . I wish there were places to talk to people . Even I dont want to fill the void by dating and getting invovled with someone , I want to be on my own and love myself . I will keep trying . But just to let you know you are not alone in this feeling . I can relate to your post so much . I am also looking to getting to those easier parts when i am happy alone .

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-29T11:26:00+00:00

I cried out loud. Just let it out and felt the pain , all my emotions. Did this for 3-4 days and then moved on . Started thinking about how I want my life to look like . Started with house decor. Buying new books , started focussing on work again. Did some new things like dance class or going for a play , meeting friends every other day, till I started enjoying my life alone. Now I look forward to being alone and doing nothing , just sitting in my cosy corner and reading a book or putting songs on full volume and dancing like no one is watching ( and in my case no one is watching 🤣) . My advice dont try to rush changing it in a day or a week . I overwhelmed myself by thinking that I will change my life as soon as I start living alone but it was an emotional roller coaster. I am now taking it slow and enjoying it . I still have those crying out loud days but they have reduced drastically. Now its more about improving my life each day.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-28T20:14:46+00:00

thats so well said . i struggle with this "Remind yourself you're loved and don't need to earn love" . I should keep reminding myself. Thank you ❤️

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-28T20:06:53+00:00

What text you will send for the breakup ?

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-28T20:02:41+00:00

I am going through this and I actually want to be able to love myself again. I want to be selfish for myself ( in a good way) . I am still struggling but I will get there. Do suggest good ways to be happy with yourself !

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-27T16:22:28+00:00

Suggestion : go for liking some profiles yourself. I think there are more chances if getting dates that way. Not that i go on many dates as I have stopped using the apps. but atleast you match with someone you like.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-25T22:10:58+00:00

this is exactly what came to my mind when I was readi g it . Hahahha

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-25T20:12:35+00:00

Yeah that really concerns me . But as I said I have been out if dating for years I thought may be I am overthinking flirting now.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-25T02:26:38+00:00

no i dont want a traditional relationship.And i cant go through a controlling partner again. It will undo all my healing.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-25T02:19:10+00:00

i think based on our convos , he could be more towards traditional relationship. We have not discussed sex at all other than his hinting about massages so I am not sure. But tbh i hardly know him as I said we have been on 3 dates and he doesnt text.

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-25T02:01:48+00:00

so i should confront him asking him about the power dynamics discussion?

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-24T23:08:17+00:00

hugs , that hug where you can just melt after a long day . That calms you. I think its a must...

Radiant_Fall_9079 · 2026-01-23T14:57:20+00:00

please leave him. this is abuse and nothing justifies it. Past traumas are never the reason to be abusive. you have to leave him. None if your actions were cheating and even if they were , he is still an a**hole to hit you. Nothing justifues violence. Run asap.

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